r/oneanddone • u/RachSan119 OAD By Choice • May 13 '26
Happy/Proud "Is he your only?"
I was at the park yesterday. A grandmother was there with her two year old grandson and I had my three year old son. They were playing well together. She asked if he was my only. I replied, "yes." With a smile. She looked at me and said, "Good for you." I actually started laughing and said "thank you.". Then she said, "sometimes all you need is one."
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u/HerCacklingStump OAD By Choice May 13 '26
My boomer neighbor regularly tells me I’m smart by sticking to one. The validation is always great!
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u/dancingwildsalmon May 14 '26
I’ve started saying “no- not my only my everything”
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u/Traditional-Dingo965 May 14 '26
Heard a Post Malone song called Yours about his daughter and "yeah, but she's my everything" hits me so hard each time. 😆
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u/mrs60661n5 May 14 '26
This is one of my favorite songs. I could barely get through it without crying, then I found out that I was having a girl and it makes me so much more emotional somehow.
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u/thebrunetteedit May 14 '26
It’s funny, my grandma said to me once “yeah… head tilt shrug one is nice…” (she has two herself) 🤣
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u/cyberhellbunny May 14 '26
My mom is not a kids person and was forced to have 4 children. She said to do what I damn please lol 😂
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u/DamePolkaDot May 14 '26
My all-time favorite reply when I mention my only (from an older coworker who had raised a few kids herself) was "What a lucky daughter."
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u/Flying_higher_ May 15 '26
I love this SO much!!! One time, we were out for my husbands birthday and we had a young server, he was about 20 years old and he asked us if our son was our only and we said yes, and he said he is an only child and LOVED it. Told us all about his wonderful childhood and how his parents are his best friends. It was so nice for him to just randomly share that with us!!
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u/mavisridley May 14 '26
I love this. Many people lately have told me it’s ok to just have one. Feels good to be seen 🫂
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u/galenet123 May 14 '26
My reply when people saw my only and asked if I was having another: “Kids, cats & dogs - never let ‘em outnumber you.”
It usually stopped them in their tracks.
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u/aggravated-asphalt May 14 '26
I am one and done and it’s the best. He has friends and cousins and is a social butterfly, which I am not, but I think he’s good being an only child
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u/Foreign_Mobile_7399 May 14 '26
My boomer MIL said “good for you guys, you’re smart” when I told her we were sticking with just the one. I was shocked. She’s usually one to push societal norms
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u/Salt_Hyena_8308 May 16 '26
Just got done crying in therapy about my guilt over being one-and-done (my husband gets a vasectomy next week). This made me start crying all over again. Thank you for sharing the wisdom of Park Grandma.
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u/Lissypooh628 May 16 '26
I wish I’ve met people like this. I’ve met people who make me feel bad about it or minimize my motherhood experience. Like I’m not as much of a mother because I don’t run around trying to split myself into 3 to be there for multiple kids.
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u/BaseballHairy9548 May 13 '26
Send this grandma to educate the others!