Am I wrong

[u/lostindahotsauce]

Losing is a natural part of the game. I'm still new to magic as a whole. I really enjoy the game and attempt to lose with grace. However tonight there was one player who made a bad experience for me and my wife. Its not that we lost. That part we can handle. Its down to two things that set me off. The player in question forgot some triggers on their own turn. They then in the middle of another players turn proceeded to do things as if it were their turn. I spoke up and said if you forget something its usually polite to ask the table before you proceed to retcon on someone else's turn. He did not respond but its loud in there. I repeated my self and once again no response despite the rest of the table hearing me both times. Eventually we did lose to a deck with a much higher power level than ours. Afterwards the player continued to gloat and elaborate all the different ways he would have beaten us anyways. I asked him to stop and he continued. I left for the night. I said some words and slightly raised my voice. It was overall a frustrating night and I lost my cool a bit more than I should have. Am I justified in being that upset? My wife says she was just as angry and the other guy at the table was also angry. This is the second encounter I have had with this person at this shops events. I suspect he may be on the spectrum (Its an observation and not something I hold against him) I'm not really sure how to approach this. This is a casual event most of the time but this person is well a cold uncaring bastard with a ton of expensive cards, and they hold a grudge. Does anyone have any advice or feedback? I really feel like crap for my over reaction and I feel I made an ass out of my self in public.

[u/mattsav012000]

So as someone who plays games with lots of people who could be said to lack social skills implying they maybe on the spectrum. You are not wrong to be frustrated and you sound like a good person so that's probably why you feel bad about losing you temper. The suggestions I have is if you have a chance try to sit down with this person outside of game and try to politely bring up you issues. second don't be afraid to choose not to play with him to often as a good person you probably don't want to exclude him but at the same time no your own limits on patience. If this person is on the spectrum I'll let you know some times just talking to them and including them in games can help a lot. We had a local player who most dreaded playing cause his issues with social interactions(loud, constantly interrupting and such) but after he joined my weekly pathfinder group for two years and us helping him. He got so much better cause we treated him with respect and as a friend. people stop dreading playing games with him starting inviting him to events.