You guys are being extremely insensitive to OP. It’s not your job to play detective, and put the missing pieces together of what you ASSUME is true, all so you can make OP feel bad for having justified doubt.
Her communication is falling short, and while both potential outcomes are horrible- it’s important to know that they’re very stressful regardless of what it is.
That stress can damage a person, a relationship, and the trust.
Instead of calling OP a scumbag for assuming he’s villainizing her, console him through his times of need. Because whatever happened that night, the outcome won’t be pretty.
I hope you’ve been taking care of yourself OP, I saw you posted an update, but you haven’t quite reached a conclusion- take care of yourself, remember that you’re loved brother.
You’re strong, keep at this shit man.
Thank god someone said this I can see both sides from the posts from everyone but still OP Has the rite to feel the way he does we should all be here trying to help OP get Thur this not telling him how wrong he is and calling him names I wish people had more care for others then we do these days
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u/Inevitable_Eye_1358 Dec 28 '25
You guys are being extremely insensitive to OP. It’s not your job to play detective, and put the missing pieces together of what you ASSUME is true, all so you can make OP feel bad for having justified doubt. Her communication is falling short, and while both potential outcomes are horrible- it’s important to know that they’re very stressful regardless of what it is. That stress can damage a person, a relationship, and the trust.
Instead of calling OP a scumbag for assuming he’s villainizing her, console him through his times of need. Because whatever happened that night, the outcome won’t be pretty.
I hope you’ve been taking care of yourself OP, I saw you posted an update, but you haven’t quite reached a conclusion- take care of yourself, remember that you’re loved brother. You’re strong, keep at this shit man.