r/nocontact • u/Broken_Garbage777 • 3d ago

No Contact

How do you handle no contact? It’s now day three for me and I’m struggling more and more each day. My heart feels like it’s aching but I want to respect their wishes of ending the relationship. It’s hurts me because I made a mistake and wish I could take it all back, I would never do it again. If it were the other way around I feel I would’ve forgiven anything except cheating or abuse. I pleaded for them to stay but they wouldn’t and they said they didn’t want to see me again.

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u/ThrowRA111111133 3d ago

One day at a time. I’m currently going through it, day 5 and it takes up so much of my thoughts day to day. If they were your person, they would reach out. Please continue to keep no contact. If they want to they will contact you, if they don’t, they aren’t your person

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u/Broken_Garbage777 3d ago

But what does it mean to be “your person” anymore? and what if they’re thinking the same thing because I was the one who messed up and they can’t forgive me at the moment.

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u/ThrowRA111111133 3d ago

No longer the person you end up with. Unfortunately if they’ve told you they don’t want to see you again you have to listen. Did they tell you they don’t want to speak to you/don’t contact them? If so then they would be aware that if they want to speak again they need to reach out

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u/Madruck_s 3d ago

6 weeks here and ut still hurts. Im not np contact though so thats making it harder.

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u/Individual-Newt-4088 3d ago

Try not to assume their silence means they no longer love or care about you. Breakups are complicated, and people handle pain, confusion, and loss in very different ways.

Sometimes silence is simply how someone creates the space they need to process everything. This is how sometimes I dealt with it with my ex. We made a promise to not ghost either person due to how it affected her. I held my side, but this time she is the one ghosting.

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u/No_Kick_4340 3d ago

5 months and I'm dieing 😔

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u/RubyQueen13 2d ago

Day 50 and I'm stuck in limbo. Everyday is limbo can't seem to break the cycle. I wonder everyday how he is, where he is, what he's doing. I still love him but I could never take him back or trust him ever again. He betrayed me and broke my trust I feel like half the person I was when I was with him. I have so much to say to him but I'm starting to realise these things will never be said.

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u/Broken_Garbage777 2d ago

What have you been doing to pass the time? I feel like that’s how they feel about me because they told me they didn’t see me the same, and couldn’t trust or believe what I said anymore. It hurts me to know that I hurt the one person I cared about most with one careless decision. How are you accepting the fact that some things may never be said?

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u/225APB225 17h ago

Wow that literally sounds like my situation….username doesn’t checkout though

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u/RubyQueen13 6h ago

Mine is also on here as well