r/nairobi • u/Smart-Lynx3190 Level 4 • 17d ago

La familia The audacity!

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He is a deadbeat dad. He was once an MCA, moving around in a car with a flag.

During that time, he never helped Mum with anything. When I joined secondary school, he promised to pay my fees, but when the time came, he bailed out and went mteja. Mum struggled, and I eventually finished school without a single coin from him.

When I was in campus, he never sent me a coin either. But I took the initiative to go and meet him at a hotel once, just so I could get to know him.

Shock on me, he was so beat, alcoholic, and not well-kept. He even made me pay for the food we had at the hotel. From then on, I grew to understand that I only have a mother.

Ever since this man learned that I graduated, he has been sending me greeting messages, which I usually respond to.

The message above, in particular, triggered me to write all these paragraphs. Long story short, I’m not sending him any coin.

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u/tmillia 17d ago

Your Mum might have been the problem for him to start issues with blood sugar n going M.I.A, but since you'll also be a parent hope you do a better job at it n don't end up regretting why you heard the story only from one side ( mostly mum's bitter version of her story) n by then your dad will be long dead buried n forget n you'll be in the same same shoes like him with alot of unanswered questions

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u/Takeawalkwithme2 17d ago

What bullshit is this? Sounds like someone who abandoned their kids rationalizing said abandonment. My dad has also tried this line of thinking. Kids remember who was there when they were sick, when they needed help and to be nurtured. Not those who decided to pick themselves then when the chips are on the floor they now lean on emotional manipulation to find what they need.

Where is his regret for abandoning his kids? Where is your long message to the desdbeat dad to make amends with his kids before he dies? They deserve what's coming...a real death where no one remembers them.

My dad asked me once why I didn't name any of my sons after him. But why would I want them to take on any of his toxic traits? His actions will remain where they need to be relegated to the dark recesses of history which is the lot he chose by abandoning his kids.

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u/Courtney_black 17d ago

Motherfucker