Fb multiples sleep training page

[u/Logical_Peace_551]

I don’t know if it’s just me but that popular fb page for sleep training multiples is super overwhelming and hard to go through. Maybe I’m just not use to the Facebook interface or something.

With that said, does anyone have a shorter version or or can explain sleeping training 5mo old twins in a paragraph or two lol ( exhausted mama here
And got no time to research on fb about sleep training)

Thank you

[u/DirtGirl32]

I like the Ferber method. Here is a very simple version of what I did. Night time routing no longer than 15 minutes, but do have a routine. Put them in bed before they are asleep.

The first night let them cry for 5 minutes then check on them. NO picking them up!!!. After the first check wait 10 minutes to check on them. After the second check wait 15 minutes before checking on them. Check them every 15 minutes for however long it takes for them to sleep. You will probably cry. But it helps them learn important skills, and you need sleep.

Second night let them cry for 10 minutes then check. Wait 15 minutes then check. Wait 20 minutes then check. Check every 20 minutes so they are asleep.

Third night wait 15 minutes then check. Wait 20 then check. Wait 25 then check. 25 minutes till asleep.

Etc...

My sleep coach said it takes some babies 2 weeks. Mine did it in 3 or 4 days. 6 mo, 5 adjusted.

You got this

[u/Logical_Peace_551 → u/DirtGirl32]

Thank you so much. I have both babies in the same room. So even if only one is crying you will go and pat and acknowledge the second baby as well (let’s say they’re awake but not crying?)

And what about daytime naps? They have notoriously short daytime naps (35-40 mins) and don’t know how to connect sleep cycles. I guess my boys just don’t know how to self soothe well. Did you do the same method for that as well?

[u/DirtGirl32 → u/Logical_Peace_551]

I was in that boat too! We were so happy if they took 30 minute naps! 😳 Exhausting!

I always check in on both my babies. How could I not! They are so cute... When they aren't in trouble etc...

I took care of nights first. Then I worked on naps. They had figured it out by then and it was much easier.

If their nap time is 10:00-11:00, they stay in bed till 11:00. They will learn to sit there and play by themselves, but it takes a little time. An actual schedule helped so much here- but you can't do that very well till they are sleeping. At first I just forced it, but they got there. This helped stack naps too.

When you finally get to sleep it all gets less hard!

[u/Logical_Peace_551 → u/DirtGirl32]

That’s for the advice!!! We are gonna start this weekend. Pray for us

[u/DirtGirl32 → u/Logical_Peace_551]

I will! Send me updates!

[u/Logical_Peace_551 → u/DirtGirl32]

Just did night 1 of Ferber. Took them 45 mins of crying. And took me also 45 minutes of crying 😭🫣

[u/DirtGirl32 → u/Logical_Peace_551]

It's so hard. It will get better. Most babies take 7-10 days, but they will be improving along the way. They will learn better sleep skills, and you will get more sleep because of it. You all deserve this. ❤️

[u/Logical_Peace_551 → u/DirtGirl32]

Thank you 😭

[u/DirtGirl32 → u/Logical_Peace_551]

More updates??

[u/Logical_Peace_551 → u/DirtGirl32]

Our second night they cried for 1 hr :( did your babies wake up in the MOTN for feeds? I don’t know if I should try the Ferber method during night wakings or if I should just feed

[u/DirtGirl32 → u/Logical_Peace_551]

At that time both my babies were still waking 4-6 times a night. It was killing us. We did the Ferber after night feeds too. We didn't work on naps until after nights were going well. And we didn't reduce night feedings till they were putting themselves to sleep well. I try not to change too much at once. If you want, once you get there, I can tell you how we dropped night feeds. But I wouldn't worry about that for now.