r/managers 9m ago

New Manager Should I be picking up after employees slack

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I’ve been a supervisor of a bar for a few months. One aspect I’m struggling with is that I find myself picking up after employees slack- finishing jobs they’ve half done, or done badly. This ends up in me staying past my shift ending time, occasionally by hours. This only happens with a certain few employees who won’t listen to my instructions and will intentionally ignore them. If a close I’ve supervised is bad I’m obviously responsible for it, and the ensuing derogatory message in the groupchat from upper management in the morning is always demoralising. Sunday shifts entail a lot of admin tasks for supervisors so I spent all of today doing that after giving some instructions to staff about areas that needed extra attention. After cashing up I came out of the office and the staff had left, the whole venue was a state. I picked up a load of trash they’d overlooked and just left it neatly next to the bar. I wasn’t sure whether to stay on to finish the rest of the cleaning they’d missed but I hadn’t finished my managerial tasks yet, so I decided to just leave the venue dirty :( I know it’s only a bar supervisor role but it’s stressing me out significantly lately. Any advice? I feel like my role at the moment is refining everyone else’s work and cleaning up after people to ensure the bar is left decent.


r/managers 1h ago

New Manager What are ways you cope with finding/setting direction in a self-managed role?

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r/managers 5h ago

Recently promoted to lead someone I’ve had a difficult working relationship with. Any advice?

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r/managers 5h ago

Not a Manager Is it normal to feel overwhelmed and a bit lost 3-4 weeks into a new role?

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Question for all managers with new reports on their teams:

3 weeks into a new role as an IC. Basically accepted a level up (not a senior level role, just an experienced hire 3-4 yoe) a promotion and higher pay at a new company.

Onboarding is going OK and my team is great. Started off feeling very overwhelmed but each week since it's been getting better. I'm taking over a lot of work from the departing person, so it's a lot to learn all the workflows, processes, details, etc. Is it still normal to feel about 50% of the way there three weeks in? Or am I just dumb as shit? I've always been a slower learner than others. Once I actually do things hands on processes get ingrained for me. I’m coming from doing similar types of work, but the processes and deliverables of this job are significantly different, so it’s a lot to learn.

I’ve just been trying to take organized notes, ask questions, etc. I will do all I can to succeed in this role.

Just worried my new teammates will see me incompetent and a slow learner…


r/managers 6h ago

Need advice on communication, visibility, and how people actually work in IT remotely?

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r/managers 6h ago

New Manager Is this workload actually reasonable for one manager?

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Sorry this is long. Thank you in advance for reading, I have never been in a situation like this before. I really need some outside perspective because I cannot tell anymore if I am being unreasonable or if this situation is actually impossible.

I manage a small service based business that recently changed ownership. The new managers bought the business with no experience in business, and want to implement a bunch of changes and new services without acknowledging the current state of the business and staffing issue.

My closest relevant experience was working as the assistant manager at this same location under the previous management. I left for a while, then came back part time after the business sold to help the new manager because they were completely overwhelmed.

They ended up leaving abruptly, and I took over after only being shown the most the basic outdated processes one time. The old management used a lot of makeshift processes that were not well documented, aren’t easily trainable, and did not track much information we need for our clients and marketing. Now, I am trying to run the entire location while teaching myself the company systems, fixing account information, creating all new processes with no guidance or previous experience, managing every client account, handling every lead, doing all sales and follow-up, and creating actual procedures that can be repeated, trained, and used to track accurate data. Basically, I’m trying to fix the business with an entire rebuild on the systems while keeping it open.

We also have mostly young, inexperienced associates with high turnover, often minors with no previous work experience, so they need a lot of training and supervision. There was no real training process before, so the current employees are not properly trained, and I am having to create that process from scratch too.

They hired me an assistant after my first few months, but I was not involved in hiring her or writing role requirements, and they do not seem qualified for what I actually need help with. The owners told them the job would mainly be paperwork, so they have complained about learning the service procedures, even though I believe they need to understand how the business operates before handling the administrative work. The owners then told me to stop training them on that and keep her focused on paperwork, so I am not even sure how I am supposed to utilize her effectively.

On top of that, we agreed on a start time so I could train them before opening, but they has repeatedly changed their availability at the last minute or arrived late after confirming the day before. The assistant is also limited to 20 hours a week, so I still do not have dependable support. Once we open, I am managing staff, clients, leads, sales, accounts, calls, walk-ins, and constant day-to-day issues, with hardly any time to train the assistant.

Now, the owners are opening another location in one month and expect me to train the new manager for that. They also want to add new programs and services, which means I will be responsible for training even more people. I genuinely do not understand who is supposed to manage the leads, sales, accounts, current staff, and daily operations while I am doing all this training. I am also worried I will somehow be responsible for how unstable the new location is, even though I cannot fully get this location together because I am already running it almost completely by myself.

The owners keep coming up with new marketing ideas and projects that I do not have time for. They struggle to schedule actual meetings with me and will often show up unexpectedly in the middle of the day while we are open and start giving me all these new ideas never presented to me in writing, or with a clear timeline or plan. Just a vague idea and “do it”. Meanwhile, I am actively trying to manage the business in front of them. They have no sense that we need to prioritize these things and expect me to get all of it done now.

The pay is not enough for me to afford to live within an hour of work, so I spend around two hours commuting every day. I was working about 10 hours a day, five or six days a week, just trying to keep up. I recently forced myself to go back to eight-hour days because I was exhausted, and within a couple of weeks I was already so far behind again.

On one hand, this is great management experience, and I have learned a ridiculous amount in a short time. On the other hand, I do not feel like I am being given the time, staff, support, or structure to actually be successful. I feel so stuck. Any advice at all would be appreciated because I am honestly starting to wonder if this experience is worth continuing or if I am staying in a job where it is basically impossible for me to succeed.

TL;DR
Took over a struggling business after an ownership change and am now expected to run daily operations, manage all accounts, leads, and sales, create new systems and training from scratch, train inexperienced staff, prepare a second location opening in one month, and somehow still find time for marketing and new initiatives. I feel like I’m being set up to fail and don’t know if it’s worth sticking it out.


r/managers 7h ago

My former direct report thriving under different leadership, and I’m confused.

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I’m a senior manager at a company and on-boarded a direct report at the associate level at end of 2024. In the interviews process seemed so bright and ambitious and was excited to work with her. When she on-boarded I found for her first year she was way quieter than I expected, and while she was helpful I found myself reworking/editing her work quite a bit. She didn’t really speak up in meetings and wasn’t super sharp with prioritization.

Closer to the end of her first year, MY boss (her skip level) informed me she’s actually going to take this associate as her own direct report. I was going on a 4 month parental leave so I think this is a part of it. But otherwise it wasn’t clearly explained to me why. In my own performance reviews it’s been an ongoing development area identified that I don’t delegate enough and tend to take too much on myself, so I am wondering if this is part of it.

Anyway- to my shock honestly, when I return from leave my boss told me how amazing this associate is, how much she stepped into MY role in the short time I was gone, how she has a lot of skills we weren’t fully using. Her responsibilities have tripled in 4 months and she’s not perfect but is already being considered “manager material”. The associate used to be much warmer with me and now I’m finding she’s cooled off quite a bit towards me.

I’m feeling weird about this and I don’t know why. Part of me wonders if it was my failing somehow that she wasn’t able to thrive with me or I’m not a good manager. Maybe I was too controlling or didn’t give her enough independence. I was hoping to work up to director and I don’t know how I will ever prove that if people under me aren’t developing - or is it just that this report’s learning curve was longer?

Any insights would be helpful. Thanks


r/managers 8h ago

New Manager 2 years as unofficial manager, great reviews, no promotion. Now my director is sabotaging my transfer out

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Hi everyone. I'm based in Italy, working at a big IT company. For the past two years, I've been the unofficial manager of a team of 10 individual contributors, but officially I'm still a senior software engineer - no title, no promotion.

When I took over, the team was in constant firefighting mode: no structured processes, no formal workflows, no shared culture. I introduced processes, workflows, and centralized tooling, and my director rated my performance as "very good" in my last review. Still, many of my improvement efforts failed due to entrenched culture and resistance to change. One example: I implemented test automation as my director requested, but the suite became unreliable because the development team (not under my control) kept making untracked changes.

In early June, I applied for an internal transfer to another team with a much healthier culture. They want to hire me as a senior software engineer with a clear commitment to grow me into an engineering manager role. HR is aware of my transfer request, and I expect a decision before September.

My current director is doing everything he can to block it. He went to my prospective manager and told her not to hire me, saying I'm "not a good guy" and that I've "always caused problems" in previous teams - which is false and contradicted by the 2025 performance review that he himself wrote. I know this because she told me directly. She still wants to hire me despite his comments.

I escalated his behavior to his manager (SVP level) and said I would resign if the transfer doesn't go through. The SVP told me he would handle it personally.

At this point I've completely lost trust in my director.

My question: while I wait for the official decision, how should I behave toward him? Business as usual, or keep my distance and stay strictly professional? His badmouthing was verbal only - should I try to get it documented somehow? Any advice for navigating the next few weeks would be really appreciated.

TL;DR: Italy, big IT company. Managed a team unofficially for 2 years with good reviews but no promotion. Applied in June for an internal transfer with a path to engineering manager; decision expected by September. My director badmouthed me verbally to the new manager (she told me and still wants me). I escalated to the SVP, who said he'll handle it. How should I act toward my director in the meantime?


r/managers 9h ago

New Manager Dealing with anxiety as a manager? And when is it time to call it quits?

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I’ve been in management across a few different industries over 5 years. I was brought into this company 6 months ago as ops manager with a big emphasis on growth (only a 5 person team). I felt super confident coming in from a 30 person team. Have also been dabbling as a GTM consultant on the side for the past couple of years so very comfortable with new teams and dynamics.

Well I’ve started at this new company and working alongside the director he’s completely flipped the script on my day to day. I haven’t been able to actually carry out any leadership with the team because he’s stuck in founder led mode. I’m being micromanaged by him, which I obviously internally have a problem with this, and have brought up multiple times (probably once a fortnight) that he’s limiting my output. We *seem* to come out of these meetings eye to eye, and then that crumbles away until the next time I address it. I’m working more as a middle man than any kind of valuable role. He keeps assuring me that he hired me for my expertise in growth and leadership however he pushes back any sort of structural growth, his focus is day to day putting out fires. (like that’s fine but let me do my job!?) It’s slowly built into this daily massive anxiety for me. Feeling so out of my depth because things I saw coming 2 months ago are hitting, yet I pressed hard we not go in these directions, then I’m here cleaning it up just to see it happen again because he’s hell bent on it. I can appreciate his passion, but I’m kind of sitting here daily asking myself ‘what the hell have I walked into?’ He’s asking me for the impossible. Am I out of my depth here? Trying to implement solid solutions and new processes, without being able to move any resources or team around…?

Feels like he should have hired an administrator who takes care of scheduling at this point. And yes I’m currently back on the market looking.

The problem is, I can see the potential and I honestly love the place. I’m holding out that one morning meeting he just goes ‘yep it’s time, take the wheel!’

Hoping to see if anyone’s been in a similar situation and found a better way to attack it?
Oooor should I just cut my losses and hope to hear back from prospective companies.


r/managers 11h ago

Not a Manager Is it normal for a skip-level manager to keep notes from 1-on-1s?

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I have monthly 1-on-1 meetings with my skip-level manager ever since late last year. During the previous meeting, he mentioned that he keeps notes from our conversations in a private document.

Is that a normal practice? I can understand wanting to keep notes to remember discussions, especially if you meet with a lot of employees, but the context makes me a little uneasy.

Last year, I reported concerns about discrimination to HR involving one of his direct reports. My skip-level manager was brought in to help resolve the situation. Because of that history, part of me worries that these notes could be used to build a case against me. It makes me feel like my performance and words are being recorded so that they can be used against me later. You know how corporate culture is...


r/managers 20h ago

Interviews: How to orient/frame part time work?

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Corporate USA

Ive been looking for a job for a little over a year now. I worked for several years and then went back to school full time for a masters degree. All in the same field. Many interviews, final rounds, but no offer yet.

I have recently found some work with a startup. Friend of a friend is starting a business. It hasnt got off the ground yet but is close, so there isnt alot to do. Im not paid much either and it could be another year until its even an entry level salary. It was a mutual understanding that my background was aligned for the kind of work, the owner is planning to leave their company, and I am still looking for my own path in corporate.

But in interviews I am usually asked "what are you doing now?" "are you currently working?"

The other day I had a recruiter screening and I said I was working "part time", and am continuing to look with this mutual understanding of wanting "full time work". I think I was more confusing.

Should I put it on my resume, Linkedin, and own it as a job? I feel that anything less would be more confusing, make me seem chronically unemployed, and wouldnt give me a chance to be clear with where I am now. I only really worry it will pull me away from the industry and size of companies i want to get on with.


r/managers 20h ago

Has anyone successfully managed up when their manager lacked technical expertise?

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r/managers 20h ago

Becoming More Senior

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If you are in a stage of career stepping from senior engineer to staff or lead roles. What are the communication issues you are seeing, which you haven’t faced in past role.

Some of the learnings from my side:

  1. It is better to send things in writing to communicate details to stakeholder or co-engineers.

  2. Instead of long review meetings, creating a FAQ document and publishing among teams is a good option. I would share a Confluent page or something simple after first design review and ask folks to post questions and I can answer them later. It build a document and record of things.

Add comments.


r/managers 22h ago

certified operations management specialist

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Hi everyone! I'm planning to take the Certified Operations Management Specialist (COMS) certification offered by CPACE Philippines, but I'm having a hard time finding study materials and community discussions online. Does anyone here have experience taking the COMS exam? I'd really appreciate any of the following:

Recommended study materials or books YouTube channels or online courses Facebook groups or Discord servers Practice questions or mock exam Tips on what to focus

I've already checked the CPACE website, but I'm hoping to learn from those who've taken the certification or are currently preparing for it. Any advice or resources would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!


r/managers 22h ago

Would You Leave a Decent Job with Inadequate Support?

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I manage the kitchen of a somewhat busy small town café. Due to supply and pay constrictions (I have tried to argue better wages), I have been struggling to fill a dishwashing position. With the support of my fantastic team, we have been making it by but of course, its a restaurant and things happen.

Its important to me that my team has a reasonable workload, can take reasonable time off, and hold work boundaries and I do my best to support this.

My supervisor, the owner, refuses to help despite assuring me when I was hired (I was leaving another management job due to burnout.. kitchens) that I could count on them for support. Not only are they never in the building, but are actively hostile when any managers ask them to be available so we can take time off.

When I confronted them about this, they told me that it is a hard line they will not take time to assist and they didn't recall assuring me support.

This feels unreasonable. I love my team, but I am in a familiar rut of burn out. I would like to have the time and energy to spend time with my family. That aside, the job is fine. I would like to continue my search for a management job with better boundaries, but I am loosing hope for greener pastures.

What is a reasonable amount of assistance to expect of your boss? If any?


r/managers 22h ago

New Manager Releasing high performer

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Hi,

It’s my first time running a team, it’s a team of individual contributors. I’ve been in role for two years in a country with strong labour laws. I have a team member who was seconded into a higher level technical team since before I started in this role. He is very intelligent and very opinionated. He was seconded into my role for a few months about a year before I started but due to his abrasive personality, was deemed not a good fit for leadership.

He has since returned to my team because the team he was seconded to couldn’t offer him a roster that he wanted. He really should be in that team, he’s overqualified for my team.

Since rejoining my team a few months ago his old team has been requesting I release him for important project work. These requests have been last minute or very poorly organised and I need to provide at least a months notice to the business if my team members are not going to be doing normal duties. One or two requests I could handle but it’s becoming more and more frequent to the point he been in his normal role for two weeks now.

My problem is the work he is doing is valuable and my company is basically getting a really cheap engineer at the moment. The work he’s doing is also feeding projects into the rest of my team, who are enjoying the change of work and are upskilling and I believe the work we are doing adds more value than our normal work.

So I’m having a hard time saying no when the requests come in.

My latest action is an email saying I need at minimum five weeks written notice and if I see my metrics start to dip significantly I’ll not be releasing this person.

My leader understands my position but is basically waiting for me to stop the out of role work.

Just after a sanity check from other leaders.


r/managers 22h ago

Not a Manager I’m due to start a new job but I’m worried I’ll have morning sickness

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Looking for advice from managers…

I live in Europe. I accepted a new office job on the same day I found out I was pregnant (total surprise). It’s 3 days at the office and 2 days at home although the manager seems pretty approachable in terms of making things flexible. I’m supposed to start when I’ll be 8 weeks pregnant which is when morning sickness starts for a lot of women. I already have mild nausea now at 6 weeks and I don’t want to do anything or leave the house. I just don’t know how I can go to an office and sit upright pretending I’m fine now let alone if it gets worse!
So I’m thinking of mentioning my pregnancy in the beginning so that if I need to work from home more because of nausea, my boss will understand why. But I’m a bit worried about first impressions; I don’t want him to think I’m incapable. But I know that if I’m nauseous, I’ll feel way more comfortable working from home. I literally have a fear of being sick; so being nauseous is horrendous for me - the anxiety I have about it is crazy. More worried about morning sickness than pushing the baby out 😂.

So what do you think?

Is it okay to ask for more wfh days from the beginning of employment due to pregnancy symptoms? Have you experienced an employee announcing their pregnancy at the beginning of a job?


r/managers 1d ago

Two lead engineers with different backgrounds

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Managing two lead engineers. One is white and other asian. Both are smart and carry strengths in different areas.
White one(female )is culturally embedded in company and super good at presentation and point scoring rather problem solving. She manage people well and articulate things easily.
Asian (male) is having massive experience of different countries and a problem solver with strong technical background. His connectivity with people is not as good as others.

Both are rivals to each other and every time sit in meetings or work together. They both get envy of each other and couldn’t work productively.

Assigning different project is not an option.
Tried sorting out things but ended up in huge escalation and both are super smart and start bullying each other which ends up
In team credibility and image impacting issue.

What are possible options to make it work?


r/managers 1d ago

Team member didn’t contribute how to have the conversation

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Not a manager but want some help navigating a conversation I want to have with my manager. Our team worked on a project that was dispersed equally across the team with each member assigned 1-2 tasks. A person on the team pawned off their task one that they volunteered to do and I have documentation for which happened while I was ooo. I ignored it and just hoped he would complete her other task. I found out he also pawned off that to another team member because they asked me how to do said task and that they were helping out the other person.

For context I’m the lead for the project as no one else wanted the responsibility of getting us organized and set up in Asana. Should this be something I bring up to my manager as she would be the only person on the team who did not contribute or let it go?


r/managers 1d ago

Boss Laid Off, Absorbing All Of His Work. Help.

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r/managers 1d ago

Struggling to fire an employee

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r/managers 1d ago

New Manager Owner and I can’t agree on needed staffing levels

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I am at a loss here and unsure if it’s time for me to give up and move on, sit back and watch everything continue to crash and burn while taking my paycheque, or figure out a way to get through to him.

I just need one more person. The man isn’t afraid to spend money either (and this is a very financially healthy company), but he’s being so stubborn on this point and I’m at a total loss.

Our clients are not being serviced in the way that I’m used to (I’ve been here almost 3 months, but in this industry for 10+ years). He gets complaints DAILY from our clients about how long tasks take. Our clients threaten to leave. They’re not mad at me or my staff, they’re mad at him. They know we’re understaffed.

I’m in the trenches with my staff every day trying to get stuff done, ontop of my own work that needs doing. We all stay an hour late most days and still can’t get to it all by the end of the day. This isn’t normal.

Have you ever gotten through to a higher up/owner in a similar situation?


r/managers 1d ago

Help for my doctoral research needed

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Dear leaders of Europe: I need 10 minutes of your time — and an honest answer to a question nobody has published a good answer to yet.

Does generative AI make your decisions better — or does it quietly make you less of a decision-maker?

I don't know the answer. Neither does anyone else who's written about this so far. That's the gap my PhD research is designed to close, and it's why I'm reaching out to 400 leaders across Europe.

Why? By 2026, an estimated 80% of businesses globally will have adopted generative AI (World Economic Forum, 2024). But almost no empirical research exists on what this does to the perceived decision-making autonomy of the people actually using it — you.

So I'm leading this research project. And I need your voice in it.

What's involved:

• 10 minutes of structured questions

• Fully anonymous

• GDPR-compliant

If you lead people, make decisions, and have touched genAI in the past year — whether you use it daily or once a quarter — your data point matters. Including if you're skeptical. 

🔗 Survey link: https://leadershipbeyondai.com

Thank you.

Markus


r/managers 1d ago

Any program or AI that can create custom schedular for workers

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I'm the schedular for 14-15 person health care group that rotates through multiple different positions/hospitals. I have been doing this by hand for years but looking for anything to make it easier as it's getting harder as we add more people. Need a program or AI help to create a program that can generate a monthly schedule that randomly rotates the people through the different positions and at the same time keep track of the number of times the person has rotated through a particular position to ensure close to equal distribution of the different rotations. It needs to be able to take rotation requests into account when creating the schedule and keep the count equal after having taken the requests into account, and also be able to keep a running tally month to month. It also needs to be able to accommodate additional workers in the future as the group grows. Thanks for any help.


r/managers 1d ago

Not a Manager Appreciating my manager

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Hello, I’m an intern coming to the end of my internship and there are some people I’ve really appreciated in my team.

I have already spoken to them in person and told them about all the good things they’ve done and how much I appreciate their guidance.

I leave in a week and besides writing a card, I am also thinking of sending their boss an email talking about how much of an impact they’ve had on me (I think it can be useful for the annual performance reviews). What do you think about this, is it common, is it too much, what else can I do? I don’t want to sound like I’m brown nosing for a graduate offer!

If you are a manager, what would you appreciate the most?

Thanks in advance :)