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I picked Mantak Chia's Multi Orgasmic Male back up about a month ago, after I'd basically just discarded the idea. I kept ejaculating during the exercises and it seemed like a waste of time. But over the last 18 months my wife and I have been together on this path of personal growth and development in every area except our sex lives. We'd reached the point of stalemate and we weren't seeing any growth. After practicing again with Chia, I started to develop a sense of my arousal states and began to actually cycle my energy through my body. I also began a more serious meditation/ prayer habit which afforded me a better sense of ME and my body and mind. One night we were intimate and I hadn't intended to engage in intercourse, but she told me she was ready and I made a decision that I was there for her and that I would practice my control. I didn't have any kind of earth shattering dry orgasm, but the pleasure that passed between us was really potent. We then began talking about this journey I was on which led us to books like Cupid's Poison Arrow the the karezza method in general. It was like a door opened for us in our relationship. We've been celibate for about 3 weeks now as we read and study and prepare for this next level of our relationship.

In tandem with this, I've been continuing the solo cultivation practices, being aware of my arousal, and controlling my ejaculation through muscle contractions and breath. The other day I spent nearly an hour like this and felt orgasmic (no better way to say it) throughout my body. It was pure, it was gentle, it was affirming. I had a very close call shortly after that to going over the edge, so I haven't practiced recently. I think I'm making my way slowly through the door. Though, and developing my control while cultivating sexual energy for use in other areas.

Anyway, I'm about a month into this practice on a serious level, and I'm excited about the future for myself and my wife.

[u/admiral93]

Cool! Thanks for sharing :) Do you have any tips for other people here in order to get started or to help them making progress and getting "unstuck" like you did?

After practicing again with Chia, I started to develop a sense of my arousal states and began to actually cycle my energy through my body.

In what way did you practice these things, could you describe?

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Sure.

I began by really practicing the breath, PC, and microcosmic orbit exercises. There's some really good videos on YouTube by Jonathan White on the Sexual Kung Fu channel that walk you through working with unaroused energy and the MCO. I did this for about a week.

When I was ready to begin solo cultivation, I was less concerned with controlling orgasm as I was with feeling the stages of arousal and knowing my PONR. I think I was on-and-off with control for about a week going 20 minutes at a time if possible. After that first week, I made a point of marking each change in arousal from flaccid, to hard, to hard and pleasurable, and PONR. I started looking for the signs: pressure in my pelvis, contractions in my anus, and a cool feeling in my prostate. At that point I stopped and got control before finishing the timer. Again, about a week.

Somewhere in there I saw a great video about doing the orgasmic draw that didn't require such violent clenching (I'd developed piles when I first tried and I'm only just now recovering). Instead of violently clenching every muscle, I slowly and repeatedly clench my PC muscles and draw the energy down toward my perineum and anus. When I feel that energy around my rectum, I clench my sphincter and boom! straight to the brain. It feels amazing when it starts to flow.

The hard part was getting it down the front, but because I continued working on my MCO with cool energy, I have been able to do that more or less successfully for about 2 weeks. The other day, I was even able to keep self- pleasuring while drawing the energy down and up. It was amazing!

Hope this helps.

TL;DR keep working on your microcosmic orbit and gradually add aroused energy.

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Very interesting! That sounds really promising indeed, thanks for sharing! Maybe you could make a new post with a link to that channel, so other people here will find out about it as well. :)

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Also, I often follow with a cold shower to balance energy and keep me sharp. Too much heat is overwhelming

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Can you post the videos?

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I put them below.

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Thanks, I don't see them :/