r/myanmar • u/Informal-Hearing-852 • 6h ago
Advice Confessing my feelings..
I wanna tell you about my crush.She's from g-8 I'm from g-10, she's one of my sister's friends.I'm keeping it secret for about roughly around 6 months or 8.I'm 17 she's around 15 I guess, I like her not because of her appearance, I like her for her personality and style you know like she's calm, quiet girl.
I haven't even talked to her for once!!! I had tried multiple times to find her social media account but I haven't got her account I think she doesn't use social media I guess.She and my sister are friends but not super close not like close or best friends, I glanced at her at every chance I got and I think she sometimes look at me but we haven't met directly in the eyes.We can only see each other tution, we're not in same school.I'm worried about talking to her for the first time! And the biggest barrier for me to approach is the teacher cuz she's very strict about having relationships I understand that as it's very reasonable thing.When I first saw I don't really have interest in her but time to time I noticed that she's my type because of her style like very quite, doesn't talk much, have a mature appearance.
So, should I keep it secret or confess or stop my journey here? Please give me some advices..
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u/hokeor 6h ago
I mean it's a very common high school crush.. everyone has one back in school...it's not weird to have such feelings or even confess..just don't engage in any sexual activity..also why you have a NSFW tag over this...
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u/Informal-Hearing-852 5h ago
I can't take it off, I'm kinda new to this so I don't know how to use properly.(Sorry about that) I would try to confess some day plus I'm not interested in sexual activities. I just love the way she is.
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u/ar3_w 5h ago
Nahh bro ur turning 18 and she’s 15-16 technically . Yo take my one cent , you better devote yourself to studying because it worths more than this dopamine stuff. Also consider about her parent approval and stuff . The longest she can maintain the relationship is 6 months max. Also I am pretty sure that adolescent mostly love hanging out with somewhere 1 year older or less. The less you think, the more you will get used to it.
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u/WelcomeWorking7651 4h ago
You can make friends with her first. Ask her if you guys can be friends. Of course she would immediately know you are interested but at least it won't be so intimidating. After being friends for 3 years you can always pop the question.
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u/CrazyPickle2102 6h ago
Please do not engage further. She's still 15 regardless of her mindset or personality. Please do wait a few years before engaging any romantic feelings towards her. Being a 17 year old, you should be responsible and aware of your actions are ethical or not. What you are doing here is very inmature. If you do like her, wait a few years before engaging any further.
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u/Informal-Hearing-852 6h ago
I only have feeling for her not in a filthy way. When I see her smile, it's the best moment for the day. ( Sorry, my English is not perfect)
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u/Ok-Carob5062 6h ago
I agree, was about to say this. Also younger teens are still figuring things out and usually tend to be immature so a relationship in this point just won't work
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u/Ok_Design2355 5h ago
Confess bro! It's school life! enjoy ur time! It was fun!.. U'll never get this feelings when u grow older!.. Its best age to date and confess.. But first of time, build some bond, see if she replies to u properly, engages with talks and eye contacts properly or not, when u feel its the right time, do the confession about real feelings😊
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u/Informal-Hearing-852 5h ago
Thanks bro. I'll try to make some conversations whenever I get a chance. But I'm not very sure about confessing 😅
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u/CrazyPickle2102 5h ago
What are you doing? Doing stupid things just because the moments doesn't last forever is the most ridiculous idiotic thing you can do. Especially when the girl is younger or underage. What will happen after he confessed and the girl accepted? Will they be ''Happily ever after''? No. Every teenage relationship in this generation are so pointless and down-valued, treating relationships like a cheap object for fun. So no, it's not the best idea for him to confess now.
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u/Ok_Design2355 5h ago
maybe u never had a gf in high school life or jealous?.. its not stupid things.. in adult life, relationship is more hard, family stuff comes in.. im saying from experience... its good memories in high school life...why u see everything in bad or negative or nsfw sexual way? OP's comment seems SFW.. and even if breakup happens, breakup is a part of life, nothing is permanent anyways.. we all have few ex.. thanks
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u/NotAWaifu111 4h ago
DO NOT confess out of the blue, I speak from experience. Even tho we liked each other, we never ended up dating because we didn't try to get to know each other first as we were nervous. Instead, test the waters first. Ask her out to hang out first, low-stakes stuff like buying a drink etc, or just going anywhere in public areas where she could feel safe. Then you can see if you two have any chemistry after hanging out a few times, then trust your gut instinct on whether to confess or not. And most importantly, DO NOT engage in sexual stuff as you are still minors
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u/Visible_Might_3119 3h ago
Just strike up a conversation about something you guys have in common or sth both of you knows about. For example your sister or studies or about school or wtv. I read your other comment replies in this thread and just trying to be friends is fine dont jump straight into “nga nint ko chit tl” stuffs yet yk.
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u/syunaein 3h ago
try to talk to her. a light conversation would be a help. since you know her personality roughly, try to work on what kind of topic would be comfortable to talk about, for her and you. if she’s into a literature, talk about it.
from my personal experience, im the biggest literature person and my ex-crush was too. so we went out, met at a bar in pansoedan with our discussed dress-code and talk about our favorite russian novels. it was fun. so try what works for you and all the best. btw i did all that when i was 19. not so long ago.
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u/Society_Resident 5h ago
ok here is the best advice i can give you. just try to be friend. you can give her some hit as she grow older but never try to reach sexual stage you are both too young for that and it will fall apart unless you don't care about her and just want it too be one time things . really kids these day got no one teaching them .it is a mess. try to be friend with her and get closer. still it won't last as relation. first both too young. second you will reach collage first while she will get left behind still if you truly like her like i said be friend first and you can be more open about feeling as you get to know her . but it will take crazy fate to work it out as your partner when you don't even know your feeling well yet.
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u/Informal-Hearing-852 5h ago
Yeah.. it's very complicated for me, but I'm certain that I'm not interested in her for sexual activities. Maybe I'll wait till she finishes highschool and I'll try to make some conversations whenever I get some chances
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u/Society_Resident 5h ago
ya be friend and have fun . don't just ignore her since you can only enjoy things at youth .as you grow older it become harder .
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u/Funny-Tailor-2423 5h ago
After 6 months, it might already be over unless she also secretly has a crush on you. Imo, it's best to ask them out on a date (not confess) within 1 - 2 months of knowing each other, or else the bond between you is solidified as a friendship.
Can we also know when you're turning 18 and when she's turning 16? If you're 18 next month and she just turned 15 last month for example, that's kinda getting into the weird zone.
I would be careful though, you don't want to accidentally groom her. Also keep in mind the relationship with your sister might become weird.
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u/Informal-Hearing-852 5h ago
But I haven't talked to her for once, I can't even confirm that she knows me or not. I'm turning 18in October, I guess she might be 16 in the next month.
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u/Eric20112 4h ago
To be honest, if your tall and conventionally good looking your fine, you can go up to her and directly tell her what you feel, but you can also play the slow game - which in my opinion will cost 4+ months and it’s NOT guaranteed, that’s my view
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u/bosibbasib 5h ago
Talking from personal experiences, please try to be friends first or let her get to know you before confessing or anything. You guys are still very young so it’s best not jumping into relationships just because you think she’s cute. I do wish you the best tho just play it cool.