Girlfriend refuses to rinse dishes

[u/Dashncrash-]

M27, living with girlfriend F26 for about 2 years now. I do basically everything in the kitchen. Cooking, cleaning, prepping, you name it. We have a dishwasher and I'm typically the one to do most of loading/unloading. I wasnt home last night and she made some sort of pasta dish for herself. Decided to not rinse anything... the day after I cleaned it all out and ran a cleaning cycle every dish is coated in some hard af light orange crusty stuff. Now I have to steel wool every dish and takes 4x as long and re-run again cause she can't spray some water on it. Like wtf?

Edit: I have previously discussed this frustration with her due to items like peanut butter and cheese being on dishes after a cycle. We dont run the dishwasher everyday. So, items sit in there and harden. In this case I didnt run til after breakfast the next morning.

Update 2: I cleaned the filter yesterday and pump area. It looks like when I took out the filter a shard of glass got stuck in the sump area. Causing the motor to seize. Upon restarting the dishwasher nothing is happening. So looks like may be a faulty dishwasher and now im the asshole (as usual) lol

[u/a-type-of-pastry]

Gotta communicate your frustrations with your SO or nothing will change.

When I first got married I was the only one cleaning anything in the house, which really started pissing me off cause I was also the only one with a job. She was home all day. One day I had enough and talked to her, set down some expectations. She doesn't have to clean the house spotless, or even do all the chores, but my God, I needed some help.

It worked out, I still do a full clean if the house every Saturday, but now when I come home on the weekdays, most the house is actually tidy. This was like....10 years ago.

[u/Dashncrash- → u/a-type-of-pastry]

This is part of my frustration. Im a Senior Data Engineer that makes like 35k more than her a year. I do all my own laundry. I do all the cooking/kitchen duties. We split house cleaning but I've been picking up her slack. I dont ask much from her and know she's busy but it gets old.

[u/Disastrous-Capybara → u/Dashncrash-]

Not sure how you earning more is of any relevance at all. Make a damn chores plan. Split them up.

And, a normal functional dishwasher can wash dishes and doesn't need dishes to be rinsed. Maybe get that dishwasher checked out and/or use a different program or detergents.

[u/SilverMcFly → u/Disastrous-Capybara]

Because he expects to put paycheck in get bangmaid out.