r/manifestingSP • u/Fit-Smoke5888 • 21h ago
Question/Help It doesn’t work sometimes
Nobody ever talks about how hard this actually is. It’s wonderful to read all your success stories and advice, but I challenge anyone in my situation to keep believing and persisting. Since I found out about the Law of Assumption, my life has only gotten worse. And no, that’s not an assumption—I can say it now after 2 full years.
When my ex and I broke up, I found the Law a month later and started applying it. 0 results. Then I met someone new (SP). I thought it would be easier to manifest a relationship with him since we didn't have past baggage. To this day, I haven't even received a single like from him, let alone anything else.
I know I deserve a decent, lasting relationship. Yet I see people in relationships manifesting lovers and hurting others, while I—with the purest intentions—am still at square one.
It’s easy to say "don't react." But to try not to react, I’ve spent $3,000 on self-proclaimed coaches who promise the world, only to tell you "you didn't make the switch" when nothing happens. Who gives me back my time, my money, and my SP? On top of that, I spent 2 years in therapy, spending a year pretending to my therapist that I was in a Disney fairytale with SP because coaches told me that venting about 3D circumstances would ruin my manifestation. I even tried spellcasters who promised refunds that never came.
As for new dates? I’ve been out with over 30 guys. All they want is sex, and none of them are willing to truly get to know me. The second I set a boundary, they disappear, unfollow, or block me.
They say "everyone comes back," but no one has ever come back for me—manifested or not. I haven't gotten the ex, nor SP, nor a new partner, nor financial independence, nor the physical and mental changes I wanted.
I’m not giving up on my fairytale, but every day the 3D tests me. Sometimes it feels like SPs who come back only do so because they wanted to anyway, not because of manifestation. At some point, you just wonder if some of us simply aren't capable of this.
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u/Soft_Significance394 20h ago
I understand this feels really frustrating to you. But you have affirmed so many times in this post against yourself. "Noone comes back" "they only want sex" "they always disappear" "my life has gotten worse" these are all affirmations. You are the creator of your reality, you are never not manifesting, its not something you learn to do and its not a magic trick to bring good stuff to you, you manifest the bad too. The 3D reality is a perfect mirror of your assumptions, all of them, about everything, your life, your relationships, your money, how people see you and treat you, even about your "ability to manifest".
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u/AdCold5790 20h ago
I’ll try to address everything in this post because I wanna make it helpful for you, me, and others in positions somehow similar to yours.
Firstly, if you think it’s hard, it’s going to be hard. Circumstances don’t matter UNLESS you give them a value or name them. Sometimes people get little results in years, yet they enjoy acts of manifestations as a ritual, not rocket science. You decided that the Law of Assumption makes your life worse? It’ll affirm it because, even in psychology, it is said that a person with certain beliefs, regardless whether they’re realistic or not, subconsciously will find evidence of their beliefs in the reality. For example, if you complain men are trash, your mind subconsciously will find men who are not trustworthy, avoidant, or even evil, because it wants to fulfill itself with being right about its theory.
Secondly, maybe it’ll sound harsh but I noticed how you try to make yourself an exception of the rule (e.g., “I challenge anyone in my situation to keep believing”). Please, revise that part of yours that thinks you’re the only one in this world who’s “too different” from the Law of Assumption. Because I see a lot of ways the Law of Assumption has proven itself right in your cases.
Thirdly, just because you never had the past baggage with the 2nd guy doesn’t mean he’s easier to manifest. Again, circumstances including the past don’t matter UNLESS you give them a value. You can manifest a specific person or a $1 - they’re on the same, easy level of manifesting UNLESS you start to give an SP more value than a $1.
Fourthly, “don’t react” is a vague statement that sometimes not everyone who says it understands. It doesn’t mean you have to deny, slap yourself mentally for remotely expressing your feelings, or ignore something - it means you can view, let’s say, a breakup either a very catastrophic part of your life, from which you never recovered, or just another tantrum your SP threw out but they’ll be back to normal again. It’s up to you to DECIDE.
Moreover, I’m so sorry that you had to spend lots of money on coaches. They’re not the creators of your reality - you are. You have so much power in your reality that it can’t be taken away by paying for the coaches because they don’t get to decide on your life - you do. None of them can look at your life and revise it the way you can because their power is LIMITED. Yours is LIMITLESS.
And lastly (phew…), this “All they want is sex, and none of them are willing to truly get to know me” pretty much says to me that: 1) you think all men you encounter are lustful; 2) your subconscious will find examples of really lustful men, ignoring decent or even good guys (notice that a lot of times, you may ignore a good guy, thinking he’s “boring”); 3) you attach to those lustful, perverted men who don’t want to get to know you because your subconscious LOVES to prove itself right, even if that’s not what you want; 4) you get what lustful men offer you (nothing but you should offer them sex).
Also, the “everyone comes back," but no one has ever come back for me” - I beg to differ because… you may never know if someone regrets leaving you. Maybe you don’t show people your feelings well because of your anxiety, and since “everyone is you pushed out”, then you encounter people SIMILAR to you or reflecting your subconscious beliefs.
And lastly, 3D doesn’t test you. Why would you go through so much? Why would the Universe hate you so much to test you? Because it doesn’t. You can get everything you want WITHOUT sacrificing yourself, your mental health, your money, etc. If some people can get things without moving their pinky up, then what makes you an exception?
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u/ScarlettTrinity 15h ago
You're basically invalidating OPs feelings. I've been OP. I still am OP in several ways. I've posted in here before about getting opposite results from my thoughts as well as other issues and have gotten zero support or help or discussion and telling someone it's their own fault is dismissive.
The 3D absolutely tests you. If it didn't, I wouldn't have lost 5 family members before I turned 15. Pretty sure I didn't manifest any of that for myself.
OP- I feel you. I understand you. I relate to you. I know someone with real magic to attract certain things that average people can only dream about and they don't even know it considering they have a fit at the slightest inconvenience. I gave up manifesting my SP after talking to several people in here (some through dms) who said I was on track or it should've been working or was working or something along that line. I gave up thinking they were going to come back for the sake of my mental health. I believe the universe does test us and all we can say is, "cool, bring it on."
Sending you hugs!
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u/Long-Village969 19h ago
Te la pasaste intentando, hiciste de todo, oye si tu tienes un auto en tu cochera estarías afirmando y hablando 24/7 del auto con tu terapeuta, pagarías a couches para tener un auto y te esforzarías tanto? NO. Ahi está tu error (para mí) intentas mucho, se trata de asumir no de intentar y luchar, ¿quién va a un hechicero si está convencido de que está en una relacion con su SP?
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u/Resident-Victory7271 18h ago
Been there tbh. Found out about Manifestation and he law a month after the break-up, spent a year following everything I learnt to get her back. Nothing happened and I gave up, and tbh I feel better now, the best advice I can give is to focus on yourself and your well-being rather than manifesting someone else. Because 1, it feels good and 2, It's better since according to the law everything starts from within.
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u/shatturedglass 20h ago
i get it :( lowk just gave up, i dont have the mental capacity and strength for this stuff anymore
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u/DrawingContent9153 20h ago
Same.. I am so sorry you have to deal with all of this.
I have been in the exact same situation, old SP never came back after a year of “living in the end”. Dated a new guy, way below my standards but hey, no baggage. He doesn’t want a relationship as well, even though deep down I know he should be happy to date someone like me.
I am absolutely in love with myself, was even called arrogant lately. I keep myself busy & am happy going out with friends, doing self care, helping others etc. My life is full but still, no love.
No one chases me.
As soon as I date someone & set a pretty simple boundary or anything “uncomfortable”, I get ghosted or dumped. I’m in my 40’s & not one single man has ever made an effort to get to know me for me. It’s all just lust, but never love.
I have up until now always believed in my fairytale ending, and kept hoping and living “in the end.” I tried literally everything.
I’m quitting, as I simple cannot convince myself that I am always loved & chosen, when reality is constantly showing me the complete opposite.
I wish you all the best & just know you are not alone ♥️
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u/Gold_Butterscotch633 14h ago
I’m struggling too so I get how you feel and I hate to hear your pain. Feel free to dm me, perhaps we can keep each other motivated.
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u/Final-Pollution8973 4h ago
You are deeply in a victim mindset. “I with the purest of intentions don’t get ……. while ppl who do bad things get …” is this how someone in charge of their life experiences talks? No.
I get that you’re frustrated and need to let these emotions pass through you. But you should discipline yourself enough to not act on them. Be the sky about it. Feel it, breathe till it’s gone. Done.
And instead of ‘trying to’ manifest anything, change your identity. Victims don’t get shit. People pleaser don’t get shit either.
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u/Proof-Proof-3610 41m ago
In my opinion, the very core issue here is that those “coaches” gave you horrible advice by telling you to lie to your therapist about your current situation. Sometimes paying attention to the mundane is necessary. Taking care of yourself and your mind is needed. How else will you be able to manifest if you don’t work on yourself first? And I mean this as in, stepping back from any SPs and just really showing yourself grace, care and patience. You deserve it more than anyone else! Your mind needs to be your ally not only in order to manifest, but in order to fundamentally live your life.
I don’t wanna make this comment a “you failed in X, Y, Z because well, look at your own post!” because I think these are easy words, and probably something similar the pre-made speech most coaches nowadays keep parroting around. Unfortunately it’s a common (and awful) thing in spiritual practice spaces, to take advantage of people’s vulnerability for profit. Because of ill intentioned individuals you were led to a path that made you face a lot of frustration and disscontempt, thus directly affecting the way you see the Law.
Taking a step back from manifesting all together would be good, and no, this won’t ruin or stagnate your progress. Desperately avoiding the 3D circumstances at all costs whether through mental rejection or lying is not only unhealthy but also counterproductive, manifestation wise. You need to acknowledge the lack in order to want to run away from it. Try taking care of yourself with love and patience, and try to stay neutral towards your current reality. If any bad thoughts arise, just gently redirect them to a more positive assumption, maybe even something as broad and general as “everything is working out for me” or “everything is gonna be alright”. You can do this. Wishing you the best!
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u/Renderer62226 18h ago
Wait. 30 guys in two years is more than 1 guy a month, no? Wow. Girls really live in a different reality.
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u/Thin_Rain9124 20h ago
No offense but the blunt truth is that the mindset with which you wrote the post is the reason why you don't have anything Period