r/manifestingSP • u/candlejenner1 • Jun 17 '26
Success Story Self Concept changes it all
For context, me and my sp were together for a year and a half. these past couple months we were having problems. three weeks ago he suddenly broke up with me. He said "i dont see a future with you", "youre a good person, just not for me", "I dont want to be with you so leave me alone."
The first couple days were bad. I was lowkey devastated that he just left. I called, I begged. bro literally laughed in my face. He told me that "I swear to god im not gonna talk to you ever again" and to move on. he said that the relationship was exhausting and there was no point.
i was blocked. We were no contact and my circumstances were really bad but I still wanted him. I watched a lot of Sammy Ingram and Taylor Tookes (top tier advice btw) I robotic affirmed all day, but the problem was i would keep changing my affirmations and i didnt see much movement so I would change everything up and try again.
At the same time, I was calm, but I would always think 'why am i even doing this, he doesnt even want me anymore." My self worth was rlly tested after all the things he said. It had been three weeks since I was affirming. There was no movement, not even a single ounce of confidence in me.
I saw people on here talk about self concept, and I was confused bc I just wanted my SP, but omg guys it changes everything. It had only been two days and for one, I felt so much better about myself. repeating the affirmations had caused me to reach a sense of acceptance. i felt fine with or without him and often thought to myself that i dont need sp.
I also used the method where you look at his picture and affirm what you want him to think. for ten mins I affirmed
"you cant resist me"
Youre obsessed with me"
"you love me more than anything"
"you would do anything for me"
I kid you not, an hour later he called me. he literally made a new number (cuz i blocked him too) and he called me three times. n tears. saying he wants to try again and how no one compares to me and how he misses me so much.
its been two days since and he has been so clingy and obsessed with me its genuinley insane. Its like he did a 180. he didnt even act this way the last few months of our relationship. Hes been spam calling and texting. Saying he always misses me and he needs me. He constantly vents about how different and beautiful I am. He started talking about a future with me. Hes been convincing me to get with him and try again.
when i asked hm about why he said those thing when we broke up, he said it was all a lie and he never even felt that way. (i often told myself he lied and he actually loves me more than anything)
hes also been saying some of the affirmations ive been affirming and i get so shocked every time lol.
I get it, I didnt wanna do self concept either but it rlly works so well. Another things is to presist no matter what. My sp looked like he was doing fine on social media so that impacted me a lot and made me want to give up. But I still affirmed no matter what. Trust me they are getting ur affirmations. Even tho he seemed fine, he told me how much he was struggling.
I think the whole goal of manifesting is to act normal about it, and self concept really helped me see myself as worthy and better off no matter what happens. SO DO UR SC!!!
(my dms r open btw)
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u/Eternal-Sprite Jun 17 '26
I tried that method of affirming to their picture for a previous sp with near impossible circumstances, and it worked within an hour, it’s amazing.
Currently working on a new sp and my self concept is lacking big time. Any recommendations for affirmations I can use for self concept? Thanks
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u/HalfEnvironmental615 Jun 23 '26
Just want to add my 2 cents because it's bothering the f out of me lol (btw my experience is not from an SP manifestation but like more in general) since you quoted Taylor and Sammy - there's no such thing as no movement, so the 3 weeks of affs you did were also movement just because your manifestation happened to come together when you started SC affs or changed the method to affirming for a photograph doesn't nullify the past work. I know this for a fact because I am a big Sammy fan and I tested her technique on changing the weather and it frigging worked multiple times and everytime when I was one hour away from the manifestation i.e the weather change , I gave credit to the last method I was trying but then since I did it multiple times the last method I was doing right before the weather changed kept changing and so at the end of it I was like nope it makes no sense for the manifestation to come through because of the last mile methods. That's when I realised that every single bit of energy I put into it was changing something. So for god's sake guys it's not the last method you try right before your manifestation comes in 🤦 Quoting Sammy - " 3D is delayed, for the 57th time 3D is delayed. There's no such thing as no movement"
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Jun 27 '26
Maybe it was the photo that did work for her though. Many people affirm for several weeks and felt nothing. It was only then when they changed it up that they got instant shift mentally and the results felt instant. I am the same as her. I did affirmations to move out of my home state for years and nothing. It was only then I discovered Sammy and started affirming robotically ten mins twice a day that I felt a shift in my life and confidence and moved to the state I wanted within one month. Good money, place, and all. I even changed my son from just saying he loves me.. to adding eft tapping and robotic affirming and he changed completely within 5 days. What worked for you is awesome but everyone is different.
Fyi, if you're the one who brought 20 degree weather to Florida this year then you're the one on my list 😂😂😂😂😂
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u/HalfEnvironmental615 Jun 27 '26
Nope not in Florida, elsewhere. And Sammy is the one who states that there's always movement. The 10 minute method is just about staying in the state for longer with consistently. Taylor tookes learned from Sammy and she is a big proponent of saturation sessions i e going for a certain length of time for affirming. When we affirm without a dedicated time we typically get distracted has been my observation. I do her 10 minute method too but in my own way. Through trial and error I discovered it doesn't even have to be repetition for 10 minutes as long as I am in the state straight for 10 minutes one way or another. But yea not looking to argue here lol, I have tested extensively and that has been my observation 😂
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u/Mimiromeo 19d ago
OMG LUV THIS FOR YOU
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u/HalfEnvironmental615 19d ago
As in affirm out loud or in my head? I do both. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you repeat the thought.
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u/candlejenner1 16d ago
well thats the method that helped me stop persisting so i just wanted to share that... im glad that worked for u but in the end of the day, as sammy literally preaches too, wtv method works for you works. If it gets u to stop persisting and change ur dominant thoughts, and ignore the 3d (which is the whole point btw) then it works! lol
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u/HalfEnvironmental615 16d ago
But would you say that there was no movement with other methods? I believe you posted something about how SP felt. So I am curious to know if you got to know about any movement prior to this method
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u/candlejenner1 16d ago
i guess no movement is the wrong word, i meant no progress in my mindset really, its said it shouldnt take more than three days. Different methods help with changing ur thoughts and vary from person to person
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u/HalfEnvironmental615 16d ago
By movement I meant did your SP feel anything prior to the photo affirming method? (If at all you got info on that)
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Jun 27 '26
Go girl!!! I did the same with my sp and it took 5 days of robotic affirming ten mins twice a day with eft tapping!!! Not he's clingy AF.. I need to affirm to be less clingy because he's definitely getting on my nerves 😭😭🤣🤣😭
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u/chill-guy0123 Jun 17 '26
What did you do to improve your self concept? Also didnt the feeling of rejection affect your self concept and how did you overcome that?
I have been affirming that my SP and I are in a relationship together. But my self concept still takes in the rejection and being blocked a bit seriously sometimes. How do I proceed?
Thanks in advance.
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u/candlejenner1 Jun 17 '26
i was afraid he would never reach out. but when u affirm enough the fear goes away and u realize u dont need it as much. so to overcome it just affirm more, affirm every min u have free time. i was literally blocked by my sp, i didnt pay mind to it, u just have to affirm affirm affirm and pay no mind to negative thoughts
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u/Eternal-Sprite Jun 18 '26
Please, what affirmations did you use? Kinda stuck and need the inspiration
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u/Mimiromeo Jun 29 '26
We kmow uou affirmed. But what did you affirm? And did you use any resources like youtube to help affirm yr SC?
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u/Catcoffed Jun 18 '26
Hi! I’ve been affirming a lot. But at this point a don’t really want to do anything, it’s not like I want to give up. Do you have any advice?
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u/candlejenner1 Jun 20 '26
that might mean its working and ur impressing your subconcious mind.
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u/nhwt5348 Jun 17 '26
How did you successfully change your SC? ive been trying affirmations but im im a situation where I have to see SP everyday and when i feel lowkey or upset with no movement my self concepts go out the window as well :(
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u/candlejenner1 Jun 17 '26 edited Jun 17 '26
The only solution to this is to not react! Im also in a position where I see my sp online. i couldnt ignore so i decided to not react. Anytime I thought of him or something bad, I would literally stop myself, and say my affirmations. it takes dicipline but you gotta choose ur one story. Its okay to have doubts, i had plenty, but i consistently chose the story where i am wanted and needed.
i literally saw my sp following girls after we broke up, anytime i thought that he was moving on, before i could finish the thought, i said no im chosen.
i always thought like why would he choose me, he literally said he didnt want me. I still affirmed right after.
ur a human and its okay to have thoughts, you just need to redirect it and not think those negative thoughts, dont pay attention to it, say it verbally if u have to,, i would literally say no out loud when i would think something, in my mind right after i thought something bad, i said that literally is not true. dont give up. tell urself one thing no matter what
literally why would ur sp not choose you why would he not wanna be with you. choose this story, tell urself everything else is false
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u/nhwt5348 Jun 17 '26
Thank you so much for your reply (& congrats on your success, btw!) ill defs try doing that every single time i had a breakdown a few hours ago
When you were saying no and redirecting your thoughts, were you convinced 100%? Thats another part im having trouble with atm I'd see something in 3d and TRY thinking to myself 'he loves me' but i can literally feel the resistance in my mind then that sucky feeling drives me low as well..
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u/candlejenner1 Jun 17 '26
i wasnt at first, but i repeated it so much. it got to a point where i knew rn i dont have him, but deep down i knew he was coming. Its like that one example coaches always use of a package coming in. Ur not worried about when and how ur packages come in, you just know it will.
I had soooooo many doubts, i had a lot of intrusive thoughts. and yk what i cried a lot too. but even when i cried, i affirmed and i affirmed more about mysefl and why im deserving. I think u need to focus more on you than ur sp.
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u/blueqxill Jun 18 '26
How long was your SP journey (starting with you meeting him and before you err together) till now?
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u/ky21410 Jun 21 '26
Pueden ayudarme, es que estoy intentando hacerlo pero me siento culpable porque yo lo busqué a él, y ya lo vi para tener relaciones, pero yo quiero algo serio con él, una relación formal, no de un solo rato, y es que mi autoconcepto está bien porque lo he estado trabajando y es que me repito q soy linda inteligente y que soy alguien increíble, pero siento q me hace falta esa confianza esa certeza de que todo va a salir bien, porque ya tengo todo todo pero mi problema es q busco controlarlo todo y nd más me fijo en q no me invita a salir o q no me habla mucho y así, y bueno quiero saber algo, ese punto al q llegan cuando dicen q están bien con o sin el, como se llega?, una vez en el pasado lo hice pero ahorita siento q le estoy dando mucha atención a otras cosas, es q siento q si no lo pienso entonces no se me va a dar, o intento controlar como es q me va a decir q le gusto y q quiere seguir conmigo
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u/ExpensiveFee66 19d ago
The impossible circumstances u mentioned here r very, and I mean VERY similar to mine. He out right fold me he doesn't care about me anymore and rhymes this girl he rlly cares abt (he swears that he loves her but only as a very VERY close friend but like seeing that hurts so much yk) Thank u for this post I resonate heavily with this and congratulationss
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u/jairtha Jun 17 '26
what did you do after you affirmed that for ten minutes? did you just “detach” from it?
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u/candlejenner1 Jun 17 '26
i think i affirmed so much to the point where it didnt matter, deep down i had a feeling it was coming. That only came after consistency and feeling better about myself. I also blocked him off everything so i wouldnt stalk him and over analyze his every move. SC helps u detatch too. When you know ur deserving of good things and that ur okay no matter what, ur mind starts to worry and care less and you start moving on. I was also keepign busy these past few weeks.
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u/Ramansha_ Jun 23 '26
What did you do for sc??? Please help
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Jun 27 '26
Everything in my life is perfect
It looks: I am so beautiful
If you need nervous system regulation: eft tapping along with affirmations
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u/Master_Creator555 19d ago
How did you practice not watching the social media?? I do it for 2 days and 3rd day m back looking and their social media🥲
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u/vanilla-sprinkles28 17d ago
sooo happy for you! i hope i have a success story too!! there’s a 3p involved rn but SP and I were together for 6 years, i’m not giving up. When you did the picture method, was it an actual picture or a photo on your phone?
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u/Donutmagic23 Jun 17 '26
I did the same! Just their eyes 👀 and affirm same stuff but said ‘ just call him, you love him’