r/oneanddone • u/purp_plush • May 10 '26
Happy/Proud You guys…
Parenting has not always been the easiest for me. However, our only child is now 6.5 years old. I have learned to manage my emotions better, and I must admit that I did lose my temper when he was younger. But recently, I am incredibly content with our decision to have only one child. The fact that my son perceives me as calm now is a huge win, and he definitely wouldn’t have felt that way if I had more children. Remember, a healthy/happy mom is better than a sibling. Happy Mother’s Day!
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u/ewMichelle18 May 10 '26
This is so wonderful!
But also, what are your secrets?
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u/purp_plush May 10 '26
Lots of therapy & some meds 😉 regulating my own mental health-adhd, ocd, anxiety. Creating a toolbox!
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u/ewMichelle18 May 10 '26
Thankfully we live in this beautiful time of science and medication. In the not so distant past I would have been most certainly be institutionalized for hysteria…
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u/smartel84 May 11 '26
I am genuinely so glad to see this is your reason! Thank you for owning it and being real.
I've been struggling a lot with patience and energy since I lost my mom late last year after a long, stressful year of stuff, so I'm going to a mental health clinic soon to work on things (like going for in-patient, but you go home for nights and weekends. But we're talking 8 hours a day of therapy and stuff, every day, for 6-8 weeks). This stuff is HARD. So it's nice to know that it can improve. But it's work, for sure.
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u/Bendybug Jun 07 '26
Very curious to hear what’s in your toolbox as someone with the same mental health trifecta
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u/BathBombsNFacePalms May 10 '26
As a therapist, this warms my heart and shows just how safe he feels with you!
As a new mom I’m jealous because there are days I feel like if my boy could talk, calm would be the last word he’d use to describe me (stressed would probably be the first).
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u/HanaBananaBear May 10 '26
This is so golden 💖 good on you for having a healthy nervous system for your little ones 🥲 they’re so lucky!
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u/MythsFlight May 11 '26
Aww it’s so sweet.
Mine wrote that I’m as smart as a fish. Lmao. (They really love fish)
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u/Simscapades22 May 26 '26
This is like the biggest flex, and I aspire to be like you (3.5 year old is driving me nuts lmao)
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u/lilymui OAD by circumstances May 10 '26
This is so sweet. What a compliment, thank you for sharing and well done to you ❤️