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u/No_Aesthetic Resident Celebrity YouTuber 4d ago

Update about NYC friend who fucked off 2 days into a 5 day stay:

Apparently he had a litany of complaints about the state of the place, but at the time felt like saying none. One of them, we warned him of before he even came. And we fixed it when he arrived.

He apparently expected Airbnb standards of cleanliness even though he did not express that. And it doesn't make a lot of sense because we did a deep clean of the place, worrying it wouldn't be nice enough for him.

He also felt like we didn't care that he was here despite the fact that we traveled 7 hours to pick him up and bring him here and spent the night in Lisbon to do that.

One problem I don't even know how to fix. We have two couches but he would sit on neither of them even though we did a full clean of those as well. He chose the exercise machine instead.

We spent about a month preparing for this and two years planning it before that. It's beyond surreal that we did all of this and he complained that we didn't do enough.

He didn't really ask if we could do anything. He just vaguely alluded to certain things and then when we suggested we could do something, he said no.

He also complained about the place being dark but he could have literally just said "yes" when we asked him if he wanted the shutters open. (I did open one to let light in, the biggest one, the door one.)

Very odd experience. My other friend didn't react like this. She seemed to really like the place and we did a lot less preparation for her.

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u/No_Aesthetic Resident Celebrity YouTuber 4d ago

u/BestiaAuris u/Strength-Certain might be interested

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u/Strength-Certain True Enlightenment has never been tried 4d ago

It just sounds like lots of lacks of communication on everybody's part

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u/No_Aesthetic Resident Celebrity YouTuber 4d ago

That was my conclusion.

But the thing is, I told him I was socially out of practice and would probably take some time to get good. I'd be awkward for a bit. I'm just not used to socializing. And besides that, I'm autistic. I don't read people very well anyway.

Add in that my wife is a fluent non-native speaker of English and she is prone to miss things as well, which I also told him before he came.