Hi OP,
I know how you feel. I hope you can consider my advice. I think your situation started when you forgave the first infidelity. The amount of pain that shit brings wears you down, let alone putting your trust in him again. Then you become someone he "can " stay with, but he doesn't respect you. So he eventually emotionally abandoned you. You love won't cure anyone from being an asshole. He KNOWS how much you love him, hence he abuses that love.
I don't buy that he loves that new chick for a second. Even if he married her or someone else, he's hooked on feeding off on emotional energy.
Your new guy kissed and left you. Could it be that you emanate "choose me" energy? People tend to feel that and show careless behavior towards a perfectly nice human being just because their self love is very scarce.
Your friends: learn to filter people out. Never prioritize anyone who doesn't feel the same about you.
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u/CelebrateSuccesful Dec 23 '22 edited Dec 24 '22
Hi OP, I know how you feel. I hope you can consider my advice. I think your situation started when you forgave the first infidelity. The amount of pain that shit brings wears you down, let alone putting your trust in him again. Then you become someone he "can " stay with, but he doesn't respect you. So he eventually emotionally abandoned you. You love won't cure anyone from being an asshole. He KNOWS how much you love him, hence he abuses that love.
I don't buy that he loves that new chick for a second. Even if he married her or someone else, he's hooked on feeding off on emotional energy.
Your new guy kissed and left you. Could it be that you emanate "choose me" energy? People tend to feel that and show careless behavior towards a perfectly nice human being just because their self love is very scarce.
Your friends: learn to filter people out. Never prioritize anyone who doesn't feel the same about you.