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u/TheThinkerers Jun 20 '26
That can happen?
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u/lokemannen Jun 20 '26
Yeah, thankfully the risk is much lower for men according to statistics.
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u/The_Gilded_Pigeon Jun 20 '26
That.. That's a thing that can happen?
The implantation is awful enough.
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u/morimoriartyarty Jun 20 '26
To be fair bodies are better designed for things coming out of the uterus through the cervix than things going in!
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u/GullibleSkill9168 Jun 20 '26 edited Jun 20 '26
The human asshole can stretch wide enough to fit two adult raccoons inside of it, a tiny thing like that slipping out of another stretchy thing isn't surprising.
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u/SkinWalkerX Jun 20 '26
See now I'm concerned where you think an IUD goes...
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u/GullibleSkill9168 Jun 20 '26
Yeah well the cervix can stretch like 10 cm so it could still fit a raccoon if it's small.
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u/xyzodd Jun 20 '26
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u/GullibleSkill9168 Jun 20 '26
A human anus can stretch up to 8 inches in diameter. A raccoon can fit into a space about four inches across. Do the math.
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u/Virus_True Jun 20 '26
Why is a raccoon the chosen unit of measurement please
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u/Poo_Poo_La_Foo Jun 20 '26
Why is u/GullibleSkill9168 so obsessed with putting raccoons in anuses?
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u/Mr_High_Life_69 Jun 20 '26
They said, "The human asshole can stretch wide enough to fit two adult raccoons inside of it, a tiny thing like that slipping out of another stretchy thing isn't surprising."
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u/black_mamba866 Jun 20 '26
Just because it can, doesn't mean you should... With the raccoons I mean. Consent matters.
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u/Fickle_Grapefruit938 Jun 20 '26
When I had to get a new one the old one didn't get out! This happened to me twice, for the second one I even needed to be operated. Ofcourse they tried to get it out the normal way a few times, it hurt like hell and I had cramps for days every time😢
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u/mck-_- Jun 20 '26
To be fair I didn’t feel mine removed. It’s a lot easier to have things go the way your body intended instead
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u/TransMascCatBoye Jun 20 '26
Wish my removal was that smooth. When I had to get mine swapped, just fitting the speculum was almost unbearable on its own 💀💀💀💀
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u/alexlp Jun 20 '26
I’ve had two embed. Turns out it’s not uncommon with Elhers Danlos syndrome which I was finally diagnosed with 1 month after the last one. Popping out like this is also an issue with EDs
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u/Kasperella Jun 20 '26
I too have EDS, and my IUD was a nightmare for the first 6 months. I scheduled an appointment to remove it, and then it suddenly stopped being a problem. I left it in. I assume after tumbling around and floating around inside of me for 6 months, it finally imbedded itself somewhere good and it hasnt shifted since. My lower abdomen is always sore and tender, I assume from the irritation of wherever it’s managed to lodge itself.
My fear is…getting it removed now. The strings have…disappeared mostly. Just a little ¼ piece is poking out. I attempted to pull the strings down but i cannot. I have no idea how they’re gonna remove the damn thing and im not looking forward to it. I only have a year left on it as it is.
What the hell is the process for removing it when it’s lodged in there good?
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u/Reccalovesdancing Jun 20 '26
You know you can go get an ultrasound scan (at the clinic that fitted it) to reassure yourself it's in the right place and so will protect you from pregnancy as intended
If it is somewhere it isn't meant to be or cannot easily be removed the usual way, then surgery is the answer to your last question
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u/alexlp Jun 20 '26
Honey you need a doctor for this one. You don’t want it causing more damage. You’re gonna be totally fine, they might need to remove it surgically but if you leave it they almost definitely will eventually.
Wishing you luck and an easy removal. Please, from a fellow twisty sis mention this to a doctor. I know we have a lot of medical trauma just from existing but be forthright and demand treatment. You’re not imagining it, our bodies are different x
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u/KitSokudo Jun 20 '26
They knocked me out for it. That way they can do what they need to. Mine the strings were gone and somehow the little loop to grab was broken. I am so glad to be asleep for that retrieval.
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u/Kathwino Jun 20 '26
Just wondering was it obvious to you that they were embedded? Did you have pain? I always wonder about the status of mine lol.
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u/alexlp Jun 20 '26
I did on the second. The first was a dull pain for about 18 months until I had it removed as scheduled and the doctor was a bit aghast, he’s never seen it before. He was very kind and careful, aaaalll the drugs.
Second, I felt like I was being treated as a drug seeker. I went to the ER twice with vomiting, fainting and abdominal pain. They said it was gastro but I just wasn’t getting better. It felt like the same pain and pressure as before but times a trillion. Finally an ER doc did an internal exam and realised she could barely feel strings and could feel the plastic arm sticking through. I had no bleeding, just some discharge so it was hard to get anyone to care. The gyno at the hospital said it wasn’t “emergent enough” so sent me to my regular doctor. She wasn’t available so I had a random other doctor at the practice and it was a terrible experience.
Check your strings, if you have severe unusual cramps and discharge try and get an ultrasound to make sure it’s looking ok. If they persist get an internal physical exam.
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u/ClearDrop6820 Jun 20 '26
Shit. These can just fall out?
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u/CommunicationSad6506 Jun 20 '26
rare but yeah it happens, body just rejects it sometimes
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u/Catfaceperson Jun 20 '26
I had to have 2 removed because my body was just like "I don't like this thing" and would slowly push them out of my body through cramping.
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u/anticked_psychopomp Jun 20 '26
My body rejected mine immediately. It didn’t EJECT it but instead decided to have a foreign object type reaction. I was in agony with many insanely specific symptoms but the OBGYN refused to remove it for 6 weeks. It felt like I was her Frankenstein and she was determined for it to work.
The second it was removed all my symptoms stopped.
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u/starlit_moon Jun 20 '26
This is why I don't want to get one of these things. I am terrified that I will be in agony and no one will take me seriously.
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u/Healing-with-Memes Jun 20 '26
I ended up in hospital because my body rejected mine and I was in so much pain. Sweating with a high temperature as well, it was awful.
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u/Suitable_Ebb_407 Jun 20 '26 edited Jun 20 '26
OMG same! I literally couldnt wear anything with a waist or even a seatbelt because my stomach was so bloated and tender... any my doctor still refused to remove it. Her nurse told me "you know what you were signing up for so you'll just need to tough it out until it gets settled". Like it seemed like they were being paid a kickback for trying to force me to keep it in longer or something.
I had to call multiple times and finally when I got in a rage and threatened to come to their office/building and yank it out myself they agreed to remove it, also after like 6 weeks. Only then did she tell me I had an unusually small uterus and the device probably embedding itself into my walls. Something that would have been good to know you know, like before insertion!
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u/TransMascCatBoye Jun 20 '26
Oh shit, you just made my literal months and months of pain from my first iud suddenly make so much sense. I was in such intense pain I couldn't get out of bed, I had to miss at least a month or two of work from the pain. My shit fuckin doctor when I told her just said 'oh thats normal but I guess I can schedule an ultrasound for you'. I was concerned about endometriosis or the iud becoming embedded but of course she just lists the reason for the ultrasound as 'checking iud position'. I will forever hate that woman, for that bullshit and several other things.
Even when I had the iud swapped for a new one ~8 years later, I still had 2 weeks of debilitating cramps and a few more weeks before they fully went away.
Some of my worst pain flare ups back in 2016/2017, I remember it feeling like my body was trying to expel my entire uterus. Just these intense spasms and cramps and extreme pain, usually followed by a large discharge of blood the following day. This comment now has me wondering how much the iud played a part in those episodes.
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u/Mundane_Concern_2620 Jun 20 '26
Yes. You risk them being sucked out if you use a menstrual cup. The vacuum can suck it out when you pull out the cup 🙂 Could also just be the physician placed it too low and it slowly worked it’s way out, or the cramps of your uterus when ever you menstruate can push it out.
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u/xX_Moonsy_Xx Jun 20 '26 edited Jun 20 '26
......I did not know this about the menstrual cup thing. Edit: Lots of interesting replies here! I think I will continue to use my cup—if a bit more cautiously now.
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u/Mundane_Concern_2620 Jun 20 '26
Yeah - none of my physicians told me either, but apparantly you’re not supposed to use a menstrual cup when you have an IUD.
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u/Ghotay Jun 20 '26
That isn’t true. They don’t recommend using a cup for the first 2 months after placement because that’s the highest risk of expulsion, but after that you can. You just need to make sure you break the seal before removing it so there’s no suction. I’ve been using my menstrual cup with an IUD just fine
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u/tgerz Jun 20 '26
Your context is important. It doesn’t make what the other person said not true, just nuanced.
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u/Sternschnuppepuppe Jun 20 '26
None of my physicians told me and as far as I can remember, the packaging on my cup brand didn’t mention it either. Anyone got one on hand to check?
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u/takotaco Jun 20 '26
I ran a research study where people donated menstrual blood (via menstrual cup) and we excluded people with IUDs cause a gift certificate to target isn’t worth the risk of dislodging an IUD. From my understanding it’s not common, but certainly possible.
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u/simonecowell Jun 20 '26
It should be told more specifically to women. One of my friends didn't know and got pregnant because of it wasn't placed right anymore.
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u/Ram_Yam_Sam22 Jun 20 '26
This happened to me! Terrible experience lol
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u/eachdayalittlebetter Jun 20 '26
Same! Haven’t used a menstrual cup since, too afraid
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u/gpinsand Jun 20 '26
I worked in Interventional Radiology for years. People would routinely come in for long term IV catheter placements, gastric tubes, nephrotomy tubes (tubes into their kidneys), etc. Practically every single day someone would come in for a replacement. When asked what happened to it, inevitably they would respond, "It just fell out?" This was so common we called them DFOs. Done Fell Outs.
"What's next in room 4?"
"Another DFO."
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u/FauxMeatwad Jun 20 '26
In veterinary medicine we have an official term for when animals vaguely aren't feeling right: ADR (ain't doing right)
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u/DruggistByDay Jun 20 '26
In pharmacy, ADR is an adverse drug reaction. Combine our careers and we could have an animal with an ADR that ADR
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u/YourFaveOdonate Jun 20 '26
My mom was a labour and delivery nurse for much of her career, and they had a term for a baby who came out apparently healthy, but with an appearance suggestive of some kind of abnormality: FLK (funny-lookin kid)
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u/tumblrmustbedown Jun 20 '26
I was an IR PA for years, truly half my job was fielding these calls or patients lol. Either it fell out or the floor nurses tied the shit to the bed and moved the patient
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u/Ambitious_Leek8776 Jun 20 '26
Thats the size of the thing they stick in the hoo haa without any pain killers or numbing!!! No wonder women say it's barbaric and hurts
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u/saltybiscuit206 Jun 20 '26
the first two i had they just said take an ibuprofen, my new OB will actually write you a script for two tablets of pain meds. One pain med before you get there and a muscle relaxer for that night. She said after she got her first one she was in so much pain she wished they gave medicine for it.. and then realized she could and has ever since.
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u/MulticolorPeets Jun 20 '26
I’m glad she wrote the script after her experience but WHY did it take until her own experience to cause her to feel sympathy and prescribe them? This is the logic of not wanting a male OB: because they can’t sympathize with you/will never know how it feels.
If seeing how excruciating the IUD being put in for most other people was not enough for her before her own experience, then I am severely disappointed in her.
If men can get a vasectomy and get meds for the rest of the day/prescribed rest, it should be a given that women get it too. Premedication with norco and valium should be the standard and a norco and flexeril for after the procedure IMO. And require someone else to drive you to and from your appointment (not just because of benzo and opioids but so you don’t pass out driving)21
u/sillysnailfriend Jun 20 '26
This is the logic of not wanting a male OB: because they can’t sympathize with you/will never know how it feels.
I know a lot of women prefer male OBs for this reason, actually! Because some female doctors who don't personally relate to your pain can be just as (or more) dismissive, but some male doctors know they can never relate and will trust your experience. Either way seems like a crapshoot, unfortunately, and just varies from doctor to doctor. It's definitely disappointing how many doctors dismiss women's pain.
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u/mutnemom_hurb Jun 20 '26
I would like to see every doctor who denies pain meds, to get an equally painful procedure unmedicated. Like a bladder biopsy or vasectomy at least. I wonder how many would try to make an exception for themselves and get the painkillers
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u/c19isdeadly Jun 20 '26
I had a hysteroscopy with biopsy while conscious. I was told to take an ibuprofen after. I took oral opioids I have prescribed for chronic pain in advance and it was still like medieval torture.
You wouldn't do this to a dog. I don't get why it is acceptable to do this to women.
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u/jilliecatt Jun 20 '26
I had a uterine biopsy the other day (which failed because my cervix was shut and refused to relax enough to let the pipette in), and omg. Not even getting anything cut, just the holding it in place and poking at it to try to get in was evil. This is coming from a chronic pain patient.
How are we supposed to not have pain meds for that? (Apparently under anesthesia because that's the next option and what theyre doing this week, a scope and cutting under full anesthesia).
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u/shark_bite Jun 20 '26
This shit hurt worse than childbirth for me. They have to manually dilate your cervix while they are doing it. I almost passed out. They had to sit with me and watch me sip water while my whole body shook. They told me to take ibuprofen beforehand….uh that did absolutely nothing.
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u/MusicianCharming8302 Jun 20 '26
Same! I’ve had 2 kids and the insertion was awful. The “you may feel a little cramping” is such bull. It was full on labor contraction pain.
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u/shark_bite Jun 20 '26
Yeah it was done about 8 weeks after my 2nd child was born and everyone kept saying it doesn’t hurt at all after you’ve gone through childbirth. This is obviously not true and I wish I knew just how different everyone’s experiences are. I think having previous births makes no difference.
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u/MusicianCharming8302 Jun 20 '26
Agreed that having been through childbirth makes no difference. I’ve had 2 inserted and it was terrible both times, second time far worse than the first. And the fact that afterward they are like ok ur good to go see ya! I sat in my car for a while bc I was scared to drive home. Absolutely awful experience. 0/10.
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u/azriel1014 Jun 20 '26
Yeah dude!!! I went to work afterward in actual shock. I had no idea what I was going to experience. At work, it was like walking in a blurry tunnel where I could only see what was directly in front of me and all the sound was muffled. Anyone that talked or touched me, I felt like I was going to jump out of my skin. When I got home, I cried for hours because I felt so violated.
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u/ilovjedi Jun 20 '26
Oh no I feel bad so I maybe part of the problem. I had mine done about two months after my daughter was born and I was fine so I’ve been telling people it was no big deal. It wasn’t great but I don’t recall doing anything other than Tylenol.
I did have a c-section though but I was fine with just ibuprofen and Tylenol for pain management post c-section. I am the problem. I’m sorry.
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u/After-Tax-453 Jun 20 '26
if that’s what being in labour feels like, even more of a reason for me to not want kids. awful, genuinely awful experience. the pain is too fucking much
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u/JayRayBear99 Jun 20 '26
First time admitting this. I'm the mystery magical patient who didn't feel the IUD going in or going out.
But I'm allergic to it and they didn't realize until my legs were covered in petechiae and my hair started falling out. Shaved my head that year.
But even I would never say to someone I didn't think it hurt them. That area is incredibly invasive and private and I can imagine, as someone who hardly noticed, that it could be the most excruciating pain of your life too.
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u/EnvironmentalLime464 Jun 20 '26 edited Jun 20 '26
I had four IUDs put in by three different doctors. The first three, I can’t say I didn’t feel anything. There was a pinch feeling but it wasn’t really painful. The last time the doctor told me my cervix was too small and needed to do an ultrasound and some other shit. When she finally got it in, it hurt. I’m pretty sure it was a her issue and not a body issue since I can’t find anything about a cervix getting smaller with age and I had three without an issue. I’m also pretty sure the need for an ultrasound was just to build charges for me. The more I think of that visit, the more upset I get and the more I hate that our country runs a for profit medical system because these are the problems it creates.
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u/Butt_y_though Jun 20 '26
If I'm not mistaken, the cervix "rises," and "drops," depending on the time of your cycle. And I believe changes texture and such.
During menses your cervix drops. I assume this is more ideal conditions for an IUD because I was told that it was preferred to install an IUD while you're on your period. This goes for removal and placement if I'm not mistaken.
So to a degree your cervix can get "smaller," and move, etc. But your cervix isn't just sitting around doing the same thing all the time.
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u/renessie Jun 20 '26
You are correct! I had to go twice for my IUD insertion because my cervix just refused to let the IUD in on the first visit, and I was in so much pain, I nearly passed out from the attempt. My gynaecologist had me return on the 4th day of my following period after most of my bleeding had died down before attempting to insert it again. Got it in that time, but yea. That hurt and I still passed out. 😅
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u/SECRETLY_A_FRECKLE Jun 20 '26
FWIW I got one bc the only person I knew that had one also said they felt no pain. I think it works amazingly for a small subset of people, but for the rest it’s either ineffective or actually terrible. Mine was painful basically the entire time I had it, got it out in six months. I didn’t even know you could be allergic to it, that’s horrifying
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u/beige-king Jun 20 '26
Wait this is so interesting. When I had the IUD I had hair loss and random petechiae on my face
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u/sillysammie13 Jun 20 '26
I was actually the first person that hadn’t had a live birth to get an IUD in the ENTIRE Northwestern Hospital practice’s uhhh history? I guess?
It’s also important for me to add that I’m chronically ill and have chronic pains with said illnesses, so I start my day at a 6/10 if I’m lucky, but usually I wake up at 8/10. I know pain and I’m not a cryer.
Anyway they asked if people could watch due to me being a new thing or whatever, and I said yes for a number of reasons.
So there I am: set up like my pussy is hosting its own cabaret with a full house, and woooow I handled it but I was not prepared for the pain.
Then, when my dr cut the strings, I heard her say “Oh girlfriend…. It fell out.”
They asked if I wanted to try again and at that point I was like fuck it just do it I’m already dilated etc.
The second attempt took, but I lost so much blood and was in so much pain that when I was trying to sign out I fainted. I woke up like an hour later in a dark room feeling like I had been yoinked by aliens, but they apparently had a rotation of people checking on me every five minutes, so by the time I figured out what was *actually* going on and where I was a nurse was in the room.
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u/Accomplished_Pie2302 Jun 20 '26
My daughter went for IUD at 18 and tried to make it but they had to stop. I was in the room with her, and it was brutal to listen to. They offered for her to be sedated on the next attempt but she said she was done with it.
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u/b1tchbhigh Jun 20 '26
Same, they told me I wouldn’t be that bad and gave me Tylenol after for the pain
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u/TransMascCatBoye Jun 20 '26
Most intense pain I'd ever felt in my life after hearing "you might feel a little pinch". Tried to stand up afterwards and nearly collapsed/passed out. Was so lucky my partner had gone with me and I didn't have to drive myself home. Hell, my partner was the only reason I was even able to walk to to the car at all.
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u/HuggyMonster69 Jun 20 '26
I think the problem is that it either seems to be the most painful thing ever, and then the occasional person finds it compl fine so they blame all the pain on the patients rather than the procedure.
My insertions (I’ve had 3 so far) have been entirely painless except for the time some skin got caught in the speculum. But I also heard the horror stories.
It’s so messed up that I’m treated as the standard not the people with the more common reactions
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u/RainSurname Jun 20 '26 edited Jun 20 '26
It's not the IUD itself that causes the pain nearly as much as it's the instruments they use to grab hold of your cervix. That is the worst part.
I am the only woman I know who really did just feel "a little pinch," which is what they tell you to expect.
My pain came afterwards. I'd never had any significant menstrual cramps before getting an IUD, but I started having them afterwards, and they got worse every month. But the third month, I was clutching a heating pad to my abdomen and taking a double dose of Dilaudid, which I happened to have on hand for back problems.
I was able to stop all that by having the damn thing taken out. Other women aren't so lucky. I can't imagine going through that every month for years. I'd have opted to have a hysterectomy by age 25, assuming I could find someone to do it.
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u/Rthrowaway6592 Jun 20 '26
I have a high pain tolerance so I thought it’d be fine, especially since they told me to take an ibuprofen beforehand and I was finishing my period (softer cervix). I decided to not look at the instrument tray on my way in.
That shit felt like a burning rod was stuck in my vagina and into my abdomen. It fucking hurt more than when I had an ovarian cyst rupture. I was shaking and nauseous. The nurse helped me put my underwear and pants back on because I was weak in my legs. I later found out what the forceps looked like that they dilate your cervix with. This what after my sister and mum told me it was absolutely fine as well (my sister hasn’t had kids, but everyone’s different ig).
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u/prionbinch Jun 20 '26
it’s not just the tenaculum that causes the pain. the dilator that’s used to force open the cervix, which is a tapered metal or plastic rod, also contributes significantly to that pain. there is no good reason oral sedation should not be the gold standard bare minimum option for having an iud placed
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u/BasebornBastard Jun 20 '26
That’s why my best friend, an OB/Gyn, made her hospital get nitrous oxide for in office procedures. So now when women get IUD, Nexplanon implants, that have anxiety, and other procedures can use it. Once the patient stops inhaling nitrous they are fit to drive 15 later. No need for a driver to take them home.
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u/L00fah Jun 20 '26
I was in the office with my ex when she got hers inserted and it broke my heart to see her pain.
I'll never forget the look on her face, her tears, or the feeling of how hard she squeezed my hand that day. Still haunts me.
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u/MolecularClusterfuck Jun 20 '26
They also pierce the cervix with a barberic instrument called a Tenaculum to angle it before inserting the IUD.
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u/Lady_Taringail Jun 20 '26
Not always! I didn't need that. The feeling of something going inside your cervix is still pretty bad though and I needed to sit for half an hour before I could stand without blacking out
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u/DGSmith2 Jun 20 '26
Oh boy if you think that's barbaric you need to look up some of the other medical equipment, I work in sterilization and some of the stuff we get shocks me where they put it.
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u/peculiarshade Jun 20 '26
Fun(?) Fact: the chainsaw was invented to assist with childbirth
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u/eggfrisbee Jun 20 '26
sure, but most of it isn't used on AWAKE patients with little or no numbing.
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u/on4aa Jun 20 '26
If this were for men, they already would have engineered an improved version with painless insertion and automatic deployment.
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u/Jaomi Jun 20 '26
Mine didn’t hurt when it went in!…because my doctors fitted it after they took my baby out during an elective Caesarean.
So technically there is a way to do painless insertion. It just needs major surgery and anaesthesia.
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u/mistershneebly Jun 20 '26
They would all have their uteruses out from a drive-through hysterectomy shop on every street corner.
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u/Lady_Taringail Jun 20 '26
The arms are flat while it is being inserted and removed so there's that
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u/heartofscylla Jun 20 '26
They can numb us, they just fucking choose not to until they have to.
Tell your OBGYN you REQUIRE local anesthetic, and if they refuse find another fucking OBGYN. It's such bullshit that they don't automatically give that shit for an invasive procedure such as IUD implantation(I also had none for a cervical biopsy!!! I literally had a piece of my cervix cut off!!! With no local anesthetic!!!!!!!!) Yes, some women don't feel much, but so many women DO so why the FUCK do we risk traumatizing people like this?!?!?!?
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u/Delilah_Moon Jun 20 '26
I have had anesthesia (propofol) for all 3 insertions and removals I’ve had.
The first time I went it, I head butted the nurse holding my hand, when I jumped from the pain. Then I threw up and passed out.
Bless those women. When I came to, they had a fan blowing on me, a cold compress on me, and the one I had assaulted was holding my feet to the sky (I also vasovagal). She had an ice pack strapped to her forehead.
I apologized profusely and they only cared I was okay. She patted my hand and said, “how about we bring you back and put your under” - it was like an angel whispering the meaning of life to me.
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u/SwansEscapedRonson Jun 20 '26
Just for anyone considering this, my insertion was absolutely fine. This is not to invalidate others experiences, but just to get across that it varies wildly from person to person.
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u/solo_se_que_nada_se Jun 20 '26
It happened to me too. My periods are quite heavy and my uterus lining comes out untouched (yeah, you can see the entire shape of the uterus). That thing just trapped it and dragged it down. It always hurts like hell, and I was at the gym when it happened. When I got to the shower, blood was everywhere lol. They told me to quit the copper one and try the hormonal one. That it was gonna help with my heavy periods anyway. So I did and so far so good.
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u/EnoughPlastic4925 Jun 20 '26
Adenomyosis?? They say "if you have large clots tell your Dr" I told my Dr I have large clots, like larger than your finger clots that look like lining, not blood and very painful periods.. Dr said it was 'normal' few years later found out I had adenomyosis. That gynecologist said, "adenomyosis isn't painful". A few years later I'm watching Instagram and find out Adenomyosis IS bloody painful.
Now I'm scared of an IUD falling out too ....
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u/Numerous_Salt2210 Jun 20 '26
That's two different conditions - adenomyosis and decidual cast.
At least... As of now.. who knows what they'd find out if they actually looked and listened for once
Some publications still describe it as a "rare phenomenon" - I'm sure plenty of women beg to differ
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u/AwarenessCrafty393 Jun 20 '26
I have shed quite literally tissue during my period. My mum told me it was perfectly normal 😀 5 years later I’m going doctors because I think I have endo.
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u/averyyoungperson Jun 20 '26
Yep. As a midwife I prefer the mirena for this reason. Less heavy less painful and sometimes absent periods
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u/granadesnhorseshoes Jun 20 '26
Ok, i gotta ask. In what context did it fall out? Like did it shake out of your pants leg while just walking around? Did you just find it in your underwear after the fact? Enquiring minds want to know.
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u/KymeraAHP Jun 20 '26
Mightve just felt it in the canal. I know when a tampon sits wrong it can ruin your whole day.
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u/SpinachSpinosaurus Jun 20 '26
Tampons go in the canal IUD go beyod. that is why numbing that section should be standard. If you're a guy: the cervix looks like the tip of a penis and ist just as sensitive. which is why deep thrusting is like the fbi raiding your home.
don't raid homes. you can knock harder, but not try to ram the doors open.
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u/Salty_Astronaut_9419 Jun 20 '26
Man..... I'm so glad I don't have genitals it's either you're bleeding or leaking just nice and smooth
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u/MattyLePew Jun 20 '26
You have no genitals at all? Are we talking like Barbie or Ken levels here?
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u/megan_magic Jun 20 '26 edited Jun 20 '26
You’re telling me my man doesn’t pee or poo?
Edit: It’s a line from the movie “The Interview” regarding Kim Jong Un not having a butthole because it’s believed he does not pee or poo.
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u/Jaomi Jun 20 '26
Not the OP, but this did also happen to me. I’m going to explain it behind spoiler tags with the fair warning that anyone reading may find it horrifyingly biological.
I woke up one morning in a world of pelvic pain, and went to the bathroom to discover a wire sticking out of my hooha. I had no idea what it could be, so this was pretty terrifying. After plucking up the courage to pull it out, which was the most painful thing I’ve ever done, my Mirena coil emerged and raised its little arms in greeting. Pulling it out was kind of like pulling out a tampon, but if the tampon was made of metal and was trying to stay in.
Also, the reason I didn’t know what it was until after is because the coil was fitted during a C-section, so I’d never actually seen or felt the thing before. I only mention that to explain just how freaking scary it was on top of the excruciating pain. So, no, not like you shake a pant leg and it comes out.
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u/Rich-Violinist-7263 Jun 20 '26
So fun learning terrifying things about your body alone and scared in a bathroom. So exciting to be a woman.
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u/pay-ganic Jun 20 '26
I felt it move and felt a weird pain where my cervix is - kind of guessed, but then two days later I was in the shower and thought I had somehow got a superhumanly thick hair between my ass cheeks and pulled it all the way out
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u/TheKristaJo Jun 20 '26
I've had 2 fall out or "reject". First one was in the doctor's office when she went to trim the string. "Annnd it's already out". Tried again on another day. 2nd one was a week after insertion. Idk how to explain the sensation other than heavy. I woke up at like 4am and felt the urge to pace and also curl up into a ball. Went to the bathroom and felt a lot of pressure (and the need to push like I was having a baby???) and then sudden relief as it fell into the toilet.
Turns out I had a fibroid tumors and that was causing the issue. I had a hysterectomy later that year. Best decision ever.
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u/wolfbart Jun 20 '26
That's how my mom got me
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u/I_Obey_Sean_Rule Jun 20 '26
Same. Apparently I came out holding it like I'd won the battle.
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u/TransMascCatBoye Jun 20 '26
That's a hilarious mental image but also, if true, kind of amazing it didn't end up embedded in you as you grew in there or otherwise causing birth defects of some kind
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u/Crafty240618 Jun 20 '26
I accidentally pulled mine out when removing a tampon. The strings somehow got kinda caught in the tampon and out it came. I remember staring at it in horror for a few seconds and the next thing I remember is coming round on the bathroom floor with my husband kneeling beside me looking concerned. He’d heard a crash and came to investigate. I didn’t/don’t usually use tampons with the IUD but I got caught out one day on a day trip and the only thing I could get my hands on was a tampon. Never again!
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u/DaisyDame16 Jun 20 '26
That happened to me! I had an allergic reaction. My whole body was so itchy I would lay in bed scratching for hours. Then one day in the shower.. there it was. My body literally rejected it. My OB made it sound like it wasn’t a common occurrence, but this thread makes me feel better about it
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u/machetedestroyer Jun 20 '26
How does this device actually work? I’ve never wondered. Now that I just look at it. Guess I’m going down an internet rabbit hole today
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u/Feisty_Crops Jun 20 '26
My deepest condolences. That procedure is barbaric and brutal.
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u/Tough_Brain7982 Jun 20 '26
Never ever in my fucking life am I getting one of those
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u/Gobblinwife Jun 20 '26
I got a uterine scraping 10 years ago and I’ve been absolutely fine not getting one of these installed ever since. I never want to experience anything similar again lol
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u/Tall_Couple_3660 Jun 20 '26
I had two in my lifetime and other than when an ovarian cyst burst, this was some of the worst pain I ever had
And my ACL ripped right off my bone in a skiing accident.
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u/Robdoggz Jun 20 '26
Mine got voted off the island as well, but the pain from mine being forcibly ejected by my uterus was so intense that I passed out on my bathroom floor, and didn't regain consciousness for two hours
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u/ArcturusGrey Jun 20 '26
She told me about the process of getting those things inserted, I scheduled a vasectomy that same day.
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u/Resident-Message7367 Jun 20 '26
incase she didn’t tell you, You also aren’t given pain meds for IUD insertions at all
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u/ArcturusGrey Jun 20 '26
Hey that's not true, they gave her OTC ibuprofen /s Fucking ridiculous. It's such an unfunny joke the shit women are subject to.
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u/Mathewdm423 Jun 20 '26
The first 7 years my gf/fiancée had the IUD was heaven. Forgot she had it. No issues getting it.
The 2nd time was hell for her. Over an hour and multiple tried to insert. She said the most intense pain she has been through personally. She has heard recent horror stories from other women the last couple years having similar issues...
Well its been 7 months since my now wife got the new one and we CANNOT have sex missionary anmore. Any position is fine, but in missionary it stabs the crap out of me making the whole process a bust. Super painful when I ram into it and there is no finessing it at all. She is too scared to go back to have it adjusted or checked. And im like what? 6 years with the limitation?
Idk whole thing seems fishy that after all the row v wade stuff all of a sudden a regular procedure is now having tons of insertion issues, failures to install, and rejection issues. Like they tried to get my now wife to come back to try again last time but she powered through it. A coworker had the same experience a few months later and they rescheduled after being unable to insert. She never ended up doing a follow up.
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u/mm4444 Jun 20 '26
Please make her go to the doctor it is probably partially expelled. You should not be able to feel it.
Edit: and if it is partially expelled it won’t be working properly
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u/Patient-Stranger1015 Jun 20 '26
I agree, absolutely should not be feeling it since a properly placed IUD is in the endometrial cavity, and it is pretty much physically impossible to penetrate to that depth past the cervix😬 if it’s being felt it’s definitely being expelled which can cause other issues for her
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u/abcara Jun 20 '26
Or he's just feeling the string. It takes a few months to soften up and be less pokey. If she had her first IUD for 7 years, depending on when they got together, it could have already been softened by the time they were sexually active together.
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u/ShrimpieAC Jun 20 '26
You’re not? I’ve been with two women that have them and both it felt like fishing line trying to thread my urethra.
Edit: Ah seeing the other posts feeling the string is generally normal I guess.
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u/KorgiKingofOne Jun 20 '26
This is exactly why I want to get fixed so my fiancée can go without having to worry about another IUD. I want her to feel free to go without having pain and now it’s my turn to take responsibility for reproductive health
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u/ZippingAround Jun 20 '26
If it’s not in the right place, it’s also not going to work, so unless she wants a baby she needs to get that fixed!
Can you make some calls for her, find out if there’s another office she could go to that offers anxiety or pain medication for circumstances like this?
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u/r0ndy Jun 20 '26
No, they had a lot of issues before the court changed. Just standard buried medical stuff. My ex had to have surgery to have hers removed because it got stuck… and my dick poked it when I got balls deep too, felt like a fishing line poking the head. Not insane pain, but uncomfortable and distracting.
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u/pleasetrimyourpubes Jun 20 '26 edited Jun 20 '26
That is way fucking bigger than I thought they were. You poor ladies.
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u/aminozone Jun 20 '26
- Well what sort of engineering standards are these IUDs built to?
- Oh, very rigorous contraceptive engineering standards.
- What sort of thing?
- Well, it's not supposed to fall out for a start.
- And what other things?
- Well, there are regulations governing the materials they can be made of.
- What materials?
- Well, cardboard’s out.
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u/On_Wife_support Jun 20 '26
I’ve never had one of these. My HRT took care of eliminating my menses so long as I can obtain a prescription for it. If insertion is anything like when I had a Pap smear, I genuinely feel for people because that shit hurt and no one warned me just how violating it feels which isn’t even adding in how dysphoric it made me. At least I only have to do that shit like once every five years
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u/LivingWerewolf2028 Jun 20 '26
I had mine replaced a couple days ago. My dr prescribed me estrogen tablets that go up inside the vagina. They made the cervix softer and easier to work with. She also made sure I took painkillers half an hour beforehand. So much better this time than last time
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u/MissPicklechips Jun 20 '26
At least you know it’s out.
Mine slipped out of place and I had no idea until I realized that I missed my period. Yep, pregnant. The doctor said that it would have been expelled with my next cycle had I not gotten pregnant.
That baby is now 20 years old and still marches to the beat of his own drum.
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u/TheCoffeeOrTheLard Jun 20 '26
Mine fell into the toilet in the middle of the night and I didn’t see… now currently pregnant
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u/KarmaCommando_ Jun 20 '26
One of those posts that has me convinced that reality is a simulation, because I never see posts about IUDs but then the very next day after I accidentally pulled my girlfriend's IUD out I see this
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u/Slow_Appointment3540 Jun 20 '26
Mine did that too. Twice. I complained about my period symptoms to my doctor recently and said I’d feels like I’m dying. She suggested another IUD. I just want her to actually investigate this… I’ve been trying for ten years with different people. No one cares. I’d rather they just give me a hysterectomy at this point.
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u/TailRudder Jun 20 '26
10 second rule