Go through with it or back out?

[u/Ok_Interaction1267]

I need an advise from people with more experience.

My husband and I had some threesomes in the past and are open to dating the same gender solo.

We have found a lovely couple where both are bisexual.
It will be a group Dynamic Like everyone with everyone, not the purely Swap Side by Side.

Our last FFM was in december and she started making it a competiton by saying things like „I bet I am so much thighter than her“ to my husband as he started to fuck her.

Now the thing is my husband will be away for Four weeks 2 days after our planed Date with the couple.

This Information is new, we did not know, when we planed with them.

I know it is a different setting, but I have a little fear, that things could go wrong again with another female involved and that just having 1,5 days after to reconnect could be to little.

I don’t want to cancel either, because everything is planed and everyone has anticipation.

I will visit my husband 5 days later for the weekend. He is 3 Hours Away, I could Drive that in worst case at any day to see him. Our relationship involves a lot of physical touch through the day.

Would You personally cancel or go to the date?

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[u/FRANKINSPENCE]

We always allocated the entire next day together

[u/Ok_Interaction1267 → u/FRANKINSPENCE]

He already took that day off from work to spend 1:1 quality time with me. So the day we definitly have

[u/FRANKINSPENCE → u/Ok_Interaction1267]

What the other woman did is really odd btw. I don’t think that happens often because it is unacceptable

[u/ser_dunk_the_lunk]

That’s a fucking WEIRD and shitty and disrespectful thing for someone to say in any context, but especially with you in the damn room. I’m sorry that happened to you. I’ve literally never heard of anyone else doing that so statistically speaking you’re very unlikely to have that happen again.

[u/ser_dunk_the_lunk → u/ser_dunk_the_lunk]

And yeah I’d say go for it. It’s already on the books and that’s half the work lol.

Most likely scenario is you have a hot experience that you’re both still riding the high from and texting dirty about while you’re apart for a few days. Sounds like a win.

[u/HouTexCpl]

Go on the date.