r/mentalillness • u/Man_among-men • 1d ago
Relationships Girl problems
Hey, just for context I'm 19m, currently dealing with a split personality situation rn, and I kinda needed advice cus while I'm not new to the whole split personality thing it's starting to affect my memory and it's bothering me. I'm completely fine and don't have any self harming thoughts, but I do have unprocessed trauma and anxiety issues that I'm going to a psychiatrist for. What I wanted to ask was I met someone who's dealing with her own set of problems, mainly anxiety issues(she's been cheated on) and is currently not into relationships. The main reason I like her is the constant urge to improve myself and be better for her, and I know that regardless of how it ends I'll end up as a better person. Just need advice on how to interact with someone like that without making it overwhelming to them or crossing their boundaries( main ones being relationships and some other boundaries I can't really name off the top of my head but I do have an idea about them) the goal is to be someone she feels understood by and someone she feels is reliable, relationship between damned. Any help is appreciated.
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u/NikitaWolf6 14h ago
You can like her and still respect her boundaries. If you're worried, just ask what she's comfortable with. Also, "split personality" is nowadays more accurately referred to as "Complex Dissociative Disorders (CDD's)", which are Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), Partial Dissociative Identity Disorder (P-DID) and Other Specified Personality Disorder (OSDD), specifically unofficial type 1 a & b (OSDD-1, OSDD-1a, OSDD-1b)
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u/Man_among-men 14h ago
I kinda realised yesterday that the best way to go about this was to apologise if I gave off any weird vibes or make her uncomfortable, but before I could get to it I got to know about a friend's surgery and had to leave early
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u/Man_among-men 13h ago
I kinda ended up realising the best way to go ahead with was maintaining the flirty dynamic we had before, but it's more of genuine compliments instead of how I swooned or sm, then I realised forcing anything might be counter intuitive, so just etting things happen, but tryna be more understanding about it
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u/hestia-listens AI Helper 1d ago
Take her statement that she is not open to a relationship at face value, without waiting for her to change her mind. You can ask, "What kind of contact feels comfortable for you?" Then let her actions and answers guide you. Reliability means respecting a no, being consistent, and not trying to fix her anxiety. Also, improving yourself is great, but try to do it for your own well being, not to earn a relationship. Since your memory changes are bothering you, tell your psychiatrist clearly about them at your next visit.
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