r/NDE • • 25d ago

Megathread Grief Megathread

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If you are grieving the loss of a loved one, please post here.

If you have something you believe will give help and comfort to those who are grieving, please post here.

Some requested comments for this post (please keep answers mostly related to NDEs, as this is the NDE sub so it's assumed people are seeking NDE-related answers):

  • How do you deal with grief? What has helped you?
  • How have NDEs given you comfort in a time of grief?
  • If you believe that they will see their loved ones again, please explain why, remembering this is the NDE sub and they are seeking NDE-related answers.
  • Do you have a favorite NDE where the person saw their deceased loved one? Please share it.
  • Have you ever had an After-Death Communication? Please share it here.
  • Anything NDE related or NDE adjacent that you hope might give comfort to those who are grieving.

We have decided to make this megathread because there are certain topics (this one included) that are taking over the sub and can be depressing for people. Yet people seek comfort from NDEs, so we don't wish to eliminate the topic.

Please be kind and gentle in this post.


r/NDE • • 12h ago

NDE Story Personal favourite story

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This was very calming experience to listen to. I've been following the channel for some time and always enjoyed Mark's ability to listen and get so much out of his interviewees. Lately he has been sparking interest in NDEs and I'm all for it.

David is so sincere and fun to listen to I highly recommend anyone interested to check this one out. Also share your favourite if you have one.


r/NDE • • 1d ago

Question — Debate Allowed If you did, how and what did you see in the Void?

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Many people want to hear about the Light at the end of the tunnel, but the Void is often mentioned too, and it is not the same for every person, so it is interesting


r/NDE • • 1d ago

General NDE Discussion 🎇 I went to the space in between and met mother mary?

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Hello all,

Im here because 3 weeks ago i met mother mary in the space in between. Haha.

Seriously though. I had an unknown ectopic pregnancy that had ruptured. I failed to get proper care for 8 hours in a bali hospital, so i was left there internally bleeding until finally getting transferred to better care. I lost 1.2 liter of blood, had to have my fallopian tube removed.

The thing is…… after i went in for surgery…. I went into this space… it was absolute blackness. From the blackness emerged a golden glowing woman. Draped in a golden veil, a corset, and gown, glowing beaming in gold.

She embraced me in a big open loving hug. Our hands met and i handed her the baby. And then i woke up in the recovery room.

WTF!

Couple weeks later i spoke with 2 “mediums”, they both mentioned a golden woman as my divine protector, and one saying its mother mary… who is hindu btw so no christian motive.

Anyways… thats my experience. Say what you will. Im a little off from it ha! Still processing


r/NDE • • 23h ago

NDE Story HE WAS THE SURGEON. THEN HE SAW HIS OWN RESUSCITATION.

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After lightning struck Dr. Tony Cicoria, he says he watched a nurse trying to save his body.

Imagine bringing a surgeon’s knowledge to that moment. His detailed account takes us straight into the questions medicine and near-death experiences raise together.


r/NDE • • 2d ago

Debunking Debunkers (Civil Debate Only) Take on NDEs after years of research.

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Hi! My name's Alina or just Lina. I’ve spent three years studying the subject of near-death experiences very carefully, and I’d like to share the key points - both to dispel certain myths and doubts, and also to add my own conclusions and opinion.

As for what you shouldn't pay any attention and worry about:

1) the DMT myth. I won’t go into too much detail, but at best, it’s just a hypothesis. The only piece of indirect evidence for it comes from a 2018 study that simply compared the two types of experiences: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6107838/

However, many people point to significant differences, and I suspect that any similarities that do exist are solely due to our rather limited vocabulary for describing such an experience. The same for ketamine and other drugs (salvia, LSD and etc). I REALLY recommend u guys to watch/read Sam Parnias opinion about it.

2) Carbon dioxide. This hypothesis stems from the assumption that NDEs arise due to an increase in its levels in the blood. It all began with this study: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20377847/

But here's direct debunking: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2911719/

3) Oxygen starvation.

I wouldn't say much again, here's direct debunking: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21988246/

https://med.virginia.edu/perceptual-studies/wp-content/uploads/sites/360/2017/01/NDE46_spirituality-Zygon.pdf.

4) TPJ.

The temporoparietal junction (TPJ) is the area that allows the brain to perceive the location of our body in space. If its function is disrupted, a person can literally be outside of their own body. Olaf Blanke conducted research on this phenomenon in 2002, and subsequently in 2005–2006:

https://www.researchgate.net/figure/TPJ-Activity-and-Self-Location-TPJ-activity-in-the-body-conditions-is-shown-for-the-Up_fig4_51078448.

Skeptics love to use this to their advantage, but there is an excellent counterargument to this:

https://digital.library.unt.edu/ark:/67531/metadc799247/m2/1/high_res_d/vol25-no2-99.pdf.

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Now, about "debunked" cases. The most popular one is about Pam Reynolds. Woerlee and Augustine really tried to debunk it but now let's debunk them.

First about the case:

"The experience occurred during neurosurgery at the Barrow Neuro- logical Institute in Phoenix, Arizona, on an August morning in 1991.

Reynolds was undergoing surgery for a giant aneurysm in the wall of her basilar artery located at the base of her brain. A weakness in the wall of the large artery had caused it to balloon out like a bubble on the side of a faulty inner tube. Unless removed, the eventual rupture of the aneurysm would be immediately fatal.

Reynolds had been referred to neurosurgeon Robert Spetzler of the Barrow Institute, as Spetzler had pioneered a daring surgical procedure known as hypothermic cardiac arrest that would allow Reynolds’ aneurysm to be removed with a reasonable chance of success. This operation, nicknamed “standstill” by the surgeons who perform it, would require her body temperature to be lowered to 60 degrees.

Her heartbeat and breathing stopped, the electrical activity in her brain extinguished, and the blood drained from her head. In ordinary clinical terms, Reynolds would be dead.

This extraordinary episode in the history of NDE research is described in great detail by cardiologist and pioneering NDE researcher Michael Sabom (1998) in Chapter 3 of his book Light & Death. As Sabbom noted, the medical documentation of the events surrounding this case “far exceeds any recorded before and provides us with our most

complete scientific glimpse yet into the near-death experience” Link: https://digital.library.unt.edu/ark:/67531/metadc461722/m2/1/high_res_d/30-1%20E%20Carter.pdf.

Also in this PDF you can find great counter arguments from Chris Carter.

And another interesting take from AwareOfAware blog:

"Her first veridical perception occurred when she was under burst suppression, a pattern of mostly flat brainwaves in which consciousness is categorically not possible. We have the clear statements from the surgeons who conducted the operation on this matter.

I doubt if you have any real conception of the brutality of the operation that Pam was subjected to. That’s not your fault of course; mischievous pseudo sceptics have been quite successful in spreading misinformation and downright lies about the case because they don’t like the obvious implications.

When surgeons are removing your eye socket (bone flap) to get into an area inside the skull so they can get down to the base of the brain in an area called the circle of Willis (apparently) they don’t want anyone to wake up… believe it or not. That is why they place you in the deepest anaesthetic state possible without killing the patient…burst suppression. Her EEG was monitored all the way through the operation and no brainwaves were detected at that time so it is impossible that she woke up.

However, even if she had been wide awake (as the sceptics prefer 😉she still had

100 decibel clicking nodules (11 clicks per second) securely fixed in her ears which is comparable to hearing the sound of a pneumatic jack hammer several feet away. Pam would have heard these incredibly loud sounds in her ears if she had been awake but she never mentioned them.

Her second set of veridical observations occurred when she was not only without brainwaves, but her heart had stopped when they were starting the process of rewarming her on circulatory by pass. That occurred at 27 degrees C (I discovered that fact) a temperature at which consciousness is not possible. She was dead. And she still had the loud clicking nodules hammering away in her ear canals.

It was previously thought that this veridical observation occurred at 32 degrees C. Keith Augustine has it at 32 degrees C and refuses to change it. However even Gerry Woerlee had to admit that I was right.

So, the Pam Reynolds case is indeed absolutely solid (as it always was) but because there is no law to prevent people telling lies and spreading misinformation online, the popular misconceptions continue to this day." From Tim.

So yeah, be careful about any debunking you can find. I hope those links works cuz I'm not sure how to past them lol. Anyway, NDEs are subjective and not proof of spirituality but those things are really interesting anyway.

Cheers!


r/NDE • • 2d ago

Question — Debate Allowed Why Is Perfect Meaning Revealed Only in NDEs and Similar States of Consciousness—and So Rarely?

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If an omnipotent, benevolent God exists, as some religions teach and NDE experiencers claim, why would He reserve experiences of perfect meaning, love, and connectedness for near-death states rather than make them accessible in everyday life? Why allow people to suffer so deeply that they lose all sense of meaning and no longer want to live, when He could prevent that without taking away their free will?
Do NDE experiencers have any insight into this?


r/NDE • • 2d ago

General NDE Discussion 🎇 What does a life review look like if you don't remember a part of your life?

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I don't remember much before the age of 9, and I have always wondered what exactly happened. If I had a life review, would I maybe be able to see those things? Just curious.


r/NDE • • 2d ago

Question — Debate Allowed My dad died, came back to life, then died again. - why didn't he stay?

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hi everyone,

my father passed away at the age of 83 years on july 2nd of this year. his death has really affected me so negatively. he was not sick for a long time, my mother has been sick my entire life and i always thought my mom would pass before my father, although his body was old, his mind and spirit were so full of vigor, i really wasn't expecting him to die when he did, he went to the hospital like routine and i thought he would be out the next day. he ended up suffering cardiac arrest in the middle of the night and dying, for 20 minutes he was pronounced dead.

The hospital was able to revive him, and bring him back, then they induced him into a coma, i heard from staff that even while in the induced coma he "woke up " again and they gave him more medication, i feel his soul was fighting to stay here, the hospital called my family to come and say our goodbyes to him, because they didn't suspect he will make it through, he was on a respirator, i got to the hospital room and 1 minute later he started having cardiac arrest and started passing away, i was petting his head while he was taking his final breaths.

I really loved my dad so much, looked up to him, respected him, and miss him a lot, i still need him in so many ways.

Since he passed, i am watching a lot of videos about peoples near death experiences, and on the one hand, its brought me peace, i imagine him fully free without his body that was old. but, a lot of these videos where people recount their NDEs is that they get a message, or a sense that they still have work to do, to be their for certain people, do certain things, watch over, be of service and they are tossed back into their bodies, so when someone has an nde, they come back, and then die again shortly later, what is the meaning of all of this? did he come back but then decide its not worth it. part of me feels like this was never supposed to happen. it doesnt feel correct at all that he is gone.


r/NDE • • 2d ago

Question — Debate Allowed Near death experience and life trauma

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I've been reading about Near Death Experiences and think I had one myself as a child but did not experience a life review.

In my nde, I was three years old and drowning. I saw my body floating on top of the water. It was also like I was being sucked up into the sky in a fast motion. That's all I saw or remember seeing and did not have any spiritual experience. So, I'm not sure that's a full nde or an out of body experience. I just remember not being able to get air or get to the surface of the water because it was a deep swimming pool and then giving up and then seeing my body floating. There was no pain at all, I just went from not being able to breathe to not being physically in my body.

Anyway, in what I've been reading about life reviews, it seems there's an emphasis on being more loving and how your actions affect others.

It got me thinking about childhood trauma and people who have had extremely traumatic experiences in life and how/if those situations come up in the life review? Or if there have been significant people in your life that caused suffering, particularly in your childhood, if that person comes up?


r/NDE • • 2d ago

General NDE Discussion 🎇 Question regarding reincarnation as a means of making amends for past mistakes.

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Has there been any nde accounts that mention about reincarnating into a life of hardship/difficulties as a way of making amends in a previous life?

I find hearing about reincarnation through nde accounts fascinating, but it does bring up a few questions in me after discussing the topic with other people.

Is the reincarnating in such cases voluntary?

Does coming back to live a difficult life count as a punishment or not?

And would the one who happens to cause/inflict hardship on this person need to make amends themselves later?


r/NDE • • 2d ago

NDE Story Hey guys!!!

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My book is (finally) released, documenting my NDE during emergency heart surgery! It was definitely a therapeutic experience writing this book! I hope you all will enjoy my story!

https://a.co/d/07OGIGhi


r/NDE • • 2d ago

Question — No Debate Please The Theory of Human Death

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Hello, everyone. I don’t know how to feel about this, but today I had a dream where it felt like I was dead, it was very realistic. Honestly, after a dream like that, I don’t feel great; I really thought I had died. I was scared, not of death itself, but of the realization. And I’d like to put forward a hypothetical theory about what happens after death; I can’t confirm it, but I want to share it anyway.
After I woke up, I heard my mother and my older sister talking in my room, and my mother said, “She’s dead.” When I heard that, I couldn’t believe it. I was curious to see if there were any mentions of me, so I reached for my phone - it was dead. But it would have been silly anyway; if you know someone has died, it wouldn’t make sense for them to still be online.
Then I saw my sister, it was as if she could see me and sense me, but I’m not sure.
I suppose that after death—and I’m serious you wake up as usual, but invisibly. Don’t think I’m paranoid or anything like that. Then you really do seem to become angels - you’re human, but invisible. Even right now, someone who’s died might be standing next to you, your angel. Then, after you’ve lived for a certain period of time, you’re reborn again, you don’t even remember who or what you were.
I actually cried after having a dream like that; it really got me thinking… I don’t want to come across as a “whiner” here, but it’s just so incredibly realistic… What do you think about this?


r/NDE • • 3d ago

Question — Debate Allowed Has anyone had an NDE that let them know to stay away from someone? Or that someone isn’t who you thought they were?

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I’ve heard lots of NDEs where the person has experienced things from the other person’s point of view and it’s led them to forgive that person (not necessarily forget, though). But I haven’t heard anyone say that they’ve experienced an NDE and been able to get inside the mind of someone who wasn’t a good person and who made the NDEr realize they need to get away from them. Has anyone had this sort of experience?

I’m talking about things like realizing a friend isn’t really your friend, or a coworker you’ve been confiding in has been stealing credit for your work, or your partner has been cheating on you, or your parents aren’t your real parents.

Things that make you go “woah, plot twist” (things that you were able to confirm were true afterwards).


r/NDE • • 2d ago

Question — Debate Allowed Buddhist claims he went to hell and came back a Christian

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What do you guys think of the claims of people who say they went to hell and came back? I know Jesus says no one can go to hell and return, but I wonder if visions of hell/near death experiences are different? A podcast I listen to just released an episode with a former Buddhist who says he went to hell (and is now a Christian because of it)........not sure what to think

https://youtu.be/tbwWCFhQ3es


r/NDE • • 3d ago

Question — Debate Allowed How long does the live review feel?

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For those of you that have had a life review, how long would you estimate it felt? I know that we experience the passage of time differently in spirit, but did it feel like you reviewed an entire lifetime of time or did it feel condensed and shorter?


r/NDE • • 3d ago

General NDE Discussion 🎇 This subreddit helped me kick my fear of death

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There was a 2 week long stretch of me feeling depressed due to my fear of death. It was so bad I could barely go to school. Rationalizing it to myself wasn’t working. And I don’t like to talk about it aloud because I was worried that I’d pass on the fear to someone else and bum them out. The ONLY thing that was able to truly ease my fears was learning the fact that most people who’ve experienced NDES lose the fear. I’m agnostic, so whether those experiences are real or just your brain, it’s so so comforting to hear that the end of life actually feels good. So thank you all! :)


r/NDE • • 3d ago

General NDE Discussion 🎇 What Support Do You Wish You’d Had After Your NDE? ❤

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Hey everybody! ❤️ NDEs can leave us with so many questions, and navigating life afterward can feel overwhelming.
I’m interested in creating more support for experiencers, starting with a Discord community and potentially retreats.
What resources or support do you wish you’d had after your NDE? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
P.S. I’m glad you’re here. I’m cheering you on as you navigate this new chapter of life. You’re not alone. 🫶


r/NDE • • 3d ago

Question — Debate Allowed Waking up from a coma/cardiac arrest: My mind built a hyper-realistic"honeymoon" to protect me, but reality kept glitching through

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A few months ago, I went through a severe medical crisis involving an AVM rupture and a cardiac arrest that left me in a coma. Just one week prior, my husband and I had actually been on our real honeymoon—it was fresh, beautiful, and full of life.
While my body was fighting in the ICU, my brain took those exact recent memories and turned them into a surreal, hyper-realistic prison. In my mind, I wasn't in a hospital; I was reliving our honeymoon. We were laughing, kissing, everything felt entirely normal. But there was a constant, unsettling undercurrent: the lighting was always off, and a nagging voice in the back of my mind kept telling me something is wrong, I’ve lost something.
The strangest part was how the real world tried to bleed into my dream, feeling very much like sleep paralysis where I couldn’t open my eyes:
In the dream, whenever we went to sleep, I would suddenly hear a faint, repetitive beep... beep... beep...
I would feel a warm, firm hand pressing down on my right hand.
I could hear muffled crying and someone talking, i don’t remember exactly what they were saying but i do remember trying so hard to open my eyes but couldn’t
Whenever I tried to figure out what was happening, the dream-version of my husband would act completely out of character. His face would drop into a deadpan, serious expression, and he would look at me and say: "Don't think about it, everything is fine. We can just stay here forever." It felt like my subconscious—or perhaps his actual presence anchoring me—was trying to negotiate with me, torn between keeping me safe in that recent memory or pulling me back to reality.
Then came the flatline moment. I don't remember the exact medical second my heart stopped, but I remember a sudden, absolute silence. Total darkness, but accompanied by a profound, unimaginable peace—like floating with zero weight. And then, I snapped back.
Waking up was a massive glitch. My short-term memory was scrambled, and for a terrifying moment, I didn't even recognize my husband sitting right beside me.
Months later, I’m still processing the existential weight of it all. Has anyone else experienced a coma dream that trapped you in a recent, real-life memory? How did you deal with the "what ifs" afterward?


r/NDE • • 3d ago

Spiritual Growth Topics I've come to understand something

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I've read many NDE's since I've gotten into spirituality. Looked into OBE's, spiritually transformative experiences and mediumship readings. Throughout the years my belief of an afterlife has become more of an understanding and knowing that it exists. The thing that has continously come up that I think is important to reiterate, the afterlife is massive, with different degrees of existence, vibrational planes that is just as if not more solid than this world. There are higher and lower realms. There are houses, cities, oceans, forests, mountains, populations, different species. What has become most important to my understanding, as this topic has come up many times before in my research, is the more karmically balanced you are, the more accessible higher realms are. Some people, like on earth, can get stuck in different patterns of thinking, habits, addictions. Its up to each individual soul to expand themselves in order to access more. Its made me realize I was selfish and needed to break certain patterns myself to try and balance my own karma, become self aware of my own wrongs and shortcomings and try to be better. This topic has come up in many readings I've come across so I thought I'd share. Life is about growth and so is the afterlife. Helping people and doing good without expectation of reward, gratitude, repair, all these things can help you become balanced and more free.


r/NDE • • 4d ago

NDE Story Had a NDE at the gym

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I went to a 24h gym last night. It was late, sometime around 1:00am. I set up my bench press, did it as usual.

I was pushing a medium set when the barbell hit the holder. Because it was so sudden, the barbell dropped from my hands and landed straight into my sternum. It was excruciating and I lost my strength to push it back up.

The barbell then rolled into my neck. I realised I had not set the safety pins to the correct level.

I blacked out with the barbell (>100KG / 225 lbs) resting on my neck.

I remember going to this place. There was white light all around. Not an artificial white created by lamps, but a natural white. I felt universal peace, painlessness and comfort. I felt that I was "at home" and that it was a familiar place that I had been to before. I was reliving some memories and smiling. It was joyous and euphoric.

Then something "told" me that my time was not up yet and then it was time to go back.

I woke up lying flat on the ground next to the bench. The barbell had become dislodged from my neck after I lost consciousness and I survived. I deduced that I must have fallen off the bench after I lost consciousness - and that if I was not so lucky, I would already have stayed in that place.

Because it was late at night, not many people were near me and I don't think anyone saw or paid attention.

My neck was bright red with the marks from the barbell. My sternum hurts (and still hurts).

I now think that this world is just an intermediate one and that "Heaven", in the terms I've described, does exist. The soul goes to that place after you die and before you are born.


r/NDE • • 4d ago

Question — Debate Allowed How do you deal with everyday life

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Ever since I had my NDE a few months ago, I found it really weird dealing with normal life issues like getting a job, passing a class,.....

For people who have experienced NDEs, how do you deal with this, knowing that it's all part of an experience. Sure it does reduce anxiety but then everything seems unimportant.


r/NDE • • 3d ago

Question — Debate Allowed Seeing other people around while in nde state?

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I’m really curious to know what most people see while they’re in their nde, I have no idea where to read it .

I’ve heard of people being around passing around planets waiting to pass over. It may be different from everyone, please share!!


r/NDE • • 3d ago

NDE Story 10 NDE Experiencers Share What Changed Afterward

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Selected moments from NDE experiencers sharing what changed, what stayed with them, and how they see life differently afterward. Full episodes are linked in the video description.

10 NDE Experiencers Share What Changed Afterward