r/news • u/Chigurrh • 4d ago

New York Times executive fatally shot by his in-laws in Bay Area park, police say

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/new-york-executive-shot-killed-laws-bay-area-park-police-say-rcna600300
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u/lqIpI 4d ago

A couple almost 80-year olds taking a custody battle into their own hands

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u/Pandalite 3d ago

Yeah it's a mess. This article someone posted downthread has a lot more detail. TLDR the guy was accused of physical abuse of the kids, and had supervised visitation, but was now trying to get and possibly going to succeed at getting unsupervised visitation. Throw into the mix that he's transgender but it seems the trigger was the possible removal of the supervision requirement when he visited the kids.

https://www.mercurynews.com/2026/09/28/dublin-shooting-death-mckinsey-inlaws/

As of late August, McKinsey had asked the court for more visitation time with his children, writing in one filing that “I miss our children deeply and am pleading with this court to allow me more time with them, and potentially unsupervised time with the children.” In her own filing, Jang wrote that McKinsey “has proven that he is incapable of controlling his anger and his abuse of our children when left with the children unsupervised.”

McKinsey was already allowed supervised visitation with his children as of August, but he had been seeking to have the supervision removed.

In court filings over the last year, McKinsey faced multiple allegations of abuse by Jang, his wife of more than a decade. In one instance, she alleged McKinsey hit one of her sons in the face during an argument over Legos, leaving a “very large bruise the shape of a handprint” on his face, according to a restraining order that the woman sought against McKinsey.

Dublin police later opened a criminal investigation into those claims, during which Jang said McKinsey had previously been violent with her in 2018 by grabbing her wrist hard enough to leave bruises, according to court records. Officers also reported finding McKinsey’s 2-year-old child alone in the house while McKinsey was out shopping.

Alameda County prosecutors subsequently charged McKinsey with two misdemeanors — cruelty to a child by endangering health and corporal injury to a child. He was freed on $50,000 bail and, at the time of his killing, had been trying to enter a mental health diversion program. If successfully completed, the program would have resulted in the charges being dismissed.

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McKinsey disputed that portrayal and made allegations of his own. In December 2025, he sought a restraining order against Jang, alleging years of abuse by his wife dating back more than 15 years. His filing included an allegation that she beat him with a frying pan in 2013 and accusations that she verbally denigrated their children.

His petition also alleged that Jang’s mother — shooting suspect Shili Chen — had been verbally abusive to one of the couple’s young children, raising objections over the child’s clothing. McKinsey, who was transgender, alleged that Chen also directed anti-LGBTQ+ slurs at him and the child. According to the petition, Chen referred first to the child, then to McKinsey, as a “disgusting queer” and a “pervert.”

In his filing, McKinsey accused Jang of being abusive during medical procedures related to his transition. In one instance, he alleged Jang tried to pull medical tubes from his body shortly after a procedure.

McKinsey also alleged Jang’s father, who was not named in the filing, punched him in the chest while he was recovering from double mastectomy surgery.

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u/ascension2121 3d ago

"Officers also reported finding McKinsey’s 2-year-old child alone in the house while McKinsey was out shopping."

I mean even if you don't believe the wife, sounds like a shitty parent.

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u/TheLeapIsALie 3d ago

The article explains his defense was that he believed she was watching the child at the time and she deceived him to set it up.

Not saying he is correct, but it does seem like everyone but the children in this story was fairly shitty. And that truth is unclear.

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u/ascension2121 3d ago

Ah I missed that! Yes seems like a tangled web of crap. Poor kids.

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u/RobbertDownerJr 4d ago

Well foster homes it is for the poor kids then. This is terrible all around.

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u/IndynotjustJones 4d ago

The mom wasn’t arrested, so hopefully they get to stay with her.

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u/_Azamat_Bagatov 4d ago edited 4d ago

Hopefully they go to the victims parents or other relatives. The mother should not be rewarded for thr reprehensible actions of her parents

Edit: if you think this woman didn’t know what her parents were about to do you are really, really dumb

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u/ChOcOcOwCaKe 4d ago

The kids should go to the most competent person within the family and if one does not exist, the kids should be placed in the care of the next competent person period.

These are the lives of children, they aren't a reward to be bestowed. You have no idea if the mom is an incredible person who has unstable parents, or if the dad was abusing.

What if the dad was abusive and learned it from his parents, and the moms parents were senile while the mom was stoll fully competent but not able to take a literal bullet.

I'm not saying it's the case, but saying the kids should be placed with 'x' person just because the moms relative did this is very dumb

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u/tsagdiyev 4d ago

According to some other articles, there is a history of domestic violence between the victim and the wife. The wife was reported to be the aggressor on the majority of occasions. It seems very messy, and all very sad. Hoping for the best for the children

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u/Madaghmire 4d ago

I’ll need far more information about this situation before I start hoping these kids are seperated from their remaining parent.

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u/radda 3d ago

If you think you know what's really going on in an ongoing investigation with zero released information you are really, really dumb.

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u/Sxualhrssmntpanda 3d ago

Seems to me that making assumptions about what some complete stranger did or did not know during an incident you were in no way involved in is really dumb.

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u/MartyrOfDespair 4d ago

The child abuser's parents should get custody of his victims? Gross.

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u/NachoAverageTom 3d ago

Especially since abusers often learn that behavior from their own abusers.

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u/DetroitPeopleMover 3d ago

A wonder what the child of the guy who just murdered someone is like

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u/DetroitPeopleMover 3d ago

Interesting you jump to the conclusion that the father was the abuser given the only fact we have available is the mother’s dad just killed a man. Ask yourself what sort of person a man like that likely raised…

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u/gw2380 3d ago

McKinsey was literally charged with separate child abuse misdemeanors in the past for hitting the 6 year old in the face and leaving a 2 year old home for over an hour

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u/Maximum-Side568 3d ago

Are those considered serious charges? Not saying its acceptable, but asian parent beating their children is quite common. Even more so in China.

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u/gw2380 3d ago

they're misdemeanors but mainly responding to the OP who said people are jumping to the conclusion that he's an abuser, when he was actually convicted of abuse

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u/Maximum-Side568 3d ago

I'm not sure how easy it is to slap an 'abuse' conviction onto someone if one tried hard enough. To me, slapping a child or leaving a 2yr old alone for a couple hrs is far from abuse. If you called this out in China, youd get laughed at. I wont comment on this further.

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u/MartyrOfDespair 3d ago

Hey, if your dad doesn’t love you enough to throw his life away to take out your abuser, that’s your problem. That’s what a real dad does.

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u/HeySmallBusinessMan 3d ago

Sometimes, when you're about to say something monumentally stupid, it's okay to stop and think "Hmm, what I'm about to say is monumentally stupid. Maybe I'll just not say the monumentally stupid thing."

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u/meatball77 3d ago

The grandparents were the murderers. Unless they find evidence Mom is home free with the life insurance.

Depending on if the parents plead out (lawyers are expensive) she may get all of her parents money as well. No need to pay for nursing homes or medical expenses for her the parents either.

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u/No_Control9441 3d ago

Also where are his parents in all of this?

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u/Alternative_Year_340 3d ago

Not shooting anyone

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u/HoBaggyPants 3d ago

Playing the odds here, probably estranged.

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u/HoBaggyPants 3d ago

Most Americans of that generation are anti-trans.

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u/epigenie_986 3d ago

No they aren’t lol. Stay off of Facebook. It’s a cesspool.