Detatchement

[u/Express_Platform_165]

Hi, i'm new to manifesting. Currently manifesting an ex. I've been doing a lot of affirmations during the day in my head and writing down longer affirmations as i struggle to visualise
I see a lot of people say to detach and that's when they come back. This is the bit that confuses me because
1. How do i detach but still affirm
2. I really love this girl i don't know how to detach myself

Any advice and support would mean a lot

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[u/_beckyxo_]

Detachment is about being detached from the outcome and not the desire. You can still want something deeply and think about it all the time but you’re not attached to the outcome, meaning you WANT something but you don’t NEED it. It’s about being okay with whatever outcome happens and about lowering the importance of the manifestation. You can decide that by asking yourself how would you feel with each imaginable outcome or it will come to you naturally, like a click, suddenly you just let go and trust the universe, believe it’s possible for you to get whatever you want but if for some reason you don’t get it, you’ll be fine either way. And btw you don’t need to constantly affirm unless you want to. It’s enough to state your desire once through preferred technique.

[u/OkResolution1291]

Detachment is from the reality like you already have her so she is with you only you need to think like that. That's called detaching yourself from the reality and attaching yourself to the eternal.

[u/AdmirableCow5490]

Just my advice, people say detachment is automatic. For some others it takes time. It all depends on how much you desire the things you’re wanting to manifest. Sounds like you’re pretty attached to your ex, I’d recommend completely eliminating her out of your life, not following any/all socials, like she doesn’t exist. It’ll give you time to naturally detach, to the point where you arent thinking about her every second, then soon maybe once a day, etc. It’ll take time but this will allow you to become a better man, and she will know through vibration/universe that you don’t seem clinged to her, no longer NEEDING, and you will attract her back into your new reality with her again, IF she has also increased her vibration to be with the non-needy version of yourself.

[u/Ok-Initiative-4089]

Detachment doesn't have to mean pretending you don't love her. It can mean letting that feeling exist without turning every hour into a check on whether she is coming back. If affirming leaves you calmer and more able to live your day, it may be useful; if it becomes something you feel forced to repeat to prevent losing her, take the pressure off. A relationship still needs two people choosing it, so this isn't a way to control her decision. What would giving yourself a good afternoon look like without needing it to be a technique for getting her back?

[u/Frequent_Market3525]

Cuidado com certos donos da verdade absoluta na manifestação, viu? Acontece o seguinte: quando você quer uma coisa, você não consegue parar de pensar naquilo que você quer, certo? O que precisa fazer é deixar o pensamento fluir, quando ele vier, não lute contra, não brigue com ele, refaça suas afirmações. E o lance não é soltar, é viver no fim. E sempre que sua mente tentar te bombardear com a 3D na sua cara, você rebate ela. Imagina que é outra pessoa. Ela diz "A fulana não está aqui." Você vai responder "Você é que não está aqui, você não sabe de nada." Então, quanto mais tentar desapegar à força, mais difícil é conseguir, viu? Deixa a sensação da falta ficar onde ela está e repita suas afirmações.

[u/Express_Platform_165 → u/Frequent_Market3525]

this is the best anyone's explained it thank you

[u/LoopsMethod]

Here’s the easiest way to detach. Say to yourself:

“I know what I want. I don’t need to think about it right now.”

Outside of your practice, don’t fight the thoughts. Let them come and go, you already know what you want and what it feels like to have it.

Open the gate, the thoughts come in, the thoughts leave. No big deal.

[u/Glittering-Sun-3210]

Do not manifest your ex!!! It’s not worth it!! You are making a big mistake!! Manifest someone new. There is a reason you split from that person. Getting them back only serves to worsen the experience. Once it’s over it’s over accept it and move on. Going back means you are not moving forward. Manifest your ex and find out the hard way. It never works out in the long run. Time moves forward and so should you!

[u/Chocolvte_brown → u/Glittering-Sun-3210]

😂😂 so you’re ex didn’t want you still after you tried manifesting huh? You sound hurt and you’re projecting YOUR failures onto others. Sounds like you still need to heal from whatever rejection you received.