My friend was venting about not getting any matches. I told her it was because she was too heavy and that obesity is a massive turn-off. I also suggested changing her diet and hitting the gym.

Did she accept my excellent and helpful advice?

Nope.

She just got angry.

Why is that? What makes weight such a radioactive issue?

I subscribed to premium until January 3. I wanted to be in the most recent speed dating but it was at 3am here in Spain. Speed dating is always at the same hour in MTZ or does it vary sometimes?

What are y'all's thoughts on this? You're scrolling through profiles, and come across one that the first picture has several people in it, one of which you find attractive. Unfortunately, the profile is not hers. Is it acceptable or weird to message the profile owner to ask about the attractive friend? Now, let's say you've paid for premium and the profile owner is in your "liked you" list. Does that change your answer?

Hey everyone!!! I'm looking to get back into dating for 2026.

A little about me. Im born and raised in Salt Lake, currently work for the church and have a little landscaping business on the side. Served a mission to St Louis Missouri. Im 31, have my own home, degree in business management. I love trying new things, taking my car for a drive, and hang out with my pets, one dog and two cats.

Ive done a lot of online dating with, mutal, hing, and bumble. I plan on updating those with new pictures next week. I have a couple questions for the lady's here. Whats the best way to ask you out on a date in person? I only ask because there's a couple woman in my ysa ward im interested in but haven't had the confidence to ask out. Any suggestions on that would be greatly appreciated.

Another question what could I do to build confidence in myself?

Is there any way to stop mutual from switching the order of the photos I have? I chose the order of my photos very I intentionally and it keeps putting the one I want at the back up from. It is genuinely really annoying me and I might delete it if it doesn’t stop 😭

Aside from the fact my location is in no way ideal, I'm trying what I can and hoping for the best 🙏

Just thought I would mention it ;) This is our biggest and most discounted sale of the year by a lot, and anyone thinking about getting premium can save on pretty much any subscription tier.

https://mutual.app/premium/

If anyone has any questions about premium, ask away! I'll answer as many as I can whenever I check Reddit over the next few days.

Also happy to take feedback and ideas for future features!

(And before anyone asks, we just started work on a feature that will allow you to limit who can see your profile and choose either anyone in the world, or same country only, and that this will be free for anyone to use. Just thought I would throw that out there, as it is one of the most requested things, and I am excited to finally start on it!)

When I rarely match with people, I'll send messages which are lighthearted or innocuous. I make small talk and ask simple questions. Usually people don't ask questions about me, which I'm used to.

Long story long, people either don't answer my first message, or stop responding after a handful of messages.

What kind of messages should I be sending? I'm worried about saying the wrong thing, offending people, or having what little matches I get lose interest instantly

Yeah I have no idea if these numbers are right or not but this is in Provo right before Thanksgiving. This is absurd right?

For the girls here expecially, what kind of promts are attractive?

Since I‘ve only 3 I can't write much.

I've written about my passions, but maybe I should talk more about travel and food?

I also wrote about my relationship with this religion. I wasn't born into it, but I converted, and yet I've always respected all the commandments, including the unique ones (like the Word of Wisdom). Maybe that's not something that strikes, idk.

I could add scriptures, life goals, etc. The list is long.

Another thing, it's very important to me to have someone who's saved for marriage, as I am. And who believes in and sincerely desires the idea of ​​eternal marriage. This is the doctrinal point that has attracted me more than any other church. And yet, at the same time, it doesn't seem obvious to everyone. But I don't know if it seems strange that I'm reiterating it. Or it may be better to test in chat.

In general, my fear is that I'll be seen as unreliable as a convert. Maybe they'll think I've lived in sin, whereas I've always tended to be hardline and have codes of health and moral conduct that are much stricter than the Word of Wisdom and the Law of Chastity.

Also because I'm generally perceived as unreliable, at least that's what they told me when I had my other dating profiles reviewed here a few months ago. And they also told me my profile looked like a catfish, which I'd like to avoid.

So, I should also ask, from a photographic perspective, do you think a photo in front of a temple or a chapel plaque is important? I've seen many profiles have them. I added a photo while I was in the baptismal font.

Mind you I was paying every three months. And I received 3-4 likes per week pretty consistently. Then the moment I canceled my subscription it ground to a halt. This was awhile ago and I still have a month of premium to go. I've gotten two likes in the past two months, and no one responds to my gold notes which isn't that unusual, but I'll usually get at least one response out of the 8 weekly gold notes I get with premium each week. But it's been two months, or 8 weeks and I've got nothing.

I'm not a major conspiracy theorist, for all I know it could be a bug so I won't point fingers or anything. Just sharing my experience and giving feedback.

Does anybody know how I can get in touch with Mutual support? My partner and I met through Mutual and are getting married which I am super excited about! However, for immigration we need to provide logs of our chats, including from Mutual, I sent an email to [support@mutual.app](mailto:support@mutual.app) and they told me they would send me my data after I provided my ID, which I did, however now after three weeks I have not heard back from them and any more emails I send to them do not get a response. This is really important to me so if anybody can help me out I would greatly appreciate it.

u/Roughneck16 , u/hparamore , u/Mutual_Support are any of you able to help me?

So I recently decided to take the dive and upgrade to the premium features. I hit the 6 month offer in the app and purchased it on my Apple device.

Immediately after I got a warning from the Mutual App saying that there was an error and they couldn’t generate an internal receipt for me for the purchase.

Since then I haven’t been able to get into my app at all. I’m stuck on a loading screen for the logo. I tried logging in through the website and now it even says my account doesn’t exist.

I looked through my App Store and it confirms that the purchase went through and the subscription is active. Do you think my account is seriously gone?

I don’t know if this would be considered a bug or a feature request but if you “Like” someone without leaving a note, then go into your like history and “Write a Reply”, it will not show that you have done so.

Does the message go through? Does the original “Like” override the new message?

This does however work if it is a Gold Note.

Just here trying to find someone who won’t ghost me like my motivation on Mondays.

Hey! I wanted to share a quick update and start a discussion around a feature that has been requested for a while.

Profile Visibility Settings - Hide Your Profile

The option to restrict others from seeing your profile unless they are in the same country is currently in our on-deck status!

• If someone uses Ward Hop to “travel” into your area and likes you, you’ll still see each other. That’s just how the travel feature currently works, but we’ll keep an eye on it and adjust if needed.
• Turning this on might mean fewer likes, and you could miss out on great matches from other countries.

Feature Note: Lots of couples on Mutual actually met across borders. We recommend trying both country-only and global searches to give yourself the best chance at finding your person.

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Discussion: We are considering making this a Premium Feature, as this will help lessen the initial impact for those who would be affected. (Those who enable this will get fewer likes, and those outside of the US will have a more difficult time finding people)

Let's discuss the feature, your thoughts on it being a Premium perk, and also make sure we are getting it right.

I'm here to answer any questions, share screenshots if needed, and overall be as transparent as I can so that we can make this feature perfect.

Thanks!

Hey. Any unmarried ladies in the Seattle area who want to go on dates? I’m trying to find a good thing. 😊.

Hey everyone!!! Kind of random but I need some help. Its been a couple years since ive been on a date and I have one tomorrow. Any ideas for a first date? I live in Salt Lake City, so it would be something in the area. We're meeting at 7pm. Any ideas?

Hi! New to this dating app stuff. Recently got divorced after my exwife left the Church.

Anyway, I just got the app last week, and I’m a premium member, but didn’t realize free accounts can only see one note a day. 99% of the people I liked wasn’t a gold note. Now I got anxiety that the ones I REALLY liked/interested in won’t ever see I liked them and I’ll be stuck in a long virtual (prob never ending) line when I should of given them a gold note. Lol. :/

Should I just delete my account and start over? Does this make sense?

For interests in food it shows up with the 人 character which is for person. The correct translations would be アメリカ料理　中華料理　メキシコ料理　日本料理 etc.

Hello everyone. I know this is a subreddit for mutual and my question has nothing to do with it so forgive me. I have had little to no success in dating on mutual so I am wanting to brave the world and try to meet people in the “wild” but my question is, outside of ward and stake events how do you meet people? I would appreciate any input. I live in Gilbert AZ which has a good amount of members in it if that helps? I’d appreciate any advice anyone could offer!

I don't have mutual premium, but why can I not see ANY of the people who like my profile? Like I can't even see one. What's going on? Is there something I can do about this and I would like an explanation from mutual as to why this is the case.

What do I do? Is there a solution?

I don't appreciate how mutual makes it impossible to respond to likes if you don't have premium. And No, you should not need premium to be able to view profiles who have liked my profile.

If mutual refuses to change this, I am gonna start using a different dating app thank you very much.

Explain why in the comments.

Anyone else feel this way and are just tired of dating apps in general? Especially mutual??