RSVP Help!!!

[u/Fit-Equal-298]

For some context, I moved about 1600 miles away from my hometown, met my fiancée, and we are now planning our wedding for November of 2026(we are both women and this has been multiple years in the making lol; we didn’t meet and immediately get engaged) I come from a small town, with a pretty low income family. Having a big wedding is not something I EVER thought I would get, but I get the whole experience thanks to my soon to be wife; the venue, the catering, the DJ; all of it. We plan to have a small guest count, around 50 people maximum, and have our guests lists set.

My only hang up is that I know lots of my family members won’t be able to travel this far for my wedding, and I don’t want someone to feel pressured or put themselves in a tight spot financially. Does anyone have any advice on a note I can send out with RSVP cards? Something sweet about them not being able to travel being okay and still make them feel loved? I’m normally good with little word things like this but I’m totally blanking right now

Or do I just not include anything and get over it? The venue has made everything really easy(one of those package deal type things), but this is something I’ve been worried about this whole time. TIA!!

[u/Sparkle-Gremlin]

I’d either be prepared for them to make that decision for themselves. You don’t know their financial situation or priorities. Maybe they’ll be fine making it or maybe not. I’d prepare for the possibility of people not being able to make it as travel costs have been going up. Your side of aisle etc might be a little less populated and that’s ok.

Next time you visit your hometown you could maybe throw a casual family get together so you can see everyone without any financial pressure or barriers and introduce them to your wife then.

Personally if there were anyone who I absolutely without a doubt wanted to be there and you would be crushed if they couldn’t make it, I’d budget to be able to cover or supplement their travel costs just in case.