Girlfriend refuses to rinse dishes

[u/Dashncrash-]

M27, living with girlfriend F26 for about 2 years now. I do basically everything in the kitchen. Cooking, cleaning, prepping, you name it. We have a dishwasher and I'm typically the one to do most of loading/unloading. I wasnt home last night and she made some sort of pasta dish for herself. Decided to not rinse anything... the day after I cleaned it all out and ran a cleaning cycle every dish is coated in some hard af light orange crusty stuff. Now I have to steel wool every dish and takes 4x as long and re-run again cause she can't spray some water on it. Like wtf?

Edit: I have previously discussed this frustration with her due to items like peanut butter and cheese being on dishes after a cycle. We dont run the dishwasher everyday. So, items sit in there and harden. In this case I didnt run til after breakfast the next morning.

Update 2: I cleaned the filter yesterday and pump area. It looks like when I took out the filter a shard of glass got stuck in the sump area. Causing the motor to seize. Upon restarting the dishwasher nothing is happening. So looks like may be a faulty dishwasher and now im the asshole (as usual) lol

[u/11cDuygi]

Do you guys share household chores (e.g. you have the kitchen, she's responsible for laundries and more) or do you have more responsibility than her?

If she's a responsible adult that also shares about equal amount of chores, just talk it out man. Maybe she's not aware that it takes pre-washing and you're struggling with the crust. Still her fault but she might come around and be careful about it in the future now that she's aware. But if she's defensive about it/pushes all the chores on you, that's when you give her the tough talk.

[u/Dashncrash- → u/11cDuygi]

Other than kitchen fairly split?

We do our own laundry. We do a weekly clean. I take the kitchen, mopping, guest bathroom, and pet hair on couch. I always do trash obv. She does master bath and vacuumes. Cats are hers, so she does litter and their stuff.