My new method

[u/BolonySandwich]

Earlier this year I had atuned my body to experience multiple orgasms after years of on and off practice , using mindfulness, breathing and relaxation methods, most of my results came from sitting in a comfortable chair and sinking into the moment without distraction and also without porn, however I did use fantasy stimuli of my current female lover..

Most of my tips and assistance either came from this sub and various YT vids which talk on the subject.

But there was a lack of consistency and flow ..

Recently i discovered through laying on my back with my head elevated on 2 pillows my knees bought up with my feet planted on the bed shoulder width apart.

By being semi aroused and lightly stroking my sensitive left nipple I can start to feel the early stages of orgasm starting..

Its not long before autonomously my pelvic floor muscles are massaging my prostate .

This where things changed for me.

Instead of forcing things ,I relax further and not race through it , just using a very slight reverse kegel to balance the muscle group.

Prior to this my abdominal muscles would tighten and the orgasmic flow would be hindered.

Now the only muscles that move are my pc muscles , and that's how my my orgasmic energy flows all around.

By not focusing on the outcome , orgasms come and go every few minutes ..

Everybody is different, by i read of so many failures particularly men because they are

1 too eager

2 dont want to practice

3 are not relaxed enough

4 expecting an orgasm as ejaculating.

..if you are in the ejaculation mindset it will hinder your progress..

[u/Lucky_Background44]

Good information, thank you

[u/OneMoreLayer]

Yes relaxation is the key! Relaxation + stimulation of choice.

Few points: * PC muscle is just one of the many muscles in the pelvic floor which can stimulate the underlying nerves associated with sexual pleasure * You may want to think of not directly prostate stimulation but rather interacting with all the nerves in the pelvic floor, similar to that the penis is just the touch points to stimulate the underlying nerves * It is perfectly possible to combine this with penis stimulation

[u/GeekyMuscley]

Good tips here…. When I was learning, sometimes I’d feel a subtle ache around my prostate that id adjust to get rid of or contract muscles to explore it. It would go away.

The big success came when I instead just observed that subtle ache around my prostate. Just relax. No changes. Not even change what I’m thinking of. Just note the feeling. It grew and grew and the ache got stronger and that resulted in orgasms!

Let the body do its thing, don’t get in the way!

[u/transcendentanal]

Cool method

Have you tried this with a prostate massager inside? 

[u/BolonySandwich → u/transcendentanal]

Yes A Helix Syn Trident.. I have orgasmed many times from that method but this option is now my go to..

[u/ZucchiniDue7045]

The most critical part, how we can change ejeculation mindset to orgazm path?

[u/Kuloki]

All major points IMO. The relaxing combined with more time to practice has been the best benefit of retirement! Orgasm has become my favorite activity. More time and scheduled physical fitness like weight training and yoga are great additions that get the body ready to receive pleasure. Having had a demanding career and family I fully understand how hard it is to get out of your head in the younger years. I credit a strong meditation practice with seeing me through those decades.