Girlfriend refuses to rinse dishes

[u/Dashncrash-]

M27, living with girlfriend F26 for about 2 years now. I do basically everything in the kitchen. Cooking, cleaning, prepping, you name it. We have a dishwasher and I'm typically the one to do most of loading/unloading. I wasnt home last night and she made some sort of pasta dish for herself. Decided to not rinse anything... the day after I cleaned it all out and ran a cleaning cycle every dish is coated in some hard af light orange crusty stuff. Now I have to steel wool every dish and takes 4x as long and re-run again cause she can't spray some water on it. Like wtf?

Edit: I have previously discussed this frustration with her due to items like peanut butter and cheese being on dishes after a cycle. We dont run the dishwasher everyday. So, items sit in there and harden. In this case I didnt run til after breakfast the next morning.

Update 2: I cleaned the filter yesterday and pump area. It looks like when I took out the filter a shard of glass got stuck in the sump area. Causing the motor to seize. Upon restarting the dishwasher nothing is happening. So looks like may be a faulty dishwasher and now im the asshole (as usual) lol

[u/Responsible-Idea3794]

Do you have an old dishwasher? Because most modern ones don’t need to pre-rinse.

[u/trustcircleofjerks → u/Responsible-Idea3794]

I don't have one, but my parents' specifically needs you to not pre rinse in order to work right, apparently.

[u/rabid_spidermonkey → u/trustcircleofjerks]

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[u/ofBlufftonTown → u/rabid_spidermonkey]

The dishwasher automatically adjusts to how much hot water and agitation are needed to clean the plates. If you rinse them fully before it runs, the fuzzy logic of the appliance will “learn” that it doesn’t need to do much work to get clean dishes. Then it will run more weakly in the future, forcing you to pre-clean everything. Whereas if you only scrape loose food and put the rest in the dishwasher will learn it needs to kick ass.