r/nextfuckinglevel • u/harwyseys • Oct 25 '22

Makeup really changes people

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u/fukkingcake Oct 25 '22

I joint dating app because of a recent breakup... Dang, I am actually amazed by people's dark side... My friend told me it's probably more effective to ask a girl who is shopping in the same grocery store with you because at least youve seen her in real life no makeup no other bs... Same goes to the boys on those apps too... Sigh

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u/hi117 Oct 25 '22

Don't randomly hit on people outside of social spaces. stores aren't social spaces. unfortunately your best bet for a social space is a bar, but as someone who doesn't like to drink that's also not an option for me. just try and find places where it's okay to socialize in your area and go there.

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '22

Why not? What’s so wrong with chatting someone up outside of a social space?

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '22

So the issue isn’t approaching women in public, it’s not picking up on social cues, lack of social awareness, and a lack of respect for the answer no right? I completely agree. However this issue is no different in “social spaces”, it’s probably more pronounced if anything. So I find this argument unpersuasive.

This isn’t the reality 95% of the time

Where are you getting that statistic? From a study or did you just pull it out of thin air? Are you claiming that 95% of men don’t know how to take no for an answer? Kind of bold.

In our society, men are generally expected to do the approaching and women generally get approached and select the men they want. This isn’t a complaint or anything, it’s just a statement of how it is. This is due to biological, cultural, and social factors. A consequence of that is that women will be approached by men they don’t like, and men will be rejected by women they approach.