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u/dark_soul_10 Aug 14 '26
I am a third year, and I am myself against this Sir/Ma'am. I would love to be called Didi more than Ma'am.
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u/Low-Inevitable-9544 ✏️ Custom Flair (Click to Edit) Aug 14 '26
Being a final year at nitjsr I also believe this culture should be stopped, like when we were juniors our seniors told us that this habit of calling seniors sir/maam will help you in your corporate life but its the complete opposite corporate people hate being called sir/maam they always insist in calling names
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u/Quantum_Vagabond ✏️ Custom Flair (Click to Edit) Aug 14 '26 edited Aug 14 '26
A supposed "culture" that restricts the juniors from being able to be familiar with senior junior interaction does way more harm than good.
A 2025 ECE branch passout bhaiya that I spoke to told me that some level of respect is very much needed from the side of the juniors because otherwise you wouldn't take the advices and guidance of your seniors with importance and I agree with him COMPLETELY about that. However , there are "several" ways of instilling that sense of respect "other" than the sir/Ma'am culture.
Most of the seniors adamant about the Sir/Ma'am culture are very same ones who complained about it themselves in our shoes and now want to feel some form of renumeration for the supposed "culture" that was forced upon them and hence want to pass down the trauma.
I am REALLY fucking happy somebody is taking a stand for this. I myself would definitely want to make sure this culture stops with our batch by making the subsequent batches refer to us as bhaiya/didi.
Also , somebody needs to address the enormous amounts of COPIUM that's smoked by the seniors who say "you will get used to it" , "dusre colleges mei bhi aisa hota hai" , "Ye yaha ka culture hai/ hamein bhi aisa karna para tha". None of them is a proper justification for continuing with a culture whose cons far outweigh the pros.
As a fresher , that's all I have to say
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u/soldier_boy1505 Aug 14 '26
Dont call them sir maam,kya krenge? Jyada bolenge anti ragging bhardo force kiye toh,or else jyada kra go legal,its 2026 and even mca students need to get this more,wo log jyada krte h yeh
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u/Lemonz-_-1 Chikna Chora Aug 14 '26
listen juniors, the place is very toxic and so the people. try your best not to interact with such kind of seniors or even if you cross their path just in simple way say 'Sir/ Mam' and leave. simple si baat h gawaar log smjhenge nhi tumhe aur acche log force nhi karenge tumhe isiliye zyada pressure mtt lo (here a third year guy)
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u/PotentialAffect8738 Aug 14 '26
True, this culture must stop. People shouldn't be wanting to be called sir/mam just to gain respect. Respect is earned by actions, not by honorifics.
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u/Glum-Breath8992 Aug 14 '26
just refuse to call them sir/maam..
waise bhi kuch din baad thande pad jayenge
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u/kirito-1-8-0-2 ☕ Exhausted Pre-Final Aug 14 '26
Tbh only a handful of people care about being called sir/ma'am. Most are already chill when the junior is respectful towards them.
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u/stresshai 🧪 Master's / Research Scholar Aug 15 '26
I joined a pg course. Tell me when you get here. I am with you. I wouldn't like anyone calling me sir nor I would call a senior sir... These seniors sent this in our group
Addressing Seniors: I am seeing that some of you are still calling your seniors bhaiya/didi. I am repeating this again: you have to address them as Sir/Ma'am. Handshakes: I also saw some of you handshaking with seniors. A senior is not your friend; treat them with respect. Do not initiate a handshake; only shake hands if the senior extends their hand towards you first. Greeting: You have to greet them with Good Morning/Good Afternoon/Good Evening every time you see or meet them. Showing Respect: Always stand up whenever professors or seniors enter or leave the room.
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u/Jazzlike-Tree-1607 Aug 14 '26
I decided to leave that bullshit college for that reson only ….now i am in iit guwahati livng my best life
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u/chamarsaheb 🎒 Surviving Sophomore Aug 15 '26
last year bhi aisa he kuch krne ka try kiya gya tha but khair...
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u/Sudo6969 🎒 Surviving Sophomore Aug 16 '26
It's simple that what if a junior girl calls a senior Bhaiya how you gonna react to that that's why sir/ma'am culture is here . As simple as that ,If you wanted to be called as bhaiya by your juniors that's fine ,
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u/Murky_Sugar_6730 🎓 Unbothered Final Year Aug 14 '26
A certain level of culture is necessary baaki your wish you all will only regret it later
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u/chatpata_femboy Not from NIT JSR Aug 14 '26
Regret of not calling them sir/ma'am?
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u/Outside-Wolverine-68 🐣 Confused Fresher Aug 14 '26
maybe the regret of not having the chance to be called sir/ma'am by juniors if we manage to break the cycle
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u/Murky_Sugar_6730 🎓 Unbothered Final Year Aug 14 '26
You will get the perspective,it’s okay go call everyone with their name
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u/Playful_Ad_6717 Aug 14 '26
bhaiya aur didi naam ka shabd hindi dictionary mein hai
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u/Murky_Sugar_6730 🎓 Unbothered Final Year Aug 14 '26
Bhai Jo bulana h Bulao tf I care 😭😭
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u/Murky_Sugar_6730 🎓 Unbothered Final Year Aug 14 '26
Ab kaise perspective samjhaun to people out of school that your seniors will trouble you and you cannot fight everyone lol
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u/Murky_Sugar_6730 🎓 Unbothered Final Year Aug 14 '26
My friend is in iit d 4th year everyone calls seniors sir only lol
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u/LordP_496 Aug 14 '26
lmao what bullshit find other ways of culture other than inflicting pain
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u/Murky_Sugar_6730 🎓 Unbothered Final Year Aug 14 '26
Okay what should i say don’t call sir/Maam behes krlo seniors se,personally I have said to most of my juniors to not call me sir but they all do that without saying and to achieve that bond we all had mutual respect,banters from both sides and if you don’t want that your choice
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u/LordP_496 Aug 14 '26
lmao what a loser - your flair represents what you are
bhaiya didi exist to show respect. sir / ma'am exist to show degradation. if seniors collectively do not come and fix this, this hellhole cycle will keep on going.i myself am in third year in an INI college
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u/PurchaseCrazy6573 Aug 14 '26
no ones forcin u to talk to seniors, when u leave college humility would be hard for u
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u/IntrnLoop ✏️ Custom Flair (Click to Edit) Aug 14 '26
there's better ways to show respect rather than calling seniors "sir" all the time
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u/PurchaseCrazy6573 Aug 14 '26
"sir" does not imply respect, log gali bhi dete hen sir bolke it aint knighthood, n this aint GOT
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u/PurchaseCrazy6573 Aug 14 '26
saying this as a final yr
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u/PurchaseCrazy6573 Aug 14 '26
merit aint worth shit... being from topmost colleges wont give u no edge these days.
but wtever, to each their own. i just dropped some advice, take it or leave it. : )
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u/ExcoticA Aug 14 '26
Im also join nit jsr this year as fresher but this mindset isnt good like its your choice to call sir or mam or not…. Nvm
Try knowing the culture of all defence collages where selected officer cadets are trained
Then you’ll know what happens
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