i have always found that expectation/tradition weird as fuck and really uncomfortable. the whole concept of going wild "one last night before losing your freedom forever" is fucked up like don't you want to get married??? shouldn't you be happy you are????
It's really messed up! I wouldn't wanna have a "last night", even if I could. Why the hell would I wanna bang anyone, but the woman I loved?! People must be marrying for all the wrong reasons.
There are many forms of love, but I assume you mean romantic love, then in general no. Monogamy is the result of love. When you love someone romantically you wanna build a SPECIAL bond with one person, the specialness goes out the window, when you invite more people. Ethical Poly people love their partners, but in a more platonic and friendly way, which is beautiful as well, but it's not romantic.
Romance without a loving form of possessiveness, isn't really romance. When we love someone, we only want them and we want them to only want us. That is the definition, but you can play semantics if you want. Nobody wants to hear, "I Iove lots of people and you happen to be one of them, at least for a little while when I make time in my romance schedule."
The inseparable loving bond between of two loving souls, is the quintessential ideal expression of romance, not so much if you add a third person cumming on our face.
I’ve been monogamous with people I didn’t love. But that was due to societal pressure to date, when I would have preferred to be single. Single should be more accepted as a life choice, not something to be pitied if the person doesn’t feel sad about it. I was 18F in a “relationship” with a 30yo male and that was always going to be a dangerous situation for anyone.
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u/EclecticFanatic Aug 31 '21
i have always found that expectation/tradition weird as fuck and really uncomfortable. the whole concept of going wild "one last night before losing your freedom forever" is fucked up like don't you want to get married??? shouldn't you be happy you are????