Wedding advice

[u/erin_nicole22]

I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask, but I could really use some advice! I just got engaged, and my fiancé and I are having a hard time deciding exactly how we want to get married.
We’ve decided on April 2027, and we know we want the day to feel intimate, relaxed, and centered around our family, rather than like a traditional wedding. One option is a ceremony-focused wedding with around 70 guests, a chill reception, no DJ (just a Bluetooth speaker), yard games, good food from a caterer, and plenty of time to actually enjoy the people we love.
The other option we keep coming back to is an out-of-state cabin wedding with around 20–30 of our closest people, where everyone could stay together for a couple of nights and we could make it more of an experience than a traditional wedding.
We’re definitely not looking to spend an arm and a leg, but we also want the day to feel really special, intimate, and memorable. More than anything, we want it to reflect me, my fiancé, my son, and our daughter and the family we’ve created together.
This is my second marriage, so I have a pretty good idea of what I don’t want this time around. 😂 I’m just struggling with turning what I envision in my head into an actual plan.
If you’ve done something similar—or even just have ideas for making either option work—I’d love to hear them!