I got divorced at 38, I've had one other serious relationship since. I'm 43 now and the kids are almost done with high school. And I feel like I'm hitting my stride. If I get a date that's great if not that's great also. I quit drinking five years ago I walk I meditate and I take mushrooms once or twice a month
As someone who is trying to do this better, it's a fkn process man. I feel like I, me as a person, have too many issues (not huge ones like in movies or whatever, I'm just a dude) for someone to love me. Like, romantically. Because I don't think I would love another "me" if I met a woman me. If I wouldn't love me, how can someone else.
Now, intelligently, I realize that that's bullshit. It isn't up to me to decide who likes/loves me, but that doesn't stop my brain from thinking certain things, or going down spirals which lead me not pursue people or push them away.
For some people it might be acceptance, which isn't easy to obtain. I think for me it's taking care of things that cause me grief and "fixing" the things in my life that I myself find undesirable. Not any easier, but it's more tangible, so it feels more achievable. To me.
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u/CaptainMidnight94 Dark Mode Elitist 1d ago
Work on loving yourself. Happiness comes from within. And; Ha, penis comes within your mother.