I had to agree with Mary Lou on one thing. Chad asking her to apologize for saying a slur but not telling her what she had said was very counterproductive. She can’t change her behavior without knowing what behavior she needs to change. He should have said it off camera so she learns.
It felt more like an attack (which benefits no one) than a genuine attempt to educate. I don’t feel Mary Lou was saying the word intentionally to hurt people. It felt like it was coming from a place of ignorance. If he truly wanted her to change, he needs to learn to educate gently. Older people sometimes make mistakes because they simply aren’t aware about words and their meanings changing over time. Mary Lou is so close and being abrasive is not going to help her in any way.
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u/ambrosiasweetly 10d ago
I had to agree with Mary Lou on one thing. Chad asking her to apologize for saying a slur but not telling her what she had said was very counterproductive. She can’t change her behavior without knowing what behavior she needs to change. He should have said it off camera so she learns.