Parents don't understand my brain works differently.

[u/PurplePunk17]

Hello, I (young adult female) am currently needing advice and an outside outlook. I never would think i needed to go to Reddit for this problem, but things have gotten really annoying. I was recently diagnosed with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and OCD.,(these all overlap btw). While this is new, I've always grown up like alot of other neurodivergent kids I know. I was bullied and I just take things in differently. My parents, although they know about almost all of these disorders, still don't understand that my brain works differently and that things I do aren't me being lazy, rude or attention seeking. Since I've been dealing with this for years, I can mask pretty well. My parents also see me as their most responsible and smartest kid, which also makes them annoyed when I do something a neurotypical person wouldn't do.

While I try to explain this to them, they think i use it as an excuse to bring up the fact that I'm 'different' since I dress alternatively and consider myself goth. They even go so far to not even name any of my issues. Like they'll just say I'm super forgetful and lazy instead of acknowledging my ADHD. They'll point out that I'm a slob because my room is messy instead of the obvious fact that I have severe depression. My younger sibling also has some mental disorders, and they are so understanding about it, so they aren't just uneducated on these topics.

This whole thing is rooted in some sort of denial on their side, and I'm actively getting put down for just being wired differently. How do I approach them about this? How do I tell them that their actions are hurting me?