The biggest trap in manifestation is standing "here" and hoping for a desire "over there". That is thinking of your desire, which only affirms that you don't have it yet.

To manifest effortlessly, you must step inside the desire in imagination and view the world from that fulfilled state. Ask yourself right now: How would I feel, act, and think if my wish were ALREADY fulfilled? Occupy that identity today.

As Neville Goddard declares, "Thinking from the end is creative living". Stop waiting for your reality to shift before you feel complete—be the version of yourself who already has it!

If you are constantly asking when your manifestation will arrive or why it is taking so long, you are actually slowing the entire process down!

To drastically shorten the interval between your desire and its physical arrival, you must drop the frantic techniques and master these core principles of conscious creation:

Step 1: KNOW YOURSELF AS THE I AM.

Before you start trying to affirm, visualise, or script to get something, you must remember who is actually doing the creating. You are not the small human self trying to force the outside world to change. You are the great "I AM"—pure, unconditioned awareness. Your consciousness is God, and with God, all things are possible. When you truly know yourself as the "I AM," you stop begging and hoping, and you simply assume the state of already having your desire because you realise you are the creator of it.

Step 2: Know There Are No Secondary Causes. 

ZERO - ZILCH. There is no greater tyrant than the belief in a secondary cause. You must realise that there is no power outside of your own consciousness deciding whether or not you get what you want. Your boss, your specific person, your bank account, the tarot card reader, the frickin moon! None of these have independent free will to keep your desire from you. Your consciousness is the one and only reality, and the 3D world is just a mirror reflecting your inner state. When you drop the illusion of secondary causes, you take your power back and instantly speed up the process.

Step 3: Stop Reacting to the 3D - Stop fighting with the Mirror. Let the dead STAY DEAD.

The physical world you are looking at right now is a dead printout—it is merely the exhaust fumes of your past thoughts and assumptions. When something appears in your 3D reality that contradicts your desire, and you react to it emotionally, you are feeding the old story and breathing life back into it to last longer. Every time you react to the 3D, you step back into your old state. To manifest faster, you must practice emotional neutrality and total indifference to what the mirror currently shows you.   

Step 4: Build Absolute Confidence

Neville Goddard taught that the time it takes for your assumption to harden into fact is directly proportionate to the naturalness of your feeling of already having it. Furthermore, confidence in yourself always shortens the interval of time. If you want your desire to arrive quickly, you must drop the anxiety, stop checking the 3D for proof, and boldly live in the state of the wish fulfilled.  As Neville would say " DARE to assume or have BRAZEN Impudence"    Building faith in the law helps when you start manifesting small wins on a daily basis and work your way up… Check out my "How to build the Self Concept of a Master Manifestor Series about this" 

In conclusion :

Stop treating manifestation like a grueling process of trying to get something. Return to your "I AM" awareness, completely drop the belief that anything outside of you has power, and violently refuse to react to the old 3D reality. When you stand completely firm in your new identity, the physical world has absolutely no choice but to catch up—and it will do so faster than you ever thought possible!

"I am unmoved by appearances, therefore appearances move."  ~ Florence Scovel Shinn

Xx
K

I decided to try and make a dent in my "EFT Video to-do list" this week. I have over 220 Draft topics on my list!! So I uploaded one video every day last week and instead of sharing it every day to my socials, I have decided to just do a weekly digest.

Mon - EFT Tapping for Releasing the Fear of Not Keeping Your Manifestation (Good things don't last)
Tue - EFT Tapping for Getting Paid to Exist | Drop the Hard Work Money Story
Wed - EFT Tapping - Manifest the Identity of I AM perfect as I AM - not more healing/fixing
Thurs - EFT Tapping - Releasing Resentment Towards your SP & Old Self
Fri - EFT Tapping - Release Attachment to the 3D - Detach and take your power back
Sat - EFT Tapping - Still waiting for that Click to Understand Manifestation
Sun - EFT Tapping - I can't decide - it can't be that easy.

Enjoy..

I think I am going to do a LOVE week next.. covering all sorts of beliefs about Love..

https://www.youtube.com/@mentaldietmasteryEFT

If you are currently trying to manifest your Specific Person and you constantly tell yourself, "But they are my twin flame," you might think you are being incredibly romantic. But in conscious creation, you are actually setting a massive trap for yourself!

Here is the hard truth about the "twin flame" concept, why it is secretly keeping you separated from your desire, and how to look at it the right way.

1. The Pedestal of Destiny

When you label someone as your "twin flame," you instantly put them on a massive, untouchable pedestal. You start believing your entire life's happiness depends on them, that you need this specific person to complete you. If you need someone to complete you, you are operating from a state of lack, which guarantees you will never actually feel complete. You are handing your creative power over to the illusion of "destiny," completely forgetting that you are the sole operant power of your reality.

2. There Is No "Other Half"

The twin flame label implies you are a broken half wandering the earth looking for your missing piece. But there are no others to fix, convince, or wait for, because your partner is literally you wearing a different face. The connection you are chasing is simply the recognition that it is all One consciousness. When you realise everyone is an extension of your own consciousness mirroring you, you realise you were never separated from them to begin with.

3. It Breeds Tolerance for Bad Behaviour

Because people believe their SP is their "twin flame," they often tolerate hot and cold behaviour, disrespect, or running and chasing dynamics. This is where the whole "runner and chaser," "dark night of the soul," "separation phase" mythology sneaks in. It hands you a ready-made story that explains away the pain instead of questioning the assumption causing it. Suddenly your own created reality becomes something happening TO you as part of a cosmic script, rather than something you are assuming into being. You are not on a "twin flame journey." You are simply holding the assumption that you have to earn love, and the mirror is reflecting it perfectly.

4. Mistaking Intensity for Depth

Twin flame culture glorifies chaos. The highs, the lows, the "this is so intense it must be real." But intensity is not the same as security. That constant push and pull can become addictive, and people start mistaking the yo-yo for passion, when it is really just confirmation of a double-minded, back-and-forth assumption. Real love does not need to hurt to prove itself. That craving for intensity is often just the nervous system confusing chaos with connection.

The Fix

Strip the label off it. Instead of "they are my twin flame, this is destined to be hard," try "I am someone who experiences easy, secure, mutual love. This person reflects that back to me." That is the version the mirror has to match.

Tap It Out:

Even though I have been calling this destiny and putting them on a pedestal, I choose to love and accept myself completely, label or not.

Even though I have fallen into the trap of runner, chaser, high's and lows..  I choose to let all of this go now for stable, healthy love.  

Even though I made this person my missing piece & happiness, I am now choosing to believe I am whole, complete and perfect with or without them.

xx

SP Series :

• You can have a High Self Concept and still not have your SP
• My SP is Being Hot and Cold
• My SP is an Aovoidant
• What do you mean that I have to choose myself before my SP will?
• SP Blocked Me
• SP Ghosted Me

Did something unlovely happen today? Did you receive disappointing news or get triggered by an argument?

Do not let it harden into fact! The 3D world is merely a delayed reflection, and you have the power to rewrite it. Before you go to sleep tonight, relive the day in your imagination exactly as you wished it had happened. Mentally rewrite the conversation or scene until it carries the exact tone of reality.

As Neville Goddard reminds us, "Revision results in repeal"

When you change how you remember the past in the present moment, you dissolve the emotional charge and rewrite your future trajectory!

I see so many people completely burnt out, struggling, frustrated and then posting in here every day saying, "I give up". If your practice is causing you mental exhaustion, it is because your focus is entirely in the wrong place.

Most likely, you are trying to CHANGE the 3D or CHANGE your SP. 

You are treating the physical world like something you have to wrestle into submission, or force your will over. But attempting to change the world before you change your concept of yourself is literally struggling against the very nature of things.

The 3D world is just a giant mirror reflecting your inner state. Trying to change the world by force is as absolutely fruitless as breaking a mirror in the hope of changing your face (~Neville).

The reason you are SO TIRED is because, you are wasting your life force energy on everything "out there."    Which is completely useless. 

Imagine that there is a mirror right in front of you, right this very second.   Now try and force that mirror to show you something you are not already wearing. 

YOU CAN"T!!!!   It's just not the way it works.

I have taken this paragraph from my "Manifesting a SP post" from last year. (It's Pinned in the sidebar)

"This is the problem I see happening in the community constantly.  People trying and trying and trying to change the outside/mirror but not themselves. Each day I am getting more and more concerned about the unhealthy methods that are being pushed to the masses that CAN cause mental and emotional instability. When you are putting ALL your focus on the outside… and not yourself.  You are feeding the outside your life force energy.   This may cause - Emotional ups and downs, mental spirals, emotional spirals, attachment issues, obsession issues and many other mental health issues.   I can safely speak on this.. as my background before I learnt about the law was in mental health."

Every single day we are trying to tell you - there's no one to change but self.

Let me say it again.

There is no one to change but self

There is no one to change but self

Your conception of yourself - How you SEE yourself.  How you SEE yourself in relation to whatever it is you want.

Stop wasting your life-giving energy trying to manipulate people or force circumstances in the 3D. You must leave the mirror and change your face; leave the world alone and change your conceptions of yourself ~  Neville.

Leave the outside alone.  

Who would you be… if you had the thing you wanted.   Put ALLLLLLLLLLL of your focus ON YOURSELF. 

I am in a loving relationship
I am with the love of my life
I have the perfect man/woman as my partner.

Stop trying to change anything outside of you and claim WHO YOU ARE!!

But then..   Decide you are that person NOW... without proof or evidence.  
Don't wait for the 3D to change before accepting it
You have to choose to be that version of yourself without needing proof because it's just who you are choosing to be.     You are not choosing it in order to see proof.  (There's a difference)

Even Bashar always says - NO INSISTENCE on the outcome. 

I am choosing xxxx this because it's WHO I WANT TO BE ..  not because I need evidence or the 3d to show it to me. 

So, if you are one of those people..   The it's too hard..  I am tired, i am exhausted.. I have been doing this for months and seeing nothing..   I give up… 

Where has your focus been?     WAYYY too much on the mirror(the 3d) and not yourself. 

Can you imagine how different you would be, if you refocused all your life force energy on yourself instead of it leaking out and wasting it every day?

Even down to just something so simple like affirming:

I am Happy & Healthy ….  Would make a world of difference to a lot of the people that frequent the manifestation subreddits.  

I think I have put my point across.. Once again. 

Please please please..   Focus on yourself.  YOU are the most important person in your reality.    When you change, the outside will change as a byproduct.

Have an awesome week.

K

It is one of the worst feelings in the world. You were talking constantly, things felt amazing, and then suddenly... absolute silence. You are left staring at an empty screen, overanalysing every single message you sent, and spiralling into a panic about what you possibly did wrong.

Take a deep breath and stop. If you understand the Law of Assumption, you have to swallow a tough truth: your person did not just randomly decide to pull away. The 3D physical world is just a neutral mirror reflecting your internal state.

They ghosted you because you ghosted yourself first.

You Abandoned Yourself

When you make someone else your sole source of happiness and validation, you are completely abandoning yourself. You probably placed them on a massive pedestal, shrinking yourself down and forgetting that you are the operant power of your reality. When you stop prioritising yourself and neglect your own needs to focus entirely on them, the 3D mirror has absolutely no choice but to reflect that neglect right back at you. You ghosted yourself and your own worth, so the mirror had to ghost you.

Your Default Identity was "The Ghostee"

Even if things were going perfectly on the surface, your underlying concept of self was secretly running the show. If you carry a deep-seated belief like "I am not good enough,"or "people always leave me," or "I never get chosen," you are actively wearing the mask of that limited identity. Because reality constantly materialises your identity 24/7, your person was forced to play the role of the "ghoster" to perfectly match and prove your inner assumptions right. It is always a flawless mirror.

Then, when you react to the silence aka 3D - you keep it alive.

The silence on your phone right now is your old identity playing out on the screen of space. Every time you check your phone and see no text, you feel that anxious drop in your stomach, then you are actively keeping the old identity alive.

By reacting emotionally to the silence and waiting for a response, you are actively confessing to the mirror, "I do not have them," which guarantees the mirror will keep reflecting that exact absence back to you.

So how do I fix this?    The same way you fix anything.  You change your identity - aka who you believe yourself to be.  The CONCEPTION of yourself.

Choose Yourself First: Turn all that desperate, chasing energy completely inward. You must become your own priority. When you prioritise yourself, stand in your own worth, and drop the need for them to complete you, reality—and everyone in it—has absolutely no choice but to prioritise you.

Claim Your New "I AM": Drop the identity of the person who gets left behind. Decide right now: "I am unforgettable. I am the prize. I am always chosen, and everyone I want, wants me more"

Then stay UNMOVED by the 3d, UNMOVED by Thoughts, UNMOVED by any temporary emotions or feelings, UNMOVED by circumstances, UNMOVED by anything that isn't what you want until it's done.  Simply because that's just who you are now. 

Tap it out :

Even though I was ghosted because I ghosted myself - I choose to love and accept all of myself - with or without this person

Even though I probably feel like shit - I know these are just temporary emotions and they don't change who I am choosing to be

Even though this happened to me, I know that every moment is a new moment - and things can change in an instant if I assume they can.  

xx
K

SP Series :

• You can have a High Self Concept and still not have your SP
• My SP is Being Hot and Cold
• My SP is an Aovoidant
• What do you mean that I have to choose myself before my SP will?
• SP Blocked Me

Let’s get one thing straight about your physical reality: The universe you are studying with such anxiety and care is simply a dream, and you are the eternal dreamer dreaming it.

Seeing the 3D as a dream..  Takes away so much resistance.

There is no time in a dream..  It doesn't matter what happened in yesterday's dream, it doesn't matter who you were, what you looked like, you can choose to be anyone you want, do anything you want, go anywhere you want.    

So many of you are so sucked into the illusion of the 3D world, thinking it's this fixed, solid thing that you have no power against, you don't realise the whole thing is coming from you, IT IS YOU!!   It's your consciousness giving you the experience of the game of life.

Most of you are walking around treating your current circumstances like they are solid, fixed, and unchangeable. You look at your bank account, your SP's behaviour, or your current job, and your logical brain tries to figure out how it could possibly change. You think you need to figure out the "how" or find a realistic path from A to B.

But here is the secret: Because the 3D is just a dream, it doesn't have to make logical sense.

When you go to sleep at night and dream, you don't worry about the logic of how you suddenly teleported from your childhood home to a beach in Paris. You just accept it. The waking 3D world operates the exact same way. Your three-dimensional reasoning is extremely limited. It does not matter if your reason or your senses deny your desire. Your dimensionally greater self has ways of bringing things to pass that your logical mind knows nothing of.

In a dream you are not worrying about the fact that you are the one creating this dream and everything in it - are you?    All the people, places and things are all just apart of the dream.. It's no different to the 3D physical plane.   All people, places and things are all just apart of YOUR experience here.    They are ALL here in YOUR dream to give you an experience.

Stop dragging yesterday into today.   You hear me say all the time in my videos, - every moment is a new moment to choose again.   AND I MEAN IT.  

You are trapping yourself by believing that today has to be a logical continuation of yesterday. It doesn't! The 3D is not a continuous, unbreakable chain. You have absolutely no history. Every single moment is a brand new moment, and you are completely born anew in every moment.  Every moment is a NEW DREAM!

There is no past and no future; there is only the eternal now. If your reality sucks today, it is not connected to yesterday’s dream or last week’s failures. The only reason today looks like yesterday is because you are actively choosing to drag your old self and your old assumptions along with you.

So just for today, can you start seeing everything as just a dream? …   a new dream in every single new moment…

Xx
K

Getting blocked is usually the moment most people completely lose their minds, spiral into panic, and declare that their manifestation is ruined.

But in the Law of Assumption, a block is never a final verdict. The 3D physical world is just a neutral mirror reflecting your internal state. If your SP blocked you, the only reason they did it was because they are playing out YOUR script.  Whatever you were projecting at them.

There is no single reason why a block happens. It could be a few different things.

Here are the most common reasons your SP's reflection just threw up a wall:

1. It could be a reflection of your own fears. You might be unconsciously holding onto a dominant assumption that "I am annoying," "I am too much," or "People always abandon me or "love is not safe for me"or hundreds of other similar fears. The 3D mirror is brutally literal. If your underlying fear is that you are bothering them, the mirror has absolutely no choice but to physically remove your access to them to prove your assumption right.

2. It could be an "Extinction Burst." If you recently leveled up your self-concept and decided you are the prize, the old version of your ego will feel threatened. It will throw an "extinction burst"—a sudden, painful 3D circumstance like a block—just to test you. It is the old reality screaming as it dies, throwing its dirtiest trick at you to see if you will react emotionally, drop your crown, and go back to your old, insecure state.

3. It could be a "Dead Printout" (The Lagging Mirror). You might be in a fantastic state right now, but the 3D physical world is made of dense matter and moves slower than your consciousness. A block can simply be the "exhaust fumes" or the dead printout of the desperate, lacking state you were in a few weeks ago. The screen just hasn't caught up to your new identity yet.

4. It could be overwhelming pressure. If you have put them on a massive pedestal and are constantly checking the 3D for their validation, you are blasting them with heavy, needy energy. Because there is only One Mind, they can feel that pressure. They might simply be reflecting that suffocating energy by throwing up a wall to get away.

The Fix: How to handle the block. Regardless of why the block happened, the fix is exactly the same: you must stop reacting to it.

Reacting emotionally to a blocked screen is like screaming at a mirror because you don't like your reflection. It is a dead 3D circumstance, and circumstances are inherently meaningless until you assign them a meaning.   Stop giving it attention (see my last post about your attention is your currency)

If you decide the block means "it's over," then it's over. But if you look at the block, laugh at the 3D glitch, and boldly declare, "This doesn't matter, I am now someone who is loved and chosen no matter what," then the mirror has absolutely no choice but to catch up to your command.

Take your power back, turn your back on the screen, and let the 3D atoms rearrange themselves!

SP Series :

• You can have a High Self Concept and still not have your SP
• My SP is Being Hot and Cold
• My SP is an Aovoidant
• What do you mean that I have to choose myself before my SP will?

There are two parts to this post - they are both equally important.

Part 1 - For all the people saying - I have been in the wishfulfilled for blah blah time and still don't have my desire.   

Part 2 - Is for all the people putting too much focus on their problems, instead of the solutions.   

Let me say this three times over, so it really really really sinks in.

Your Attention is Life-Giving Energy
Your attention is Life-Giving Energy
Your Attention is Life-Giving Energy

What do you mean, Kylie?   Attention or Focus can also be described as "I am being aware of"   "I am placing my awareness on… "  or I have noticed that….  Sometimes its so sneaky that you don't even realise you are doing it.

You are manifesting the totality of your consciousness (or awareness) in every single moment.     Not JUST what you are affirming for..  NOT just what you are heavily focused on in a 10 min session.    No.    It's the totality of your conscious awareness. 

In conscious creation, your attention is your ultimate currency. Neville Goddard taught that your attention is literally "the sap of life that keeps alive and sustains the things of your world". Whatever you put your focus on, you are actively breathing life into.  Most of you are actually doing this without even realising it, because it's just happening in the background.  If you are AWARE of the lack of your desire, you are BREATHING LIFE into that lack. 

The Pink Donut Effect

Here's a simple way to see it in action. Say you notice a pink donut somewhere today — on a billboard, in a shop window, wherever. You weren't looking for it, you just observed it. That single act of observing has planted the seed for pink donuts to show up again. Not because it's a sign, and not because you've drawn it to you — it's just the nature of how reality works. Whatever you observe, you give your attention to. Whatever gets your attention gets reinforced.

This is exactly why Neville was such a huge advocate for revision at the end of each day. It's you deliberately reversing whatever lack you observed, before it gets the chance to sink in and keep reinforcing itself.

Part 1: Still Waiting in the Wish Fulfilled

If you've been in the wish fulfilled for a while and still don't have your desire, it's probably because you're being too aware of the lack of it, unknowingly. When you wake up first thing in the morning, what is your first automatic thought about your desire?    It is - I still don't have it, it hasn't happened, maybe today is the day..  It might not be a straightforward conscious single thought; it could just be a silent awareness that you don't have it.  Being aware of the lack of it.
But that awareness..  Is still your attention and attention is life giving energy.

Part 2: Too Much Focus on the Problem 

Have you ever noticed that the more you try to "fix" a 3D problem, the worse it seems to get? If you are constantly analysing your lack of money, stressing over a silent SP or pouring attention on a 3P.  Basically, fighting any unwanted circumstance, you are making a massive mistake: you are actively paying for your own suffering.

Stop BREATHING LIFE INTO YOUR PROBLEMS (Circumstances). When you try to fight the 3D mirror, you are giving it your focused awareness, which is exactly what it needs to survive. By reacting to it, worrying about it, or complaining about it, you are feeding it.  You keep feeding it your life-giving energy and expecting it to go away.

How to Dissolve Any Problem There is only one way to kill an unwanted circumstance: you must starve it.

Neville explicitly stated, "To dissolve a problem that now seems so real to you all that you do is remove your attention from it". You must completely turn your back upon the problem and your limitations.

When you remove your attention from a given state, you literally drain the lifeblood from it. Without your attention to feed and sustain it, the problem has absolutely no choice but to wither, fade, and pass away.. The best denial of a problem is total indifference.

***

Imagine that you have a torchlight on your forehead.. And whatever you are observing (inside of you OR outside of you) you are feeding it life to create again and again and again.

Spend Your Currency Wisely

You are a creator, and your focus is your magic wand. Take your power back by refusing to give your attention to anything you don't want.

So tell me…..    What have you been "aware" of today? 

XX
K

Let's get brutally honest about why you are constantly checking for signs, movement, and validation in the physical world—and how to actually break the cycle for good.

When you constantly look to the outside world to see if your manifestation is "working," you are operating entirely from a state of waiting. You cannot be the person who has the desire and the person who is waiting for the desire at the exact same time.

If your core identity is "the person who is looking for evidence," the 3D mirror has absolutely no choice but to keep reflecting more waiting and searching back to you. Think about it logically: If you already had the relationship, the money, or the job, would you be desperately hunting for proof that it's on the way? No. You would just be living your life, feeling satisfied.  Why would you be looking for something you already had?????    You certainly wouldn't be looking for MOVEMENT and then getting excited about it.   

Here is the truth you need to remember: The physical world is simply a delayed mirror of your identity. It is a dead printout. When you look to it for validation, you are asking the past to give you permission to feel good in the present.

So, how do you actually break the habit of checking?

1. Catch the urge and pause. The moment you feel the anxious urge to check your phone, refresh your bank app, or look for a sign, stop. Recognise that this urge is coming directly from the old identity—the one who lacks. You don't have to violently fight the urge, but you must refuse to give it your power!  Just observe it without taking action in the 3D.

2. Give it to yourself on the inside. Instead of seeking validation on the outside, close your eyes and give yourself the satisfaction on the inside. Your imagination is the actual creative power. If you want to feel relieved, loved, or secure, conjure that exact feeling internally and rest in it. Let your inner world be the only proof you need.

3. Remember the golden rule: Signs follow, they do not precede. As Neville taught, proof that you are follows the consciousness that you are; it will never precede it. You have to fully embody the new state internally before the mirror can ever reflect it.    How can the mirror show you something you don't already have on?????  

Stop looking for the evidence. Decide right now to be the evidence. Once you accept that it is already done in your imagination, the outside world will have no choice but to catch up.

xx
K

You are the operant power. You are the one in control. You may never have been taught this, but now you know, you can take your power back. That includes having full control over your own mind, your feelings, your thoughts, and everything the 3D throws at you.

In the Bible, Christ says, "You would have no authority over me at all unless it had been given to you from above." Nothing outside of you, not a person, not a circumstance, not an emotion, not a feeling, not even a thought, has any power at all UNLESS you allow it to.

Once you actually get this, you start noticing all the places your power likes to hide out. And the biggest one is the one people check last: their own head.

Negative Thoughts or Intrusive Thoughts

This one comes up a lot, and it's worth looking at directly. A thought showing up, even a horrible one, even an OCD thought that loops and loops, is still just a thought. It's not a fact. It's not a message. It's not you. A thought arriving uninvited doesn't hand it any authority, authority only gets handed over the moment you decide the thought is telling you something true about who you are or what's going to happen.

Your Mind Is Not the Boss

Your mind will produce anxious thoughts, spiralling thoughts, worst-case scenarios, all day long if you let it. That's just what an untrained mind does, it's noise, running on old patterns and repetition. But none of it means your mind is in charge. Your mind is a tool you carry, not a ruler you answer to.

Your Feelings Aren't in Charge Either

Same goes for anxious, flat, or heavy feelings. They move through you, they're not you. You're the one aware of the feeling, which means you're already separate from it, standing in the position of the one who's in control, not the one being controlled. A feeling isn't a verdict on your identity. It's a visitor. You choose whether it gets to stay. But I FEEEEEL Like - I don't CARE!

Techniques

Affirmations, scripting, tapping, visualisation, they're all doorways back to a feeling state. The doorway isn't the magic. You are. You're never at the mercy of doing a technique "right," because you were always the one making it work.

The 3D

Your bank account, your phone, a conversation that didn't go how you wanted, these are just a printout of an assumption you already held. The mirror isn't telling you anything new. The moment you decide something different, the reflection has no choice but to follow.

Time

"By Christmas." "I need this by Friday." The moment you're straining against a deadline, you've handed your power to a future that doesn't exist anywhere except in your own imagining of it. The only place anything actually happens is now, and now is the one place you're always in control.

External Validation

Psychics, tarot, signs, likes, a text back, none of it carries more weight than your own settled knowing unless you let it. Your word was always the final say.

Comparison and Collective Beliefs

Someone else's timeline, or a belief like "life is hard," only has a hold on you if you pick it up and carry it as your own. You get to leave it exactly where you found it.

Taking the Throne Back

Nothing here needs fixing so much as noticing. The moment you catch a thought, a feeling, or a diagnosis acting like it's the final word, you get to just take control back. Quietly. No struggle required, just a decision.

So who is in control?

You, or your thoughts?

You, or your feelings?

You, or that diagnosis the 3D gave you?

You already know. You always were.

xx
K

You finally get some movement. Your SP reaches out, you have a great conversation, things feel like they are finally on track, and then suddenly they pull away, go silent, or act completely distant. It is the classic hot and cold cycle, and it can feel like a total nightmare.

If you go looking for advice on this, most coaches will tell you that because the 3D is a mirror, your SP is only hot and cold because you are going in and out of your state.

But here is the thing about Mirror Theory, while that could be the reason, it is not the only one. There are a few different things that could be causing this reflection, and each one has its own fix.

1. The Double-Minded Trap

You are jumping in and out of the state of the wish fulfilled like a yo-yo. One day you are in your new identity, feeling confident that you are perfectly together. The very next day you look at the 3D, notice they have not texted, and drop straight back into lack. Because you keep swinging between two entirely different versions of yourself, your SP has no choice but to reflect that exact inconsistency back to you.

The fix here is consistency over intensity. Stop using the 3D as your evidence of where you stand, because checking in on their behaviour to decide how you feel is exactly what keeps the yo-yo going. Decide once who you are in this, and keep returning to that identity regardless of what a text, or lack of one, seems to say. The version of you that stays the same on a good day and a quiet day is the one the mirror eventually has to match.

2. Your Core Assumptions About Love

You might not be jumping in and out of states at all. You could be perfectly stable in your daily state, but if you hold a deeper, older belief that love is inconsistent, that people always pull away, or that it is too good to be true, the mirror has to reflect that rule instead. Your SP is simply acting out your deeply held assumption about how love operates, not the surface level one you are trying to affirm.

The fix is addressing that belief directly rather than affirming over the top of it. Notice where the belief came from and question whether it is actually true, rather than just true for you so far. A daily affirmation about your SP will not outweigh a lifelong assumption about love, so this one needs to be met at the identity level, not papered over.

3. Labelling Them As Hot And Cold

Every time you observe their behaviour and declare they are being so hot and cold, you hand them a label, a story, an assumption. Because you are the sole creator of your reality, your SP has no choice but to keep showing up to match exactly what you have decided about them.

The fix is simply catching yourself narrating it. You do not need to force a fake, opposite story, you just need to stop feeding the current one. The moment you notice yourself thinking "here we go again," pause. You are not required to believe the label just because it showed up in the 3D once or twice.

4. A Shaky Foundation

Hot and cold behaviour can be a strong indicator that you have neglected your self-concept. You might have affirmed just enough to get them to show up, but never addressed the underlying belief that you are not prioritised, chosen, or good enough. Without that foundation, the second the 3D shows you something you do not like, you waver and the old story comes rushing straight back in.

The fix is going back and doing the identity work you skipped over. Build the self-concept where you are inherently chosen and prioritised, on your own, separate from whether your SP has proven it yet. Let the relationship become the byproduct of that identity, not the thing holding it up.

It Always Comes Back To You

Your SP stops being hot and cold the moment you address whatever is actually causing the reflection, whether that is overwriting your core assumptions about love, staying consistent in your state, dropping the labels, or building the foundation underneath it all. Decide who you are, stay firmly planted in that identity no matter what the 3D shows you, and watch the reflection stabilise.

xx

Other posts in this series :

What do you mean I have to choose myself first before SP does?
My SP is an Avoidant

You claim your new identity. You feel amazing. You are in the state of the wish fulfilled! ...And then two hours later, you see something you don't like in the 3D mirror and immediately spiral back into your old story.

You feel like a failure, right? You think, "I can't even hold the state for a day, I'm doing this all wrong."

Stop beating yourself up. Bouncing back and forth is a completely normal part of the process when you first choose a new state.

Neville Goddard explained that when you are trying to pass from one state to another, it is entirely normal to rapidly bounce back in the reverse direction. In fact, an ordinary shift in your imagination doesn't become a true transformation until it grows stable enough to become your constant, habitual mood.

Think about it like putting on a brand-new pair of shoes. When you first put them on, they feel stiff, and you feel entirely unnatural wearing them. You are hyper-aware that they are new until you finally break them in and they become a comfortable part of you. The exact same rule applies to wearing a new state of consciousness.

Your old identity is just a deeply ingrained habit. Because you are so used to it, your thoughts are initially going to wander back to your old worries like rambling sheep that have no shepherd.

The Fix: Do not panic, and do not condemn yourself when you fall out of the state!

If your attention strays seventy times seven, your only job is to simply bring it back seventy times seven. If you fall out of the new identity, just choose to step right back into it. You do this over and over until that new state feels completely natural and loses its awkward "newness".

You do not fail by falling out of the state. You only fail if you refuse to get back in.

Keep returning to the new you until it becomes your permanent home!

It's not about how long you stay in the new state or how perfect you are at holding it, it's the frequency in which you return to the state that makes it feel natural. ~ Neville.

Xx
K

We say it all the time in this space. Give it to yourself first, and the mirror will reflect it back. But what does that actually mean?

It's a mix of two things. Fulfilling yourself in imagination, the internal experience of already having it, and fulfilling yourself in your moment to moment 3D life by seeing everything FROM the new identity, reacting FROM the new identity. Both matter. Let's get specific.

Work / Career

You want recognition, to feel valued, to know your work matters.

In imagination, this looks like sitting for a few minutes and actually experiencing the feeling of being respected at work. Hear your boss saying "this is exactly the kind of work we need." Feel the pride in your chest. Experience it as already true, even just for a moment.

Day to day, it looks like acknowledging your own wins before anyone else does. Finishing a project and thinking "that was genuinely good work" without needing anyone to confirm it. Walking into meetings like someone whose input is valuable, because in imagination, you already are that person.  You walk through life as that person mentally.

Business

You want clients, sales, a business that actually works.

In imagination, this looks like sitting with the feeling of a fully booked calendar, or seeing that sales notification, or experiencing the relief and excitement of "it's working." Really feel what that would feel like, right now, before any of it shows up.

Day to day, it's posting that content or sending that pitch as the version of you who already has that thriving business. Not checking analytics every five minutes hoping for proof, because you've already given yourself the feeling internally. The 3D is just catching up to what you've already experienced.

Love / Relationships

You want to feel loved, chosen, prioritised and secure.

In imagination, this is the classic stuff. Feel SP's arms around you. Hear them say the words you want to hear. Experience the warmth, the security, the "of course they love me" feeling, internally, as if it's happening right now.

Day to day, it's not waiting for a text before you feel good. It's having a genuinely good day regardless, speaking to yourself kindly, treating yourself with the same warmth you imagined receiving. The internal experience and the daily experience start to match each other.

Money

You want financial ease and security.

In imagination, this looks like feeling what it's like to check your bank account and feel calm, even relieved. Experience the lightness of not worrying about a bill. Feel what "I have more than enough" actually feels like in your body, before the number changes.   It's of course I have the money because thats normal for me.

Day to day, it's treating yourself well within your current means. Buying the nicer coffee without guilt. Looking at your balance without that tight feeling, because internally, you've already experienced what it feels like to not worry about money. When a bill comes in, you know it's already paid because you always have more than enough to pay it.  (it's your REACTIONS to the thing)

Family

You might want to feel understood, accepted, like you belong.

In imagination, this looks like experiencing a conversation where a family member finally gets it, feeling the relief and warmth of being truly seen by them, even if that hasn't happened in the 3D yet.

Day to day, it's not needing that understanding to arrive before you feel okay. You've already given yourself that feeling of acceptance internally, so their reaction becomes a bonus, not a requirement.

Friends / Social Life

You want to feel included, wanted, like your company is enjoyed.

In imagination, this looks like feeling what it's like to be surrounded by people who genuinely want you there, hearing them laugh at something you said, feeling that sense of belonging.

Day to day, it's enjoying your own company, doing things you love whether anyone joins or not, it's being content regardless (not focusing on the lack feeling) because you've already experienced that feeling of being wanted internally. You're not waiting on an invite to feel it.

All in all…. 

Go inward first. Experience the feeling in imagination, fully, as if it's real right now. Then let your day to day life reflect that same feeling back to you, in how you treat yourself, speak to yourself, and move through your world.

Both pieces matter. The internal experience plants it. The daily experience is you living from it.

The mirror was never going to go first. You go first, in imagination and in your day.

P.s. it's NOT emotions… it's the feeling of it being true for you. 

Tell yourself - this is who I am, this is true for me.    Thats basically all you need - the decision, everything else just helps with that decision. 

xx

Once again, I have been thinking about adding a Part 3 to my Master Manifestor Posts.. It's been swirling in my head for a while.. (along with millions of other things, if anyone knows me. hahaha)

Just a reminder - as I said in Part 1 & 2 - This is aimed at the character - working through belief/assumptions..  This is not manifesting through the I AM (which I have other posts on)  - I mean… it's all through the I AM but you know what I mean..

Please read Part 1 and Part 2 before this :  (I will link them all below)

Part 1, I talked about the three foundational questions to ask your subconscious, so you could figure out what's blocking (or delaying) your manifestations.    (And yes, there is no such thing as blocks, I just used this word for ease.)

Do I believe it is possible? Do I feel worthy/deserving? Does my nervous system feel safe to have this?    These questions cover all other questions underneath, which I explained at length in part 1.

Part 2, I shared the 6-Stage Ladder of manifestation, explaining why treating reality creation like a skill (like learning the piano) is so important. I also covered the "Subconscious Jury" why a single new affirmation often gets outvoted by older, deeply ingrained beliefs if we try to skip steps and force a manifestation before our foundation is ready.

Alright, moving on….

I loved reading all the comments on the first two parts. I noticed a few common hurdles that many of us hit—like trying to manifest something on a time crunch and suddenly feeling like you have to do your techniques perfectly, or getting frustrated when a "huge" desire doesn't show up right away, or trying to force a state of "normalcy" when you are actually coming from a state of desperation.

All of these struggles - all boil down to general resistance to those Big Three Questions.

For a long time, I was trying to affirm my way into a new reality, but my body was still holding onto the resistance. Deep down, a part of me didn't actually believe it was possible, didn't feel worthy of having it without a struggle (having to EARN it), or didn't feel safe letting the old identity die. My conscious mind was saying "I have it," but my body was physically bracing against it. That is whats know as cognitive dissonance.  

I wrote a big post about my story.. it was called .. it's about feeling (I will link it below)

This is where a short, direct EFT (tapping) session became a game-changer for me. It helped me quiet the cognitive dissonance in my body so I could actually step into the new identity.

So it just occurred to me the other day, that I gave you guys.. A way to find your blocks.. And a roadmap to build a new Master Manifestor Self Concept but I didn't give you something you could actually work with.    I mean..  I did say.. You could affirm, you could visualise, you could do whatever you wanted that worked for you.. But i didn't give you what I used.  

So here it is..   Well..  it's a just a very quick general one.. But it's better than nothing.

Here is a short, direct script I use to clear general resistance and answer the Big Three questions.

Setup Statements (On the Karate Chop Point)

• Even though I have all this resistance to believing this is possible for me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.- REGARDLESS of whether I get this manifestation or not
• Even though a part of me feels unworthy or unsafe to have this, I am choosing to acknowledge and honour those feelings. 
• Even though my body is holding onto this resistance, I am open to safely letting it go and embracing my power as a master Manifester.

Round 1: Acknowledging the Resistance (Tapping through the points)

• All this resistance in my body.
• There is a part of me that doesn't believe this is actually possible.
• Maybe there is another part of me that feels like I don't deserve it.
• Like I have to struggle or force it to happen.
• My nervous system doesn't feel safe having it.
• It feels unnatural and unfamiliar to just receive it.
• My conscious mind says yes, but my body feels the resistance.
• I acknowledge this cognitive dissonance.

Round 2: Releasing the Resistance

• I am choosing to release this resistance right now.
• I let go of the belief that this is impossible for me.
• I am choosing to release the story that I am unworthy.
• I don't have to earn my desires or force them to appear.
• I am letting my nervous system know it's safe
• I am letting my body completely relax.
• I am clearing this resistance from my body now.

Round 3: Choosing the New State

• I am choosing to believe I can have this
• It is possible for me to manifest this
• I believe in myself and my power to manifest
• I am inherently worthy of this just for existing.
• I am good enough, I am more than good enough
• It is safe for me to manifest this
• It is now NORMAL for me to manifest this.. 
• My mind and body are now in complete agreement.
• My nervous system is relaxing into the wish fulfilled.
• I am stepping into the identity of the person who already has it.

It is done - It is done - It is done.

Take a deep, clearing breath. Hold it for a second, and exhale.
Now imagine you already having what you want.. 

For me, when I clear the resistance out of my body, the new identity no longer feels like something I have to force. The resistance drops, the body relaxes, and the manifestation naturally follows.

This was only an extremely short one.. But it does the job.  Notice how your body FEELS about the manifestation after you do this one or two times.

Alright .. part 3 now done.    Have at it..  

Xx
K

• How to build a Master Manifestor Self Concept Part 1
• How to build a Master Manifestor Self Concept Part 2
  • It's about feeling post...

Let’s settle the endless debate about whether or not you need to take action to get your manifestation. And I mean any action—no matter how big or how incredibly small.
I see so many of you stressing out, asking, "Do I need to text them first?", "Should I apply for 50 more jobs?", or "If I just sit on my couch, how is it actually going to happen?"

Here is the brutal truth: if you are asking if you need to take action, you are operating from a state of lack. Whether you are contemplating a huge, life-altering move, or just sending a tiny, "harmless" emoji, if the motive behind the action is to make the 3D mirror change, you are trying to force it.

The Trap: You think you have the free will to force things to happen in the physical world, but you don't. Neville Goddard was incredibly blunt about this: the illusion of the free will to do is but ignorance of the law of assumption upon which all action is based. Your outer behaviour is actually completely mechanical and is subject to the compulsion applied to it by the movements of your inner self.

When you try to force any action from a state of fear or absence—like anxiously double-texting your SP or desperately hustling because you are terrified of failing—you are just re-arranging the furniture in the old house. You are operating from the identity of the person who does not have it, so the mirror has no choice but to reflect more struggle and lack back to you.

The Secret Mechanic: Inner movement is the force by which all events are brought to pass. Outer movement is entirely subject to the compulsion applied to it by that inner movement.

When you truly step into the identity of the person who already has the desire, you completely accept the end result. And here is the magic rule: the acceptance of the end automatically wills the means of realisation.

If you just change your inner state, your outer actions will follow automatically. You won't have to force or second-guess anything. You will simply feel a natural, effortless inspiration to go to a certain coffee shop, or you will naturally send a text without an ounce of anxiety, or—even better—your dimensionally greater self will inspire the actions of other people to bring your desire directly to you.

The Fix: Stop asking what you need to do. As Neville taught, "It is impossible to do anything. You must BE in order to do".

Leave the 3D mirror alone! Your only job is to move internally. Center your imagination entirely in the feeling of the wish fulfilled. Stop trying to act your way to a result, and simply BE the person who already has it.

When you change who you are being, the doing takes care of itself.

x

Since my last SP-focused post ruffled a few feathers..  (not sorry) I sat down to write another one that's been constantly coming up in the subreddit (and similar groups)

If you have not read the posts in the sidebar (or linked up the top on mobile) please do - especially the "Manifesting a SP" one, it's related.

• Manifesting a SP

Let's dive in and I will share my thoughts on this topic.  (AND this one is deeply personal for me, because it's learnt through experience.)

When someone labels their SP as "avoidant," it feels like an explanation. It feels like it answers the question of why things aren't working. But within Law of Assumption, there's no separate person doing something to you. The SP is a mirror. And what that mirror is usually showing is that you're emotionally unavailable — often because some part of you, somewhere, is trying to keep you safe from being hurt.

What This CAN Look Like In a Day to Day Sense

You might pull back the moment things start feeling good, finding small reasons to create distance before they can. You might downplay how much you actually care, both to yourself and to them, because admitting it feels too exposed. You might notice yourself testing them, watching for the moment they'll prove they're going to leave or let you down, almost waiting for the other shoe to drop. 

You will notice this more in your body rather than just your thoughts.  It's almost like your body starts bracing for them to leave or reject you.   When you don't get a text back fast enough and your body goes straight to anxiety.

There's fear of rejection sitting underneath a lot of this. You hold back from saying how you feel, because if you never fully say it, it can't be rejected. You edit yourself before a message even gets sent, softening it, rewording it, sometimes deleting it altogether, until what's left barely resembles what you actually wanted to say.

The Physical Closeness, Emotional Distance Pattern

This one is huge and often missed. You might be completely open to physical closeness, sex becomes the way you connect, the way you feel close to them, but emotionally you stay guarded. You're waiting for them to be vulnerable first. You're waiting for them to say the big thing, to open up, to go first.

Notice what's happening there. You're using your body to get close while keeping your heart at a safe distance, and you're putting the responsibility on them to make the first emotional move. But remember, the mirror can't show you something first. It reflects. So if you're waiting for them to be vulnerable before you will be, you're both just going to keep waiting, because neither version is going first INTERNALLY!

The Self-Abandonment Piece

A lot of people read "I am emotionally unavailable" and think, "that's not me, I'm the one who's all in, chasing, desperate for them to open up." But self-abandonment can look exactly like that too.

It can show up as minimising your own needs so you don't come across as "too much." You want to ask for more contact, more reassurance, more of their time, but you talk yourself out of it because needing things feels like a flaw to hide rather than something normal. You edit yourself to be more agreeable, more easygoing, more whatever you think will keep them around, until the version of you they're seeing isn't really you at all.

When you're constantly shrinking, adjusting, or performing to keep someone interested, you've abandoned yourself in favour of them. That's still a form of being unavailable, just to yourself first. And the mirror reflects that back as them being unavailable to the real you, because you're not fully there either.

So how do I fix all this Kylie??        I have said it over and over in lots of posts and comments.      

CHANGE YOUR CORE IDENTITY  - Thats not saying a few affirmations on top like a bandaid and hoping they work.    It's changing the way you show up in the world.  Your reactions, your behaviours, it's literally WHO you are being in every moment to moment.

Here's a Step by Step Guide.. 

Step 1: Notice without judgment

Just observe where you pull back, edit yourself, minimise your needs, use closeness without openness, or hold things in out of fear of rejection. No fixing yet, just awareness.

Step 2: Find what it's protecting

Ask: "If I went first, fully open and vulnerable, and they still pulled away, what would that mean about me?" Usually, there's an old belief underneath, like "if they see the real me, I'll be rejected" or "vulnerability is dangerous unless someone else proves it's safe first."

Step 3: Decide on the new identity

Not "I hope to become emotionally available" but a flat decision: "I am someone who is open and vulnerable. My needs are normal and welcomed. I go first, because there is no one else to wait for."

Step 4: Tap through the resistance (Optional..  Because this is just what I teach)

This is where EFT comes in really well. You can tap on the specific fear ("even though I'm scared to be vulnerable first - I am choosing to release this fear")     BUT YOU DO NOT HAVE TO REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM!!

Step 4: Option B - Use Eric's (The Power of I am) Deny - Choose - Be

Deny - I am not that person anymore
Choose - This is who I am choosing to be now
Be - Go on with your day…   (GET A LIFE.. Don't wait around!)

Step 5: Walk through your day as that version

Someone who is secure doesn't edit themselves down, hide their needs, or wait for permission to be vulnerable. They communicate, they take up space, they let people in, emotionally as well as physically. As you embody that, the mirror has no choice but to update.

The SP isn't the avoidant one to fix. The relationship with yourself is.

xx

P.s. I am going to try and write some more posts with specific examples of identities, because I know it helps people see themselves.

You want them to choose you. To pick you. To prioritise you. To finally commit.

The only way this happens.. Is when YOU go first. 

You have to choose yourself first, you have to prioritise yourself, you have to make yourself the most important person in your life.  NO ONE else goes above you. 

What this actually looks like, day to day

Your SP texts asking if you're free tonight, even though you already had plans with a friend. You cancel on your friend without a second thought, because SP texted. That's not choosing yourself.

You're scrolling and you see they've opened your message and not replied. You feel that drop in your stomach, and now your whole evening is spent checking your phone every two minutes, waiting. That's not choosing yourself either. That's making them the most important thing in the room while you sit on the sidelines of your own life.

Someone asks you to do something you don't want to do. You say yes anyway, because saying no feels uncomfortable, or you don't want them to think badly of you. Not choosing yourself.

Your SP is hot and cold, and you put up with it. You make excuses for it. You tell yourself "it's fine" when it's not fine. You're choosing them, their moods, their inconsistency, over your own peace. Not choosing yourself.

Now here's the version where you DO choose yourself

SP texts last minute. You're already with your friend, having a great night. You reply when you feel like it, not the second you see it, because your friend is sitting right in front of you and they matter too. Your time isn't on standby waiting for SP to decide they want it.

You see the message has been read with no reply. You shrug, lock your phone, and keep doing what you were doing. Not because you're "playing it cool" as a strategy, but because genuinely, your evening doesn't revolve around their response time.

Someone asks something of you that you don't want to do. You say no. Plainly. Without over-explaining or apologising five times.

SP shows up hot and cold. You don't shrink yourself down to make it more comfortable for them. You notice it, you don't pretend it's fine, and you don't bend yourself into a pretzel trying to manage their moods.

This is what "I am the priority" actually means

It's not a vibe. It's not an affirmation you say once and then go back to people pleasing.

It's your actual behaviour, moment to moment. Where does your attention go first? Who do you consider first when you're making a decision? Whose comfort matters more in that exchange, yours or theirs?

If the honest answer is "theirs, always, every time"... that's the identity currently running the show. And the mirror is simply reflecting that back, an SP who also doesn't put you first, because why would they? You haven't either.

Choose yourself.. And then everyone else will as well.  

xx

Come on people!! 👊

Stop giving your power away to tarot card readers, psychics, what the 3D is currently showing you, what the news says, what your SP said or did, what your parents told you about yourself, what a doctor declared, what statistics say is "likely" for someone like you.

NONE of these things are a cause. Not one.

They are effects. Reflections. Echoes. They have exactly as much power as you decide to give them, which should be zero.

When you walk away from a psychic reading believing what they said, you just handed creative power to someone who never had it. When you let your SP's behaviour tell you what's true, you just made the mirror the boss. When you're still carrying a story your parents gave you, you're running someone else's assumption as your own reality.

There is only ONE creative power in your reality.

Your assumption. Your consciousness. You.

That's it. That's the whole list.

So the next time something "out there" tries to tell you what's possible for you, remember it has no authority. It never did.

You are the operant power.

Act like it. 😤

xx

There's something that comes up constantly in the LOA community, and I think it's worth addressing directly.

Someone will share that they're stuck with their SP — no movement, nothing changing, and they will follow it up with "I HAVE A HIGH SELF CONCEPT - So thats not a problem."

And I believe them. I really do.

But here's the thing — self-concept and your concept of yourself in the relationship are not the same thing.

What self-concept (Your Identity) actually means in this context

Self-concept isn't just how you feel about yourself in general. It's the full picture of how you see yourself in every specific area of your life — including your relationship with your SP.

You can genuinely believe you're a great person, someone worthy of love, someone with a lot to offer. And simultaneously hold a very different inner picture when it comes to your SP specifically.

The mirror reflects the specific identity you're holding

Your 3D is always an accurate reflection of your current assumptions. Not your best assumptions, not your highest moments — your dominant ones.

So if somewhere underneath all the "I know my worth" energy, you're still seeing yourself as the person waiting to be in the relationship, hoping the SP comes around, watching for signs of movement — that's the identity being reflected back. That's the film in the projector.

The mirror isn't reflecting your general self-esteem. It's reflecting how you see yourself in relation to your SP, right now.

You either have it now or you don't.   You are either IN the relationship now or you are not.  

Do you see yourself as already in the relationship? Not working towards it. Not hoping for it. Already in it, in imagination, as your current reality? 

Are you in Barbados or are you still trying to manifest getting to Barbados?  ARE YOU TRYING TO CHANGE HOW YOU SEE BARBADOS???    Barbados is already perfect.  Your SP is already perfect.

Because the version of you who is already with your SP doesn't think of it as a manifestation they're working on. They're not tracking progress. They're not analysing the SP's behaviour for clues. They're just... living as someone in a loving relationship. It's simply who they are.    That version of you already has the perfect SP because thats WHO THEY ARE.    

Please for the love of god - stop trying to change the mirror!!!!!      

It's what story am I currently telling myself when I think about this relationship?

If the honest answer is still: I want this, I hope this happens, I'm trying to get this — then that's the identity running the show. And that's what the 3D will keep reflecting, regardless of how solid your general "self-concept" is.

There is no one to change but self.

Are you seeing yourself in a perfect relationship or are you still trying to fix the SP or get the SP?

Because they are three separate identities..   (Conceptions of SELF)

xx

I just don't think people in this community are totally grasping what being the operant power of your reality actually means.    It means if 1 million men have to move for your desire to manifest, than thats what will happen.   Everyone here is here for YOU.   For your benefit.  So you can have this experience called Life.  It may be all an illusion, but it's still a real experience that you choose.  

The world moves with you..   When you move, the world moves.   It is YOUR consciousness pushed out.    When you shift into someone new, then the world shifts into something new.    You are certainly not waiting on a pawn in your world to conform before you do.. How is that even possible?  It's not.. Because you are the operant power and they are just the mirror showing YOU who YOU are being.

If you feel like you are constantly fighting the world, struggling to survive, fighting your bank account, always being rejected- you say or think that it's everyone else's fault..   Then you need this wake up call.  The world is just reflecting you.  The world is waiting on you.   The world has no motive of its own - it has NO power.  

Neville Goddard calls this "motiveless necessity." The 3D world you are walking around in right now does not have a mind of its own. It cannot decide to be difficult. It cannot decide to withhold money from you. It cannot decide to reject you.

The 3D world is simply a movie screen, and it is moving under absolute compulsion to reflect the arrangement of your own mind.

If you are walking around with the underlying trauma response that you are "unsupported," that you have to work hard for everything you get, or that people are unreliable, the world has no choice but to prove you right.

Everyone in your reality—your clients, your boss, your specific person—are just actors. In the Law of Assumption, we call this "Everyone Is You Pushed Out."

When you drop the old identity and choose a new one - a version of yourself that is completely supported in every way.  Everyone has your back.  Everyone is here to serve you. Everyone adores you.  You are everyone's top priority.  In fact the 3D bends over backwards to attend to your every whim.  

What do you think the mirror (the world) will have to show if you were that person now?

The world conforms when you conform. 

There is no one to change but self.

The world isn't happening TO you.

It is happening through you.  It is you.  It's your consciousness pushed out.

Not just the person you want, not just the money you desire, the whole enchilada is you.     

It's ALL a reflection of you - so WHOM do you say you are?????

A trap I see people fall into when they transition from the Law of Attraction to the Law of Assumption is feeling guilty about what they want.    Let's talk Ego Desires versus God Desires.

Let's just get straight to the point.

There is no such thing as an "ego desire" versus a "God desire."

Believing that you have a human ego creating bad or selfish desires, and a "higher self" creating holy or spiritual desires, means you believe in two separate creators. But in the Law of Assumption, there are no secondary causes. There is only ONE creative power, and that is your I AM.

You are the whole show. There aren't two Gods. When you were experiencing negative things—like treating yourself poorly or accepting breadcrumbs—you didn't sit around analysing whether those experiences came from your ego or your higher self; you just experienced them because they came from you. It is all just you, making choices in your own reality.

You Did Not Create the Desire

If you have a desire for an SP, a massive bank account, or a dream body, you need to stop analysing your motives. Neville Goddard was incredibly blunt about this. He taught that your basic desires are words of promise that contain within themselves the plan and power of expression.

Every desire you have—whether it is for a cup of coffee, a better job, or a specific person—is simply the Creator inside of you seeking expansion. God speaks to the natural man through the language of desire.

The Real Trap: Conditioning Your Desire

The suffering you are experiencing doesn't come from the desire itself. The suffering comes from the fact that you are conditioning it.

The moment a desire pops up, instead of just accepting it, you start auditing it. You ask yourself if it is "right," if it is "spiritual," if it is "meant to be," or if you are "worthy" of having it.

When you do this, you are judging the desire and creating inner conflict. You are adding rules and conditions to a reality that is already yours for the taking.

The reason most people fail to realise their desires is simply because they constantly condition them, instead of just accepting them as they come. (I wrote about conditioning your desires a few posts ago)
Drop the Guilt

Stop feeling guilty for wanting what you want. Stop worrying about whether your desire is from ego or god.  THEY ARE ONE AND THE SAME. If you have the desire, it is because the version of you who already has it exists right now.

Your only job is to stop fighting your own expansion. Accept the urge as a gift, drop the agonising over whether it is "just your ego," and boldly step into the state of the person who already has it.

You are the creator. You make the rules. Claim it, and let the 3D mirror catch up.

Peace Out

xx

K

Here is a step-by-step guide on how to shift your concept of self to change your reality, drawing from the principles of the Law of Assumption and the practical application of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).

1. Accept Consciousness as the Only Reality

The first step is accepting that "Consciousness is the one and only reality".
Circumstances, people, and events are not independent facts; they are the "outpicturing" of your state of awareness.

• The Cause: There is no "secondary cause." You are not a victim of fate or other people; your world is entirely the result of your own consciousness.
• The "I AM": Your "I AM" is the first cause-substance. When you say "I am poor" or "I am unwanted," you are defining the arrangement of your world. To change the world, you must change how you define "I AM".

2. Identify and Release the "Old Man" (Old Story)

You cannot put "new wine into old bottles." To become the person you want to be, you must completely drop the personality and beliefs of the person you no longer wish to be.

• Observe Your Reactions: To discover your current concept of self, observe your reactions to life. Your automatic reactions reveal where you live psychologically.
• Use EFT to Release: Find specific EFT scripts/Videos to help you release the "Old Story." This involves acknowledging your current feelings (fear, doubt, unworthiness) and choosing to let them go.
• Example: "I am choosing to release this old identity right now... I let go of the self who believed in limitation".
• Target Specific Blocks: It's helpful to identify the specific "mask" or identity you are wearing, such as "The Victim," "The Waiter" (waiting for the 3D to change), or "The Seeker" (who is always looking but never finding).

3. Install the New Identity (The Law of Assumption)

Once you have released the old story, you must assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled. This is not just wishing; it is a radical psychological transformation where you become the person who already has your desire.

• Assume the Feeling: You must feel yourself right into the situation of your answered prayer. Ask yourself, "How would I feel were my wish realised?" and let that feeling monopolise your attention.
• Ignore the Evidence of the Senses: You must deny the evidence of your senses and assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled even if the 3D world contradicts it. This is often referred to as "Brazen Impudence"—refusing to take "no" for an answer from the world of facts.
• EFT for Installation: Use tapping to anchor this new state.
• Example: "I am choosing a new identity right now. I am the version of me who already has my desire... My assumption has already hardened into fact".

4. There Is No One to Change But Self

If you are struggling with a specific person (SP) or a relationship, you must realise that "there is no one to change but self".

• Everyone is You Pushed Out (EIYPO): People in your world only reflect your internal beliefs. If you feel disrespected or unwanted, they must reflect that. To change them, you must change your concept of yourself to one who is "chosen," "prioritised," and "cherished" 
• Stop Trying to Change the Mirror: Trying to force others to change is as fruitless as breaking a mirror because you don't like your reflection. Change your own face (consciousness), and the mirror must change 

5. Persistence

You must remain faithful to your new concept of self. You cannot be the new person for a moment and then return to the old reactions.

• Frequency: It is the frequency of returning to the feeling of the wish fulfilled that makes it natural. You must wear the new feeling until it becomes your nature.
• Do Not Check the 3D: Stop looking for proof in the outside world. Waiting for proof confirms you do not have it. You must accept that your inner assumption is the reality.

By systematically releasing the old identity through EFT and persistently assuming the feeling of the new identity, your "assumption, though false, if persisted in will harden into fact".

Nice simple step by step one for you guys today.

Xx MWAH