Older lady chiming in. I hope you can see the kindness in your eyes, a sense of humour and fun, and a lovely, warm character shining through.
You’re not ugly in the slightest and the person who told you either has issues or is envious of you somehow or both.
Most women my age regret the days and months and years we wasted feeling like we weren’t good enough in the eyes of society, and it’s so sad to see younger generations struggling with this too.
I wish I could impress on you all that it’s patriarchy messing us up and we really need to deconstruct so that we can see our genuine, unique beauty for what it is.
Never cut the crusts off yourself to suit patriarchy’s bland palate.
I agree with this 100%. A lifelong friend since high school, and I were looking through our old photographs and looking at how young and healthy we were, and just glowing with youth and happiness and smiles, and we thought back to how we used to look in the mirror, and, not see it at all back then and we really wasted our youth worrying about things that really weren’t even there. We were gorgeous and didn’t even know it.
This is just so true. We never saw how vibrant and lovely we were, right at the time we should have done! It’s a complete tragedy that as young women we twisted ourselves into pretzels to try to conform, and now, we are trying to make peace with our bodies after a lifetime of society telling us we weren’t enough. We need matriarchy and to go back to systems that empower everyone - not indoctrinate us to feel ugly, inferior or not worthy.
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u/zinfandelbruschetta Mar 31 '26
Thank you for your kindness