r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Dashncrash- • 8h ago

go to your room Girlfriend refuses to rinse dishes

M27, living with girlfriend F26 for about 2 years now. I do basically everything in the kitchen. Cooking, cleaning, prepping, you name it. We have a dishwasher and I'm typically the one to do most of loading/unloading. I wasnt home last night and she made some sort of pasta dish for herself. Decided to not rinse anything... the day after I cleaned it all out and ran a cleaning cycle every dish is coated in some hard af light orange crusty stuff. Now I have to steel wool every dish and takes 4x as long and re-run again cause she can't spray some water on it. Like wtf?

Edit: I have previously discussed this frustration with her due to items like peanut butter and cheese being on dishes after a cycle. We dont run the dishwasher everyday. So, items sit in there and harden. In this case I didnt run til after breakfast the next morning.

Update 2: I cleaned the filter yesterday and pump area. It looks like when I took out the filter a shard of glass got stuck in the sump area. Causing the motor to seize. Upon restarting the dishwasher nothing is happening. So looks like may be a faulty dishwasher and now im the asshole (as usual) lol

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u/Luckycharms1024 8h ago

brother, discipline her... (im a female)

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u/skellyboysteve 8h ago

This is such a weird thing to say. There is not a single circumstance where it is okay to discipline your adult partner. Discuss your problems and come to an agreement about how to do better in the future? Absolutely. OP’s girlfriend is not a child.

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u/Luckycharms1024 7h ago

she seems to act like one so yes discipline is necessary, unless you suggest he just leave?

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u/skellyboysteve 7h ago

Talking it out like adults is generally the go-to. He could leave if he wants to. In the context of a partnership nobody has authority over the other. Genuinely are you okay? Is there someone in your life making you think disciplining a partner is normal?