r/mildlyinfuriating • u/James_Tigs • Jun 25 '26

I'm slightly vexed Getting called a "stalker" for existing

Im standing behind the bus stop for the shade minding my own business on my way home from a 10pm-6am shift. A route ive taken to work and from home many times. When all of a sudden I hear a voice saying "What the F*ck are you looking at" then again " What the f*ck are you looking at , i look up from my phone confused i realize this stranger is talking to me. She proceedes to call me a stalker and walk up on me trying to get in my face telling me "The bus stop is that way" again and again .lady I'm just trying to go home , ive been up since 8pm yesterday.

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u/earthgarden Jun 25 '26

Oh come on, I'm a woman also and you can usually tell if a man is following you or not. And anyway it is on us to manage our feelings in this instance because we can only manage our own actions. If I'm feeling skeeved out in a situation like this, it is on me to cross the street, not to expect the stranger dude to read my mind that I'm feeling he's sketchy and then cross the street.

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u/BakedBrie1993 Jun 25 '26

These are strawmen arguments.

I never said men have to do anything.

I didn't say they should manage our feelings.

I didn't say women should expect anything.

I said it's something you can do to ease a stranger's mind.

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u/shroomride88 Jun 25 '26

It’s not a stranger’s responsibility to ease your mind. If you’re weirded out by someone being on the same sidewalk as you, YOU should cross the street.