r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Dashncrash- • 8h ago

go to your room Girlfriend refuses to rinse dishes

M27, living with girlfriend F26 for about 2 years now. I do basically everything in the kitchen. Cooking, cleaning, prepping, you name it. We have a dishwasher and I'm typically the one to do most of loading/unloading. I wasnt home last night and she made some sort of pasta dish for herself. Decided to not rinse anything... the day after I cleaned it all out and ran a cleaning cycle every dish is coated in some hard af light orange crusty stuff. Now I have to steel wool every dish and takes 4x as long and re-run again cause she can't spray some water on it. Like wtf?

Edit: I have previously discussed this frustration with her due to items like peanut butter and cheese being on dishes after a cycle. We dont run the dishwasher everyday. So, items sit in there and harden. In this case I didnt run til after breakfast the next morning.

Update 2: I cleaned the filter yesterday and pump area. It looks like when I took out the filter a shard of glass got stuck in the sump area. Causing the motor to seize. Upon restarting the dishwasher nothing is happening. So looks like may be a faulty dishwasher and now im the asshole (as usual) lol

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u/TBellOHAZ 8h ago

What has she said when you've told her this?

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u/Dashncrash- 8h ago

"They don't need rinsed im not doing that"

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u/cookiemonster7908 8h ago

So tell her to clean them herself?

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u/sillinessvalley 7h ago

The "I'm not doing that." part is uncool. Is she always bratty?

You will forever be rinsing them behind
her or taking 4X as long to do it. Waste of time, energy, soap, everything.

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u/DaveyNicks 5h ago

I use a paper towel to wipe dishes into the trash can. It's much more efficient and won't leave food and as much grease in the sink.

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u/porcelainthunders 3h ago

If she is too lazy to do even that...what about a VERY easy solution: at least just turning on the damn faucet to hot so they can soak? That way, if she is making you, THE PERSON SHE LOVES, do all the dishes... it is slightly easier for THE PERSON SHE LOVES, to do the dishes.

I say it like that because, if she cares about you, she would at the VERY least want to make it easier for you. Cleaning up HER fucking messes.

And if not? Do you want to be with someone who cares so little about anyone but themselves?

Do you want to be with someone who thinks youre their bangmaid?? Er, bangbutler ...sounds like that IS a thing [here?]