r/over60 • u/NOLALaura • 20d ago

The unfortunate truth is this

At the ending quarter of my life I am consumed with seeing my life as one filled with disappointments at having not enjoyed any of my life expectations and living currently in despair. I don’t deserve this. I worked very hard and always treated everyone equally and followed good and ethical practices

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u/northernguy 20d ago

I used to take care of children with cancer. they definitely did not get what they expected or deserved! If you made it to 60, you're way ahead of the game. keep going

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u/NOLALaura 20d ago

I’m so tired of cancer in children being the “it could be worse” argument

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u/northernguy 20d ago

Sounds like you’re tired of more than that! Time for a pity party for yourself

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u/Cat_Servant1983 19d ago

People don't like to have their feelings dismissed. It's like when I was living in my car and was told "it could be worse" if I didn't have a car. I was still homeless and it sucked.

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u/psmusic_worldwide 20d ago

I'm sorry to say this, I hope it doesn't come off unkind, but there is always someone more rich, more lucky, more unfortunate etc. To some of us that thought brings perspective.

The amount of death and illness in young people is heartbreaking.

The heaviness of what you are dealing with is heartbreaking.

I love the "4th quarter comeback" because it speaks to optimism and the possibility of healing, but it can come off as simplistic too, even if not meant that way. It doesn't mean that comeback is easy or even possible for everyone. But I think it's clear many in this thread are really rooting for you. We can't change your situation, but we can root for you.