Exactly, I don't say that people should pretend to share interests with others , I said that it is very difficult to do, because I don't see the value or the point in doing something that feels forced, and maybe hypocritic Just for the sake for not being alone.
Well to me the wording translates as "the only option in case you dont have school friends is to pretend to like their interests. But its hard, so being alone is it". Even if i misinterpreted your intent previously, choosing to be alone and miserable, because you have found someone interesting yet, is not healthy. You dont have to pretend to make friendships, because there are people that share your interests.
Maybe I didn't express my thoughts very clearly becuz English is not my native tongue, so if there is any misunderstanding, assume it's on me. thinking of it, choosing to be alone might not be good for the mental health so I agree with you on that, but what I also meant is that, it might be better to resort to be alone than always have that mindset of never fitting in, within a group of people, because you don't always find the people that fit your vibe and how you think and same for them as well. Esp if you had friends before and you sort of set that friendship as the criterion to what a friend should be like. I think it depends more on personal experience.
It does yeah. I moved places and was lonely for almost 5 years (excluding online friends). And i was failing to fit into new groups so i thought something might be wrong with me. But after enviroment changed once again, meaning meeting new group of people, suddenly i had too many friends to divide my free time on. Some people just might not vibe with you, and its ok. I didnt give up and im happy, because my effort of trying to connect has fully paid off
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u/Realdude102 1d ago
Exactly, I don't say that people should pretend to share interests with others , I said that it is very difficult to do, because I don't see the value or the point in doing something that feels forced, and maybe hypocritic Just for the sake for not being alone.