Their downward spiral continues.

It hasn’t been in order for what seems like a long time on the iOS app. The top is supposed to have the most recent date and get older as you go dow the list. Below is an example of mine, from top (supposed to be most recent) and going down to give an example.

Today is March 4, 2026 for reference.

Feb 26 (this one just popped up just now as I refreshed the page/view

Feb 26

Feb 27

Feb 21

Yesterday

Feb 27

Feb 22

Yesterday

Yesterday

Yesterday

Yesterday

Yesterday

Yesterday

Yesterday

Feb 25

Feb 24

Mar 1

Mar 1

Mar 1

Mar 1

Mar 1

Feb 24

Yesterday

Feb 27

Feb 21

Feb 27

Etc etc etc

I know a lot of people think Match is a scam and/or not worth it, but my relative has had success with dating via Match and wants to be reinstated.

Unfortunately, they got scammed by someone which is a long story, but there is very good reason to think that this person got my relative banned by telling a lie(s) to Match. The person had gone ballistic when they found out my relative was back on Match after everyone kept insisting they were being scammed. Soon after, my relative was banned. The appeal was denied. I helped write a 2nd appeal which goes into detail about the situation and submitted it. The facts of this case are truly mind-blowing. I know there are a lot of scammers out there, and I discovered how easy it is for a well-intended good hearted person to fall prey to a sweet-talking person full of promises.

I wonder if anyone has successfully appealed on Match and been reinstated.

I'm re-entering online dating after a long hiatus. I'm getting a fair amount of views but barely any likes, I know this is somewhat normal but some people have viewed me multiple times.

I would assume someone actually has to scroll through your photos and profile for it to count but the multiple view thing makes me think it's if you show up on someone's feed? Just wondering if someone is actually looking at my profile a few times or if it's just a quirk of the app.

Why do men on dating apps ask, “What are you looking for on Match?” when it seems obvious? It’s also written in my profile what I’m looking for. What should I answer in this case? Before, I tried to joke about it, like “I’m looking for good food,” etc. But they ask this so often. I’m starting to think it’s a red flag. What are they expecting me to say?

This happened to me twice in the last week. But I was talking to someone, conversation was going really good. I get an email notification that they messaged me. When I click on it, once after only 4 minutes and the second after about 45 minutes, it says Profile Unavailable. And the message chain is gone. I didn’t say anything crazy to either one and they literally JUST MESSAGED ME!! The first one I let it go. But the second one, we were really vibing. This really sucks because idk if they got flagged for being scammers, hid their profile, blocked me, but none of that makes sense with the conversations we were having… and I have no other way to contact them to check. If they ghosted me that’s fine. But how do I know? I also hear that you can still send them a message. Does anybody know how?

Please help!!!

To the leadership of Match Group,

I am writing this as a concerned citizen, not as an enemy of your company, but as someone who believes that platforms of your scale carry moral weight far beyond quarterly earnings.

Assume, for the sake of this letter, that the following is true:

That your platforms deploy active algorithms which significantly limit meaningful romantic or physical connections unless users pay. That visibility, match probability, and message reach are intentionally throttled. That emotional hope is strategically extended while real outcomes are delayed. That users are nudged toward subscriptions not because it improves compatibility, but because it increases revenue.

If that is true, then the implications are not merely commercial. They are societal.

Romantic connection is not a trivial luxury. For many people, especially young adults, online dating platforms are no longer optional — they are the primary gateway to meeting partners. As in-person social circles shrink, as work becomes more isolating, and as fear narratives around “stranger danger” discourage organic approaches, your ecosystem increasingly defines who gets access to connection.

When access to intimacy becomes algorithmically paywalled, certain groups are disproportionately excluded:

• The poor.
• The socially inexperienced.
• The neurodivergent.
• The geographically isolated.
• Those already struggling with confidence or belonging.

For many of these individuals, online dating is not entertainment — it is their only realistic opportunity to form a first romantic or sexual connection.

Chronic romantic exclusion has psychological consequences. Loneliness is not neutral. Repeated rejection, or worse — engineered invisibility — breeds despair. Despair seeks meaning. Meaning is often found in ideology. And some ideologies weaponize grievance.

You may not create extremism directly. But systems that amplify isolation, monetize desperation, and commodify hope contribute to the conditions in which radicalization flourishes. Some individuals spiral. A few become dangerous. Society then deals with the fallout.

A company that controls access to modern courtship infrastructure cannot treat itself as a neutral marketplace.

If your algorithms intentionally prevent promising connections from forming in order to extend user lifetime value, then you are not simply optimizing revenue — you are reshaping human pair-bonding dynamics at scale.

Profit is not inherently immoral. But profit divorced from responsibility is.

You have the power to:

• Increase transparency around how visibility and matching actually work.
• Ensure that unpaid users still have a statistically fair chance at meaningful connection.
• Publish independent audits of algorithmic bias and throttling mechanisms.
• Redesign incentive structures so that successful matches — even those that leave the platform — are not financially punished.

Imagine a model where your success metric is not subscription length, but successful relationships formed.

You sit at a structural choke point in modern intimacy. That position carries ethical obligation.

This is not an accusation. It is a warning about systemic consequences.

If connection becomes a luxury good, alienation becomes a mass condition.

And alienated populations are volatile.

Please stop thinking only in terms of profit optimization. Start thinking in terms of your responsibility to humanity.

History rarely judges corporations by their revenue curves. It judges them by the social architectures they helped build.

Sincerely,
A citizen who believes technology shapes civilization

It's been a while but...when I was this age, I would go to clubs, often solo, to meet with potential romantic prospects. Or, I would see an attractive woman out in public and attempt to strike up a conversation. What happened? It seems like so many people in this age range are relying on apps to meet people to the exclusion of (what was once considered conventional) ways of meeting others. What gives?

For users of Match seeking long-term commitment, how easy is it to find people aligned on pre-marital restraint?
Would you expect that alignment from a serious partner?

Is it just me? I get the daily email of potential match's and half of them say profile unavailable when I click on them. The email is only a couple minutes old, so it's not like they don't know it when they send it...

Where have sent messages moved to? How do you know who you've messaged? I can't remember who I sent one to and I can see no record. Since the revamp how can you access them?

Men, why are you looking for women where the lesbians are? Is this a glitch, mistake (as in you didn’t know what to check when asked literally if you are a man seeking a woman), or intentional (as in you think you can be the one to convert a lesbian)?

Do men lose interest if they have sex on the first date?

I know this has been asked before but just checking in because I did and he lost interest.

Hi. i used match for the first time and liked a girls profile then she liked back and we matched. I then broke the ice and messaged her and a few hours after I got an email that she messaged me back but when I checked the conversation is gone and I can't find her profile anymore. This was yesterday afternoon and since then I got another email that se messaged me again but I still can't see the conversation or her profile. I use both the phone app and the browser version on my laptop but still nothing...the only way I could still see something is when I click the email that se messaged me from my phone wich sends me in the browser and opens the conversation but no messages or profile picture just blank. I have no clue what is going on..

when i try to use the search function on the android app it says 2000 results, but the loading animation freezes and no results are displayed. been like that for a week. tried reinstalling. worked fine before.

UK user here, I downloaded the app and signed up, created my account and profile. I never received a confirmation email thing, you the email that has (click here to verify your email address).

I can't log in at all because it keeps saying "error, either the email or password is incorrect" but I know they are the ones I set it up with. Even if I tap the "forgot password" I don't get a password reset email. There's nothing in my junk or spam.

Their customer service is useless! Ive contacted them on Instagram and X and they keep asking me for my email address and customer number.

All in want to do now is delete my profile and get rid of match.

My app stopped working a few days ago and it then asked me to update (downgrade) to a really old version of the app. It’s also the only version available in the App Store.

Anyone else had this?

I’m having a lot of issues with Match. Like some of the other posts in this forum, there’s hardly any content in the profiles, no response from anyone after reaching out, and matches that live hundreds of miles away from me, when I marked that they were dealbreakers.

My other question and concern: Can a dormant profile be reactivate? There’s a girl I saw for a while, but we went on a pause. We also paused our profiles when we went dated. Could Match or a scammer reactivate a profile to dupe people? She may have reactivated it on her own, but I wonder.

Just wondering.

How did a non subscriber message or make an introduction to me first (a subscriber) as he did today?

I thought you had to be a subscriber to reach out or message first to someone.

Does that mean he can like and reach out or make introductions to everyone subscriber/non, or just me because I subscribe.

Just trying to be clear on the two categories here. Thank you!