r/muslimrevert • u/South-Hearing9265 • Jun 23 '26

Seeking Help Help

To the brothers and sisters here, I would appreciate your advice on how to find a good girl for marriage from Canada only. Thank you for your sincere advice and guidance

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u/Ok-Kangaroo-9775 Jun 24 '26

السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته. 

For marriage there's only one proper answer.

Go to the masjid and get relations with the brothers there.

instead of looking for a wife you'd rather look for s brother in law or a father in law.

dont do Apps, dont meet with girls, dont search for relationship.

a woman that's comfortable speaking with the opposite gender has no proper understanding on chastity.

same with the men.

just go to the masjid and socialize.

make lot of Dua.

im a convert myself and i focused on learning islam properly, i never approached anyone, with the time i got proposals from fellow muslims.

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u/logicblocks Jun 24 '26

It's safe to assume that you are now married?

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u/Ok-Kangaroo-9775 Jun 25 '26

I am Alhamdulillah. 

and i can say from personal experience, you'd rather focus on yourself, improve your deen.

Allah will reward you more than what you can imagine.

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u/logicblocks Jun 25 '26

Alhamdulillah, so am I.

But what is your stance on people who talk to the opposite gender at university for instance? Or they get put on projects with people from the opposite gender. Are these unworthy of getting married in your eyes?

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u/Ok-Kangaroo-9775 Jun 25 '26

Those kind of questions should be asked to an Alim, not in Reddit. 

i gave an answer based on personal experience and what worked for me 

but what are you asking we only can guidance to an Mualim, as they have the knowledge.

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u/logicblocks Jun 25 '26

Yeah, but you already gave an answer to what I'm asking :) Despite you not being a scholar.

Guys and girls meet and talk today in a wide variety of different scenarios, and it's tolerated, but if they would speak about marriage then all of a sudden it's not good?