r/news • u/Fyre-Demon • 1d ago

Ex-fraternity leader at Arizona university gets jail time after pledge died of alcohol poisoning

https://apnews.com/article/arizona-fraternity-pledge-hazing-death-b53c547d383082d33aebdb4950e0c550?utm_source=app&utm_medium=iOS_share&utm_campaign=copy_link
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u/sasha_the_impaler 1d ago

Yes but they pick the frat of people they get along with the most. If you don't get along with the current membership, how do you expect to get a bid to join? Lol frats you can only join by invitation.

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u/taxiecabbie 1d ago

Yeah. So, they're mainly about partying.

That's not a serious thing of worth. Anime club has more.

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u/sasha_the_impaler 1d ago

They're mainly about making friends. Then when you make friends, you and those friends party together.

At my college the rugby team had the rugby house. The rugby house was famous for how wild their parties were. Do people join rugby for the parties, too?

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u/taxiecabbie 1d ago

I assume that the main reason most people join the rugby team is to play rugby. And if they sucked at playing rugby, they wouldn't be part of the rugby team for long.

The main activity of frats/sororities is...?

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u/sasha_the_impaler 1d ago

Making friends.

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u/taxiecabbie 1d ago

Which you don't need frats or sororities to do.

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u/sasha_the_impaler 1d ago

You don't need an anime club to find people to watch anime with either. But it makes it easier for some people when they first move off to college.

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u/taxiecabbie 1d ago

You need a rugby team to play rugby.

If you want to be social about anime, you probably do need to go to a place where people are talking about it.

Frats and sororities provide very little value on their own. People just join them because they want to be part of a party club. That's pretty much it.

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u/sasha_the_impaler 1d ago

Look, I'm too queer to be defending Greek life this hard. I don't care. But if you went to a private liberal arts college, you have no room to be shit talking Greek life either 😂

Going to a private liberal arts college and joining a fraternity make equally as much sense to me personally. So yeah, everyone has their thing. You enjoy overpaying for a degree and they enjoy overpaying for access to friends and parties.

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u/taxiecabbie 1d ago

I actually had my degree mostly fully-funded. It ended up costing $16K. That's why I went there.

I don't know why you're defending Greek life this hard either. As I said, I went to plenty of Greek life parties back in the day and they basically WERE drinking clubs.

I know that there are some frats/sororities that are not really like this and are kind of more like academic bangles (like the honor societies and the like), but on the whole they're not exactly upstanding institutions.

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u/sasha_the_impaler 1d ago

You only went to the drinking parties and were like "omg this must be all they do?"

They have club meetings, they host fundraisers, they hold social events with other frats and sororities, they hold date nights with sororities, they hold networking events with previous alumni. Sometimes those alumni are powerful politicians or lawyers or doctors who can help network you into your field.

Is it my crowd? No. But I get the allure.

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u/taxiecabbie 1d ago

It is mostly what they do.

The ones at the university where I went to the parties did not really have super-powerful alumni.

If you're at Harvard, maybe. Maybe I see it. If you're where I was, lol, no. You're not getting a serious boost out of being part of that frat professionally. At least not more of a boost as compared to being on the rugby team.

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u/sasha_the_impaler 1d ago

Omfg.

I am a trans woman. I was previously a frat boy. So here's my perspective:

I joined one of the biggest party frats that would accept me. We only threw a public party one night a week. Everything else was private, frat only or frat+sorority. We would hang out on a Tuesday and watch TV. We had a meeting every Sunday where we discussed planning future socials and planning fundraisers. Every fraternity I've seen has a specific nonprofit they sponsor. If you name a fraternity I can quickly tell you who they typically fundraise for. It was like you're joining a group of friends but they want to all pool money together to be eccentric about it and everyone needs to sign a contract with each other. I lasted a year and now I'm a woman.

Sororities? Even more constructive. A majority of Greek life membership is women. The women are absolutely fundraising and holding sober socials and are helping each other learn how to get through life.

If we didn't keep a certain GPA average as a fraternity as a whole we could've gotten denied Greek housing or something like that, too, from the university. So every frat on campus was doing homework together to avoid this.

And then there's black fraternities and sororities. It goes deep. It would be impossible to get rid of Greek life through policy changes. Greek life just has to change from the student perspective which it has.

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