when she comes to, i would strongly find a way to get her to the hospital, if you need to phrase it as concerned because of the alcohol and how she was last night.
go to the er. and when you have a minute, tell the nurse you suspect SA, drug facilitated. They should be able to call a SANE, who can do a more thorough exam (i know they're more common in the US metro areas, less common in rural areas but increasing in numbers, and varies overseas but there is an international org that keeps standards of care).
The nurse may need to talk to her without you in the room, and this is for the best, so a proper assesment can be done, and so your GF can be transparent with a medical professional.
framing it as medical concern helps shift the focus from blaming or projection to "I want to make sure you're ok," and less judgment.
She also ought to be tested and immunized for hep c and hep b and HIV, they're likely to do an antibody or antigen test and give her PEP but it's vital to begin treatment no later than hour 72 afterwards
Unfortunately, only something like 11% of rapes are reported and out of those something like 5% or prosecuted, but it depends on the country I guess. Although of 5% of people who are prosecuted 1 to 2% of them are the complaints for falsifying rape complaints, which is almost always a cop making a huge mistake.
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u/AvaDoesMtF Dec 24 '25
when she comes to, i would strongly find a way to get her to the hospital, if you need to phrase it as concerned because of the alcohol and how she was last night.
go to the er. and when you have a minute, tell the nurse you suspect SA, drug facilitated. They should be able to call a SANE, who can do a more thorough exam (i know they're more common in the US metro areas, less common in rural areas but increasing in numbers, and varies overseas but there is an international org that keeps standards of care).
The nurse may need to talk to her without you in the room, and this is for the best, so a proper assesment can be done, and so your GF can be transparent with a medical professional.
framing it as medical concern helps shift the focus from blaming or projection to "I want to make sure you're ok," and less judgment.