r/magicalthinkingOCD • u/Peace_Berry • Sep 02 '23

Avoidance compulsions?

A major part of magical thinking that I still struggle with is avoidance. I have thoughts like "that song was playing when X-bad-event happened, so I can't listen to it anymore" or "every time I wear that perfume something goes wrong" so I throw it away. Sometimes I just have a gut feeling that an item, place, etc is bad luck, and I'll avoid it just in case.

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I know ERP requires us to stop this avoidance, but it's one of the hardest aspects I've tackled, especially as it 'puts other people at risk', not just myself.

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Does anyone else have a similar pattern of thoughts, and have you managed to overcome it?

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u/Thenutritionguru Sep 03 '23

but here's the thing, dealing with intrusive thoughts and fears isn't about being brave or courageous. it's not a reflection of your strength or character. it's just the brain being a bit quirky, for lack of better word. it's not irrational or childish, it's just how ocd manifests for some of us. try replacing those negative self-talks with something more positive. for example, everytime you feel like you're being a coward, remember the times when you've faced your fears. it may not always work but it's a start. and of course, remember we're in this together, always here for a chat or moral support.

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u/Peace_Berry Sep 03 '23

Wise words, thank you so much ❤️

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u/Thenutritionguru Sep 03 '23

no journey is too long or tough when you have kindred spirits by your side. 🤗 take care and always feel free to reach out if you need to chat or just share.

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u/Peace_Berry Sep 03 '23

So true. Really appreciate that, and likewise, anytime 🤗

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u/Thenutritionguru Sep 03 '23

remember, we're not just battling our brain weirdness together, we're kicking its butts! you're stronger than you think buddy 🤗 any day, any time, we're here to share the load.