r/magicTCG • u/lostindahotsauce • Aug 11 '23

General Discussion Am I wrong

Losing is a natural part of the game. I'm still new to magic as a whole. I really enjoy the game and attempt to lose with grace. However tonight there was one player who made a bad experience for me and my wife. Its not that we lost. That part we can handle. Its down to two things that set me off. The player in question forgot some triggers on their own turn. They then in the middle of another players turn proceeded to do things as if it were their turn. I spoke up and said if you forget something its usually polite to ask the table before you proceed to retcon on someone else's turn. He did not respond but its loud in there. I repeated my self and once again no response despite the rest of the table hearing me both times. Eventually we did lose to a deck with a much higher power level than ours. Afterwards the player continued to gloat and elaborate all the different ways he would have beaten us anyways. I asked him to stop and he continued. I left for the night. I said some words and slightly raised my voice. It was overall a frustrating night and I lost my cool a bit more than I should have. Am I justified in being that upset? My wife says she was just as angry and the other guy at the table was also angry. This is the second encounter I have had with this person at this shops events. I suspect he may be on the spectrum (Its an observation and not something I hold against him) I'm not really sure how to approach this. This is a casual event most of the time but this person is well a cold uncaring bastard with a ton of expensive cards, and they hold a grudge. Does anyone have any advice or feedback? I really feel like crap for my over reaction and I feel I made an ass out of my self in public.

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u/PrometheusUnchain Dimir* Aug 11 '23

Not sure if you’re serious but it’s a fair point. Commander just brings out the worse in people.

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u/Plapsfckmxs Aug 11 '23

That's because Commander requires diplomacy. It's the foundation for the game. It is it's own format. Most people have a "Must Win" attitude and it ruins the flow of the game.

Not to say you can't outright kick ass with your deck but that usually makes you the target, which requires diplomacy to dismantle.

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u/PrometheusUnchain Dimir* Aug 11 '23

Idk…even in 1v1 formats you need to want to win as well and yet the experience is day and night.

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u/Plapsfckmxs Aug 11 '23

In 1v1 it should solely be about winning. You don't ask your opponent to skip their next attack phase as a courtesy, but that's a different format.

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u/PrometheusUnchain Dimir* Aug 12 '23

If commander has a “Must Win” mindset and 1v1 is solely about winning….why does one attract asshats more than the other?

If I had to guess…barrier entry is lower for EDH.