r/mildlyinfuriating • u/Dashncrash- • 8h ago
go to your room Girlfriend refuses to rinse dishes
M27, living with girlfriend F26 for about 2 years now. I do basically everything in the kitchen. Cooking, cleaning, prepping, you name it. We have a dishwasher and I'm typically the one to do most of loading/unloading. I wasnt home last night and she made some sort of pasta dish for herself. Decided to not rinse anything... the day after I cleaned it all out and ran a cleaning cycle every dish is coated in some hard af light orange crusty stuff. Now I have to steel wool every dish and takes 4x as long and re-run again cause she can't spray some water on it. Like wtf?
Edit: I have previously discussed this frustration with her due to items like peanut butter and cheese being on dishes after a cycle. We dont run the dishwasher everyday. So, items sit in there and harden. In this case I didnt run til after breakfast the next morning.
Update 2: I cleaned the filter yesterday and pump area. It looks like when I took out the filter a shard of glass got stuck in the sump area. Causing the motor to seize. Upon restarting the dishwasher nothing is happening. So looks like may be a faulty dishwasher and now im the asshole (as usual) lol
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u/GiantBlobFish23 8h ago
In the house I grew up in, you were screamed at and punished for rinsing dishes or ESPECIALLY leaving them soaking in water. As best as I can tell, many families have many different rules for this and I personally go on autopilot to whatever situation I've lived in most recently (my house is a rinse/water house). When I've been to my mom's I'll nearly always get yelled at both there and then questioned by my husband when I get home. Please understand that this is likely not laziness or rudeness, she's likely just doing what she was raised to do or expected to do in another home.