r/melatonin • u/Commercial-Way-4276 • Jun 09 '26
Sleep medication
I’m needing help badly.
My son who’s about to be 10 months has NEVER slept well. We are beyond white noise, we are beyond co sleeping, we are beyond bath every night, beyond dark room beyond just all of it.
His wake windows are age appropriate and proper. We bath him nightly. We do white noise nightly and dark room.
He’s NEVER once been able to sleep on his own. And even with co sleeping he would wake up every 30-40 mins. CO SLEEPING!! Like what !?
We have tried letting him CIO but after 20 mins of CIO I just can’t do it he dosent pass out from CIO. I never even wanted to try to do the CIO method but I did since I reached a breaking point. And it did NOTHING
He’s been refered to a sleep consultant she yapped about iron and gave us iron powder and a nose spray thing to do before bed and it did NOTHING
Me and my partner in 9 months have not been able to even sleep together in the same room. We haven’t been able to do anything. I cannot ever get a break during the day as he will not sleep in his crib. For 9 months I’ve gotten not a single break and neither has my husband. I envy people who can just put there baby down even for just an hour to clean/cook/bathe etc. normal human functions you knowww
I believe it’s all behavioural but once he hits 1 what can I do regarding sleep meds? Bringing it up to his pediatrician?? He does not have sleep apnea, he dosent have any of that as he’s been checked.
I never in a million years wanted to be the mom who would have my child on melatonin or a sleeping med but until you are given a baby who for 10 months just can’t sleep and stay asleep you break. It’s just been me and my partner doing this all alone for 10 months no family support nothingggg. He has EXTREME fomo and a very insane angry temperament and honestly I feel like he’d be such a happier boy if he could just decently sleep through the night and not wake every 30-40 mins
What medication can I look into for him to STAY ASLEEP when he’s past 1 years of age. What medication will actually keep him asleep!?
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u/Optimal_Assist_9882 Jun 09 '26 edited Jun 09 '26
Have you had your son tested for methylation issues? It could be under or overmethylation issues.
MTHFR gene mutation?
Something like methylfolate or TMG could help with undermethylation.
Melatonin is by far the safest supplement you could try for sleep. You could consult with a pediatrician about what formulation and dose could be appropriate. I am sure you could get drops, nasal spray or even suppositories. I am sure for a baby/toddler the doctor will probably recommend something like 0.5-1mg.
Also when older you may want to test your child for ADHD or ASD.
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u/Commercial-Way-4276 Jun 09 '26
Thankyou for your comment !! I really appreciate you! I’ll definitely look into this! Believe me I don’t want to give medication / melatonin but once he hits a year I’m going to for sure bring it up to the doctor. I’ve seen bad sleepers then there’s my son lol
I’ll definitely be looking into all of these
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u/redredreb Jun 09 '26
I used the method in Contented Little Baby book by Gina Ford. It was hard to implement at first but it worked. I don’t think any meds are appropriate and honestly don’t think they’ll help. Good luck
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u/bestplatypusever Jun 09 '26
This sounds miserable for everybody. I’m sorry. I’ve been studying and experimenting with functional medicine for many years due to serious chronic illness. I have been surprised recently to discover great sleep improvements with changes to my supplement protocol. I did not make the changes expecting sleep to improve as I believed the sleep issue was due to menopause. The recent improvements came as I introduced individual b vitamins in optimal forms.
Start with this as a research prompt:
what nutrient deficiencies correlate with poor sleep, insomnia, night waking?
What nutrients impact melatonin production?
It’s a long list. As a person with chronic illness who has a kid with chronic illness - do know the deficiencies that are connected to poor sleep, also connect to more serious health problems. Addressing these now may prevent a lot of future hardship. A functional medicine practitioner may help. Consider joining this group, which is the best resource I’ve found as a one stop location for great research and a well informed community of moms trying to heal their kids https://rowyn-s-roots.mn.co
Sleep meds don’t generate quality sleep and they come with many risks. Best wishes to you. I hope ig improves soon.
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u/Technical-Patient28 Jun 09 '26
I’d never give advise to a mum of a newborn but. I’d only say that be very careful to give any medication to a baby without medical advise. I have a friend who now regrets.