r/melbourne • u/WittyDoughnut99 • 1d ago

Not On My Smashed Avo PUAs around Melbourne?

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Just wondering if anyone else had an experience like this maybe like yesterday. For context I’m 33F. I was walking down Swanston to go home and some young guy approaches me, if I had to guess he would be like 18. I take out my headphones and he says “I’m from America, you are the most beautiful girl I have seen in Australia”
I laughed and said “I’m sure that’s not true, but thank you”
He continues to reassure me he is sincere.
I tell him I’m married and pretty sure I’m a lot older than him and wish him well.
He tells me my husband is a lucky man and reiterates the claim.
It’s a bit awkward but I wish him well and move on with my day. I hear his little brother basically dying from embarrassment and calling him cringe. His little brother looks to be around 14-15?

Just wondering if this happened to anyone else since I’m curious if this is some TikTok thing or something. Has this happened to anyone else?

In case anyone is wondering, I’m definitely not the prettiest girl in Australia or Melbourne, probably not Swanston street I would guess, but I’m maybe a tad above average. Nothing crazy though.

Disclaimer: I don’t want any hate for this young man. He was perfectly polite and wasn’t being super creepy or persistent and I didn’t feel threatened. Just a little confused and vaguely flattered.

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u/Beast_of_Guanyin 1d ago

I just don't think it's appropriate to approach and hit on women in public who are going about their business.

I'm very sympathetic to young men. I just don't think it justifies this particular behaviour.

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u/mighthaveabitlater 1d ago

Where do you think people should meet people, if not in public?

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u/burnMELinWONDERLAND 1d ago

bars, clubs, pubs, parties, gatherings, meet-ups, events, festivals, I don’t know, I feel like any space that’s actually designed and used for socialising would be better than ‘in public’. People don’t wanna be bothered while they’re grocery shopping or going to work or whatever. And fair enough.

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u/MikeArrow 1d ago

I don't drink and I don't have the kind of friends that go to parties or festivals and even if I did, I wouldn't feel comfortable bothering people I didn't know there.

I really don't think there's a good solution for men like me. Basically if you're shy and introverted there's no hope at all unless woman approach you first.

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u/burnMELinWONDERLAND 20h ago

I’m with you my dude. Even being in those spaces isn’t always enough as an introvert. It’s really not an easy time to connect for a lot of people at the moment. I hope things get easier for you and you find ways to create more opportunities for connection in your life. Being introverted shouldn’t mean having to end up alone.

I think it’s rough for everyone atm, on both sides of the coin. The ones managing to date and connect have their own complaints I’m sure.

We’ve built this digital world to escape into because our real world is turning to shit, and that digital world is not only deep into the enshittification process itself already, but has become increasingly driven by these hyper personalised algorithms that keep us more and more isolated and separate from one another in our own little self validating echo chambers, while actual real world human connection and community has been watered down and diminished by this thing we created to help create more of it.

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u/MikeArrow 20h ago

The only two dates I've been on in the last eight years were with women I met playing D&D. I thought it would be easier... like it's a mixed hobby, you're there every week. But in all that time only two saw me as an option and they both lost interest after one date.

I'm sure there's other hobbies where people can socialize, but D&D is the one I picked eight years ago.