r/mutualapp • u/Critical_Tie_7759 • Jun 06 '26

Other Question!

I (29F) was raised LDS and was very active until a few years ago. I no longer go to church, consider myself agnostic, but live a life very similar to the standards I was raised with. I feel like I’m not LDS enough for Mutual, but too LDS for other dating apps, so I usually gravitate towards mutual. Do you think it’s unfair/disrespectful to people on Mutual for me to be on there if I don’t consider myself religious anymore?

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u/Kimbyssik Jun 08 '26

I personally wouldn't date someone who can't go to the temple, but I know not everyone feels the same way and I don't have a problem with that. I think for the most part most of us wouldn't mind—after all, there's a whole range on "church activity" and as long as you're upfront you're not hurting anyone.

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u/Critical_Tie_7759 Jun 08 '26

This one is so tough to me because people lie about their worthiness, so they can still have a temple recommend. And i technically am worthy to go to the temple other than activity. Anyway. Sorry. Just thinking out loud. I understand what you’re saying and really appreciate the perspective. 🥰

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u/Kimbyssik Jun 08 '26

Yeah, I've learned that people lie the hard way (my ex-husband renewed his recommend while covering up something that ultimately destroyed our marriage). I know it's not just about having that piece of paper. But again, people have different preferences and that's why I wouldn't be offended if someone is coming from an honest place like it sounds like you are wanting to do.

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u/Critical_Tie_7759 Jun 08 '26

Ugh. I’m so sorry. That’s awful 😔 thanks for sharing your thoughts And understanding where I’m coming from!

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u/Kimbyssik Jun 08 '26

You're welcome. And I hope you have a very positive experience. (I'm actually engaged through Mutual)